Would you be pleased if your child had a 156 IQ?
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Anonymous
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No because of the anxiety issue. DD has a very high IQ (not that high but 140s) and she basically remembers every bad thing ever. It's human nature to focus more on the negative and so even though she knows a lot of good things, it's really easy for her to get fixated on the negative. Her anxiety is so bad that she has an IEP for it.
I think that typically very intelligent people have to spend a lot of cognitive effort contextualizing all the bad with the good. It's not easy. |
Anonymous
It's just part of a comprehensive neuropsych evaluation, which you do not show the kids. |
Anonymous
| Agree with those who say the child needs to learn that other people will not understand things intuitively, will not learn as fast, etc. Work on patience, kindness. Be the silly person in the child's life. Pretend not to "get it" even if you do and work through the socially appropriate response to that. |
Anonymous
Is everyone getting these? Why do so many people know their kids’ IQs |
Anonymous
| Yes and no. I'd be proud but nervous for them because I think dumber people have easier lives. |
Anonymous
I imagine it's just the people who have gotten them who are responding with information about their kids' IQ. Sampling bias and all. |
Anonymous
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I have an intellectually gifted child and she doesn't actually struggle with people not being able to keep up with her. I think she finds explaining things in a way others can comprehend them an intellectual challenge she's up for. And she is really good at teaching things to people; I thinks she might actually become a teacher someday.
It's the anxiety that's killer. 
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Anonymous
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OP here. IQ testing was standard practice for applying to independent schools until a few years ago. Same for public gifted programs in major cities.
Thank you to the PP who wrote about contextualizing the bad and anxiety. Very helpful. Has anyone met anyone who was highly gifted and also happy go lucky? |
Anonymous
| I had my DC’s WPPSI done recently even though it wasn’t necessary for school apps (about half the schools were willing to take it). The most helpful element was seeing the subscores and understanding the gulf between my child’s spatial and verbal skills. It was expensive ($700) but the psychologist wrote a truly detailed report and spoke to me on the phone for 40 minutes as part of the fee. |
Anonymous
Everybody has anxiety or autism these days |
Anonymous
| The tipping point is about 140. Most of my friends/relatives fall between 130 and 160. Life is much easier for those in the 130-140 range. The truly brilliant ones really succeed if they have supportive partners who help them navigate reality a bit. But wow, what they can produce is sometimes astonishing. |
Anonymous
| How much of the problems stem from parents and teachers neglecting the whole child? Like, the kid is so academically strong nothing else is seen as a problem? |
Anonymous
| The thing is, that kid is often feeling alone because they can't find people who can talk on their same level. Sure, they can play soccer and read comics and bake and play drums, etc., but then they can't talk to their friends about anything outside of those things. Little easier as an adult, but not by much. |
Anonymous
LOL do not assume that high IQ= academically strong. But as to your point, it is always a problem when the whole child is neglected for some aspect of the child, and that does happen in the case of exceptional talents. However, high IQ is highly correlated with anxiety. Not predictive, but there is a correlation. https://psychcentral.com/anxiety/recent-research-links-anxiety-with-higher-iq |
Anonymous
| You can now have them join mensa and become more insufferable |