My sons girlfriend literally saved his life he wants to buy her a special meaningful gift, any ideas...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is really odd to try and use money and material objects to respond to an act of saving someone’s life. To me it is a bit sexist. Like women are superficial and materialistic and no matter what they do in life you buy them things. Same reason I hate engagement rings.

Reducing men to steak and a bj and women to flowers and jewelry are just really sexist traditions that I despise. Humans are not that simple minded. Personally I would be offended by a gift but I do get these sexist ideas do exist because there are some women who do care mostly about shiny and pretty things.

Hold up, giving a gift out of gratitude is now sexist?

OP SAID he doesn't want to give "flowers or anything like that" but something "with some genuine thought."

Should I not buy the guy down my street who helped me fix my garage door a nice six-pack of beer that I know he likes?
Should I not send my friend friend her favorite NY bagels after she really helped talk me through a rough time?
Should I not buy my closest friends a bracelet engraved with our personal inside joke that made me laugh as I was dealing with my dad's hospice?

[Anonymous]

My husband (of all people) just suggested a spa day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is really odd to try and use money and material objects to respond to an act of saving someone’s life. To me it is a bit sexist. Like women are superficial and materialistic and no matter what they do in life you buy them things. Same reason I hate engagement rings.

Reducing men to steak and a bj and women to flowers and jewelry are just really sexist traditions that I despise. Humans are not that simple minded. Personally I would be offended by a gift but I do get these sexist ideas do exist because there are some women who do care mostly about shiny and pretty things.

Dear lord YOU are whats wrong with this generation and country. Major eye roll here. Do you overthink everything in life? Must be insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is really odd to try and use money and material objects to respond to an act of saving someone’s life. To me it is a bit sexist. Like women are superficial and materialistic and no matter what they do in life you buy them things. Same reason I hate engagement rings.

Reducing men to steak and a bj and women to flowers and jewelry are just really sexist traditions that I despise. Humans are not that simple minded. Personally I would be offended by a gift but I do get these sexist ideas do exist because there are some women who do care mostly about shiny and pretty things.

Hold up, giving a gift out of gratitude is now sexist?

OP SAID he doesn't want to give "flowers or anything like that" but something "with some genuine thought."

Should I not buy the guy down my street who helped me fix my garage door a nice six-pack of beer that I know he likes?
Should I not send my friend friend her favorite NY bagels after she really helped talk me through a rough time?
Should I not buy my closest friends a bracelet engraved with our personal inside joke that made me laugh as I was dealing with my dad's hospice?

AMEN!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is really odd to try and use money and material objects to respond to an act of saving someone’s life. To me it is a bit sexist. Like women are superficial and materialistic and no matter what they do in life you buy them things. Same reason I hate engagement rings.

Reducing men to steak and a bj and women to flowers and jewelry are just really sexist traditions that I despise. Humans are not that simple minded. Personally I would be offended by a gift but I do get these sexist ideas do exist because there are some women who do care mostly about shiny and pretty things.

Dear lord YOU are whats wrong with this generation and country. Major eye roll here. Do you overthink everything in life? Must be insufferable.

I agree with the PP. Every suggestion on this thread just sounds shallow and weird. Honestly, it feels a little like desperation. I wonder, OP, if your son is feeling insecure about the situation. The best thing he can do it talk to her about what happened and what he will do to make sure that doesn't happen in the future. But also, maybe therapy to understand that there's nothing wrong with a woman saving a man. No need to put her back in her place with cheesy jewelry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband (of all people) just suggested a spa day.

Great idea.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand all the hate on this thread. I think a nice necklace or bracelet to acknowledge the fact that she literally saved his life is a sweet gift. If they break up, oh well, she has a bracelet from a guy she used to date whose life she saved.

OP, take a look at etsy. I feel like they have pretty designs that you can personlize with words or symbols.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is really odd to try and use money and material objects to respond to an act of saving someone’s life. To me it is a bit sexist. Like women are superficial and materialistic and no matter what they do in life you buy them things. Same reason I hate engagement rings.

Reducing men to steak and a bj and women to flowers and jewelry are just really sexist traditions that I despise. Humans are not that simple minded. Personally I would be offended by a gift but I do get these sexist ideas do exist because there are some women who do care mostly about shiny and pretty things.

Hold up, giving a gift out of gratitude is now sexist?

OP SAID he doesn't want to give "flowers or anything like that" but something "with some genuine thought."

Should I not buy the guy down my street who helped me fix my garage door a nice six-pack of beer that I know he likes?
Should I not send my friend friend her favorite NY bagels after she really helped talk me through a rough time?
Should I not buy my closest friends a bracelet engraved with our personal inside joke that made me laugh as I was dealing with my dad's hospice?


Dp. I think your examples are not quite the same. How can you really properly thank someone who saved your life? Is your life equal to flowers or bagels? No, it is much more precious.

My dh saved me from choking four years ago. I cannot really thank him enough but I try to do things on a day to day to tell him how much I love and appreciate him.

Now do you get what pp was saying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand all the hate on this thread. I think a nice necklace or bracelet to acknowledge the fact that she literally saved his life is a sweet gift. If they break up, oh well, she has a bracelet from a guy she used to date whose life she saved.

OP, take a look at etsy. I feel like they have pretty designs that you can personlize with words or symbols.

I love how if anyone has an opinion it is " giving hate"

No, it is not.

[Anonymous]

Would find out her birth stone. Also I have one of these with multiple extra links and stones, custom made

https://www.moonangeljewelry.com/product-page/victorian-with-stone

[Anonymous]

I bet she just wants to be proposed to.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is really odd to try and use money and material objects to respond to an act of saving someone’s life. To me it is a bit sexist. Like women are superficial and materialistic and no matter what they do in life you buy them things. Same reason I hate engagement rings.

Reducing men to steak and a bj and women to flowers and jewelry are just really sexist traditions that I despise. Humans are not that simple minded. Personally I would be offended by a gift but I do get these sexist ideas do exist because there are some women who do care mostly about shiny and pretty things.

Maybe but in this case we are talking about people in a loving relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet she just wants to be proposed to.

+1

This is what I am thinking. "Saved his life" could mean anything, it could mean that she made a few phone calls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet she just wants to be proposed to.

No, maybe she doesn't. I would want to be proposed to if we were at that point in our relationship, not just because I saved someone's life. Such an odd suggestion.