Would it be weird to ask future boss to grab coffee before start date?

[Anonymous]

I accepted a job offer yesterday and don't start for 2 months. It's a remote role with the other team members being dispersed throughout the country, but my future boss and I just coincidentally live in the same city. Would it be weird to send her an email and say I'm excited to join the team and would love to meet for coffee prior to my start date? All of my interviews were virtual so we haven't met in person.

[Anonymous]

Seems fine to me.

[Anonymous]

It could go either way. I would maybe wait until you start and then lightly say we live so close, we should meet up sometime! They might perceive it as showing favoritism to you so I would leave it to them to invite you and just kind of hint you're open to it.

[Anonymous]

I'm cringing just reading this.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I was thinking it would be nice to meet in person, but point taken.

[Anonymous]

It's not unprofessional to grab coffee. In fact, it's a common way to do informational interviews and to network more generally. It certainly wouldn't be weird to ask your soon to be boss if they have time for a coffee.

The responses here are incredibly bizarre. The sexist statement about going shopping too is over the top and makes me question how trashy that poster is.

[Anonymous]

People seem very uptight. I think you could reach out shortly before you start and ask if there is anything you should connect on before your start date. Say you are happy to talk on phone or could meet for a quick coffee in person. I think you will just seem excited about the job and ready to hit the ground running.

When I changed jobs, my new manager reached out to me about getting lunch before I started bc we live in the same town (though it's a mostly remote job). We talked about work + non-work stuff and it was nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not unprofessional to grab coffee. In fact, it's a common way to do informational interviews and to network more generally. It certainly wouldn't be weird to ask your soon to be boss if they have time for a coffee.

The responses here are incredibly bizarre. The sexist statement about going shopping too is over the top and makes me question how trashy that poster is.

OP's manager doesn't want to socialize with them.

[Anonymous]

Oh, I would actually like this! It shows initiative and interest. I would love to hear that someone reached out to their new boss at my firm!

- CEO of a small consulting firm

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised at the reaction here. I'm as anti-social as they come and would hate this, but even I think the request is not that crazy. DCUM is usually all about connecting in person and striving and trying to get a leg up with the boss any way you can.

[Anonymous]

I’d be worried about doing something stupid that would make the boss rethink the offer before I had a chance to show my work product!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I would actually like this! It shows initiative and interest. I would love to hear that someone reached out to their new boss at my firm!

- CEO of a small consulting firm

The higher ranking person should do the reaching out.

[Anonymous]

baffled by the quick and blunt "no" chorus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I would actually like this! It shows initiative and interest. I would love to hear that someone reached out to their new boss at my firm!

- CEO of a small consulting firm

The higher ranking person should do the reaching out.

This.

[Anonymous]

I would think you have too much time on your hands, OP.