What do you think of adults who never learned to drive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do wonder about the couples where one person doesn't drive, not due to disability or other obvious reason. Do they just rely on their partners to do all of the things that involve driving? What is they have kids? It seems in those cases like the couple has agreed that one of them is allowed to be a juvenile, in essence.

What about couples where one person is not working? Or not doing any cleaning/cooking/laundry? Not doing any home repairs? Are you considering that person a juvenile?

[Anonymous]

That they still have some growing up to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is wild to me. All of you associating the ability to operate a single type of machine with maturity. Do you have a similar level of judgement on people who don’t go to college? Don’t own houses in their own names? Hire other people to do their taxes? Don’t have a passport?

The only place where I see that there is a maturity issue is when a person has access to a car, does not have a disability or some PTSD-like issue, and lives outside of an area with tons of public transportation. Particularly if they have a spouse. Just seems like weaponized incompetence.

If someone knows they lack the skills to drive safely, why do they need to pay thousands of dollars out of pocket and get a neuropsych eval or something to get a diagnosis? Just to satisfy you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is wild to me. All of you associating the ability to operate a single type of machine with maturity. Do you have a similar level of judgement on people who don’t go to college? Don’t own houses in their own names? Hire other people to do their taxes? Don’t have a passport?

The only place where I see that there is a maturity issue is when a person has access to a car, does not have a disability or some PTSD-like issue, and lives outside of an area with tons of public transportation. Particularly if they have a spouse. Just seems like weaponized incompetence.

If someone knows they lack the skills to drive safely, why do they need to pay thousands of dollars out of pocket and get a neuropsych eval or something to get a diagnosis? Just to satisfy you?

Yes. That is exactly what I am suggesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do wonder about the couples where one person doesn't drive, not due to disability or other obvious reason. Do they just rely on their partners to do all of the things that involve driving? What is they have kids? It seems in those cases like the couple has agreed that one of them is allowed to be a juvenile, in essence.

What about couples where one person is not working? Or not doing any cleaning/cooking/laundry? Not doing any home repairs? Are you considering that person a juvenile?

Does the person know HOW to cook/clean/laundry? If no, then yes I think they are juvenile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a relative like this, and we recently went on vacation. I ended up being annoyed by it because driving in an unfamiliar (foreign) locale is stressful, meanwhile she was the passenger princess playing on her phone while I was navigating intense traffic etc. I love her but she is a passive person (life happens "to" her) and it's kind of entitled to let everyone around her bear the brunt of driving.

She says she's getting her drivers license this year. We'll see.

Imagine if Americans realized the solution to this problem is not for everyone to drive, but to invest in safe, reliable, and efficient public transportation…

[Anonymous]

Tbh I think they are losers

[Anonymous]

My sister learned to drive with me but never mastered the skills necessary to pass the license test. She also did not have regular access to a car. I only got my license because my college boyfriend let me use his car to practice and pass the test. I think my parents, especially my father, didn't really want his two middle daughters to drive since it would mean extra expense in gas and insurance. I still have anxiety about driving in unfamiliar, busy areas as a result but made sure my kids don't.

[Anonymous]

They often have driving anxiety, which gets worse as you age. Best to master driving when you are young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do wonder about the couples where one person doesn't drive, not due to disability or other obvious reason. Do they just rely on their partners to do all of the things that involve driving? What is they have kids? It seems in those cases like the couple has agreed that one of them is allowed to be a juvenile, in essence.

What about couples where one person is not working? Or not doing any cleaning/cooking/laundry? Not doing any home repairs? Are you considering that person a juvenile?

Does the person know HOW to cook/clean/laundry? If no, then yes I think they are juvenile.

Mom!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned how to drive after I had kids. There's really no excuse for an adult not driving. It wasn't easy, and I failed a few times, but I made myself drive around the block daily, and years later I can drive anywhere.

I am not a great driver, but I am safe. And i have seen that people who don't drive lose agency over their lives.

Bolded statement is delusional.

[Anonymous]

My 22 yo child still doesn’t drive. Too busy in high school to get around to it and we live in DC so they had options. Then college in NYC as well as now living and working there.

[Anonymous]

So many trolls in this post.

I don't think about it honestly, but with your question what came to mind is neurodiversity and/or anxiety as being reasons why - outside of living in a large city and not needing to. Or you could be just a sad and awful person and call these folks them "pathetic" and "losers" like some of the nasty troll posters have said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is wild to me. All of you associating the ability to operate a single type of machine with maturity. Do you have a similar level of judgement on people who don’t go to college? Don’t own houses in their own names? Hire other people to do their taxes? Don’t have a passport?

The only place where I see that there is a maturity issue is when a person has access to a car, does not have a disability or some PTSD-like issue, and lives outside of an area with tons of public transportation. Particularly if they have a spouse. Just seems like weaponized incompetence.

If someone knows they lack the skills to drive safely, why do they need to pay thousands of dollars out of pocket and get a neuropsych eval or something to get a diagnosis? Just to satisfy you?

Yes. That is exactly what I am suggesting.

LOL. No wonder our country is so screwed up! Unqualified people in every position as far as the eye can see!

Self-awareness and knowing one’s limitations is apparently entitled and juvenile according to the DCUM brain trust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do wonder about the couples where one person doesn't drive, not due to disability or other obvious reason. Do they just rely on their partners to do all of the things that involve driving? What is they have kids? It seems in those cases like the couple has agreed that one of them is allowed to be a juvenile, in essence.

It doesn't seem juvenile. Usually it would be the female not driving, which would be sexist to say it's juvenile. In one marriage where the man was much older, the woman would drive. In that case, it would seem the opposite of being juvenile.