My sons girlfriend literally saved his life he wants to buy her a special meaningful gift, any ideas...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is really odd to try and use money and material objects to respond to an act of saving someone’s life. To me it is a bit sexist. Like women are superficial and materialistic and no matter what they do in life you buy them things. Same reason I hate engagement rings.

Reducing men to steak and a bj and women to flowers and jewelry are just really sexist traditions that I despise. Humans are not that simple minded. Personally I would be offended by a gift but I do get these sexist ideas do exist because there are some women who do care mostly about shiny and pretty things.

Maybe but in this case we are talking about people in a loving relationship.

Ignore that a$$hat.

Dp. So you, pp?

[Anonymous]

NOOO not a tiffany box, she will think he is proposing and will be crushed when he doesn't. Even if she doesn't want to get married. Trust me. Do not present the gift in any way that would make the casual observer think, "maybe this is the big proposal"

[Anonymous]

RhymeTime wrote:If it fits her personality and taste, I like the Tiffany suggestions - classic, has the “wow” blue box moment, etc.

Are people still into Tiffany's? I saw someone posted a bean necklace. Is that still a thing? I though the bean necklaces totally cheapened the brand.

[Anonymous]

I think Tiffany is "over" to most people. Just my opinion. I think its more about the meaning of the gift than where its from or it being a "brand"

[Anonymous]

Tiffany bravely or pendant is too much for literally saving your life? How little do you people value your life? I buy her a car!

[Anonymous]

Love this! Want it. She can wear this everyday.
https://www.oakandluna.com/Product.aspx?p=4401

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NOOO not a tiffany box, she will think he is proposing and will be crushed when he doesn't. Even if she doesn't want to get married. Trust me. Do not present the gift in any way that would make the casual observer think, "maybe this is the big proposal"

That's why a bracelet is better: flat, larger box.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could probably find off the shelf items symbolizing

--life, like the tree of life, circle of life; or

-- Heroism, like superhero shields, circles like the Olympic or Merlin circles, lifeguard stuff - or just search hero necklace on Etsy; or

--gratitude, apparently there is a modern universal symbol for gratitude composed of multiple ancient symbols (https://gratitudegifted.com/blogs/gratitudere...Hawaiian%20cultures.)

These are lovely ideas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could probably find off the shelf items symbolizing

--life, like the tree of life, circle of life; or

-- Heroism, like superhero shields, circles like the Olympic or Merlin circles, lifeguard stuff - or just search hero necklace on Etsy; or

--gratitude, apparently there is a modern universal symbol for gratitude composed of multiple ancient symbols (https://gratitudegifted.com/blogs/gratitudere...Hawaiian%20cultures.)

These are lovely ideas.

+1 thank goodness for some brilliance on DCUM once in awhile!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is really odd to try and use money and material objects to respond to an act of saving someone’s life. To me it is a bit sexist. Like women are superficial and materialistic and no matter what they do in life you buy them things. Same reason I hate engagement rings.

Reducing men to steak and a bj and women to flowers and jewelry are just really sexist traditions that I despise. Humans are not that simple minded. Personally I would be offended by a gift but I do get these sexist ideas do exist because there are some women who do care mostly about shiny and pretty things.

Well 99% of men do just want a steak and a bj…..

[Anonymous]

Different approach, but are they into tattoos at all? What about a small tattoo that represents her/her act in some way? That way he will always have a reminder of her bravery? Kind of the flip of something for her but rather something in honor of her? Or in that same vein, a significant donation in her name to an organization that is important to her or that works on behalf of a cause she cares about deeply?

I say this as someone who generally hates tattoos, but I know I'm in the minority there and can understand someone wanting to memorialize a life-changing/saving event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is really odd to try and use money and material objects to respond to an act of saving someone’s life. To me it is a bit sexist. Like women are superficial and materialistic and no matter what they do in life you buy them things. Same reason I hate engagement rings.

Reducing men to steak and a bj and women to flowers and jewelry are just really sexist traditions that I despise. Humans are not that simple minded. Personally I would be offended by a gift but I do get these sexist ideas do exist because there are some women who do care mostly about shiny and pretty things.

Well 99% of men do just want a steak and a bj…..

Exactly. I’m not sure the poster you responded to has ever interacted meaningfully with a man… or a woman, for that matter…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NOOO not a tiffany box, she will think he is proposing and will be crushed when he doesn't. Even if she doesn't want to get married. Trust me. Do not present the gift in any way that would make the casual observer think, "maybe this is the big proposal"

That's why a bracelet is better: flat, larger box.

+1

Necklace or bracelet.

[Anonymous]

Is she religious at all? A necklace with a symbol of her religion might be nice in that case (cross, star of David, etc.).

[Anonymous]

Just propose.