Would you be pleased if your child had a 156 IQ?

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Anonymous wrote:This would mean that my child's IQ was another half a standard deviation above mine, which would pose particular kinds of challenges and eliminate others.

I would understand that I would likely have particular kinds of work to do as a parent that would be different from what I expect now.

"Pleased" would not be a word that would enter my mind about it. "Displeased" would not either.

It's just a different assignment.

Weird question.

Weird question from weird person

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe people have children take IQ tests. I also can’t believe so many people believe in IQ tests. They are a cousin of phrenology.

How about all of these people who claim to know their friends'/family members' IQs?

I've lived in DC for many years and have come across a number of insufferables but no one so crazy as to offer up an IQ score. Just murmerings about how brilliant the child is . . .

These oddballs have nothing else going on in their lives

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe people have children take IQ tests. I also can’t believe so many people believe in IQ tests. They are a cousin of phrenology.

How about all of these people who claim to know their friends'/family members' IQs?

I've lived in DC for many years and have come across a number of insufferables but no one so crazy as to offer up an IQ score. Just murmerings about how brilliant the child is . . .

These oddballs have nothing else going on in their lives

You sound insecure

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Sweet spot is 120-140

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Anonymous wrote:Research suggests more IQ is, on average, better in terms of long term career success and achievement. It’s not easy being super rare but the profoundly gifted contribute a lot to humankind.

Super rare? Nobody even takes IQ tests except average people straining for evidence that they’re special

Not true at all. They are a standard part of neuropsych testing – which is far more common now than it was when I was a kid. I was given an iq test to start kindergarten early, and that was 1977.

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I would not be concerned or surprised. My husband and I were both identified as gifted in early elementary and our children are following a similar path. Our older child is one of the youngest in his grade and for now that means he is getting what he needs from school. We’ve heard grumbling from other parents that their kids need more challenging work, but their kids are 9-11 months older. Our younger child is also old for his grade - Nov BD in a school with a Sept 30th cutoff. He’s very far ahead of his peers but it has not been an issue yet. I imagine he will hit a point in 3rd - 5th where he is bored. We will supplement at home.

For both kids, we try to focus them on deep knowledge rather than acceleration. It’s important to us they have a strong foundation in core skills and also learn study habits, executive functioning, project management, etc. I think the parents we know who claim their kids are not challenged are usually looking for acceleration and that’s how my husband and I were raised. It’s a cool party trick if your 5th grader has memorized the periodic table, that’s all it is, a trick. I’d rather my kid understands the properties of the different columns on the periodic table and could make educated guesses about the properties of an element based on its position than just be able to rattle off a list of elements.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. IQ testing was standard practice for applying to independent schools until a few years ago. Same for public gifted programs in major cities.

Thank you to the PP who wrote about contextualizing the bad and anxiety. Very helpful. Has anyone met anyone who was highly gifted and also happy go lucky?

I don’t know of any schools or gifted that are giving kids IQ tests.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Research suggests more IQ is, on average, better in terms of long term career success and achievement. It’s not easy being super rare but the profoundly gifted contribute a lot to humankind.

Super rare? Nobody even takes IQ tests except average people straining for evidence that they’re special

Why is that? Because of adhd diagnosis?
Not true at all. They are a standard part of neuropsych testing – which is far more common now than it was when I was a kid. I was given an iq test to start kindergarten early, and that was 1977.

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Are the VA and Moco magnets / gifted programs not administering some kind of iq tests?

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Anonymous wrote:Or would you worry that the high intelligence will almost surely come with anxiety or some other struggle? And that your child won’t be well-served in school?

Probably the latter in that they'd likely be on the spectrum, have anxiety or some other such. But, it doesn't matter either way, you get the child you get not the one you wish you got and you'll love and support them regardless.

Why on earth would you assume that someone with that high of an IQ would be "on the spectrum"?

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Anonymous wrote:Child may struggle due to his assumptions that other people’s minds work like his. Speaking with a friend about this we realized that we both have really strong memories and we can see pictures in our minds from our textbooks etc. We both assumed everyone else can do this too which makes for some interesting moments in our study groups in high school, college etc. (me: “Just close your eyes. Now what do you see?” Them: um, nothing.)

This. The working world is very difficult when you expect others to be at your level and get frustrated when they aren't.

And fwiw, an eidetic or photographic memory doesn't necessarily come along with genius-level iq.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Research suggests more IQ is, on average, better in terms of long term career success and achievement. It’s not easy being super rare but the profoundly gifted contribute a lot to humankind.

Super rare? Nobody even takes IQ tests except average people straining for evidence that they’re special

Not true at all. They are a standard part of neuropsych testing – which is far more common now than it was when I was a kid. I was given an iq test to start kindergarten early, and that was 1977.

+1. That is how I know my own, and my kids' I.Qs. I'm three standard deviations above normal. It's fine. I see and perceive things that no one else does but I understand that. My kids have done well in school and careers.

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Anonymous wrote:Or would you worry that the high intelligence will almost surely come with anxiety or some other struggle? And that your child won’t be well-served in school?

Probably the latter in that they'd likely be on the spectrum, have anxiety or some other such. But, it doesn't matter either way, you get the child you get not the one you wish you got and you'll love and support them regardless.

Why on earth would you assume that someone with that high of an IQ would be "on the spectrum"?

NP. Because they likely are. You clearly don’t know many brilliant people. They are great but difficult.

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No, I’d assume they are on the spectrum and that’s a hard life.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are kids taking IQ tests?

It's just part of a comprehensive neuropsych evaluation, which you do not show the kids.

My teen took one and he read it all. He was 16/17 so very appropriate for someone his age to know about their own strengths and weaknesses. I would only care if his IQ was that high if it caused him social/mental issues.