Invited neighbor friends over

[Anonymous]

It would make me so uncomfortable if my guests felt they needed to dress up. I hope no guest of mind ever feels embarrassed by what they wear. Your post makes me so sad.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you poor? I’ve been so confused by this post and I just realized that maybe that is the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sweats. Never. Not if invited to dinner. I’d wear jeans, sure, for casual neighbor dinner. But I’d wear makeup and nice top too. Common courtesy.

Same.

Also, when they arrived I would have said something like, “wow, you guys went all out with your fancy sweatpants tonight!”

To which most people would respond, why are you so dressed up for dinner at home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are a dress down family. I wear athleisure and Dh often wears joggers. If a neighbor invited me over for dinner, I would not think to dress up.

We just like to be comfortable. Our friends also come to our house comfortably.

I just went to a friend’s house in a t shirt and sweats. For a second, I thought OP was talking about us. But then her Dh is we also wearing sweats. They are very wealthy if it matters.

Wealth and proper social behavior have nothing to do with each other. I know plenty of people with a ton of money who have no idea how to dress or act appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work full time and get dressed up to go to the office, or for client dinners or to events etc. I would never think to dress up to go to a neighbors house unless a party. Assume op does not have full time job and does not go to events and thus to op - a dinner at her house is a dressy occasion - bht op for most that is not the case. Unless you are over 50 maybe

So best foot forward only when you are getting a pay check right? That's sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would make me so uncomfortable if my guests felt they needed to dress up. I hope no guest of mind ever feels embarrassed by what they wear. Your post makes me so sad.

Sad? If the guests can feel comfortable wearing sweats, OP can also feel comfortable with a different level of dress. If they just wore lingerie would you feel differently?

[Anonymous]

I work with young and youngish tech entrepreneurs. One of our “stars” last year showed up to his pitch with investors in Adidas slides and white socks. It’s a… look. Another was pitching over Zoom while sitting at an outdoor restaurant table and sipping a Diet Coke as pine trees swayed behind him. Etc.

The idea that dressing appropriately and behaving appropriately is a sign of respect does seem to be a lost art.

I realize this is a neighborhood dinner but still, sweatpants?? I wouldn’t take it personally but I would think twice before inviting them again to any future gathering where other people were also invited.

[Anonymous]

I don't own sweats and would (as a matter of habit) wear a nice top and pants to a dinner, maybe a dress if it seemed that sort of thing.

I can't imagine caring what someone wore to a dinner at my home. Are they kind, thoughtful, engaging? Do they voice appreciation for the meal? Do we have a good time? Those I care about.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP! It was tacky of your neighbors to show up in sweats when you invited them to dinner. Shows a lack of class and education.

Hope they at least showed up with a bottle of wine??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re called joggers now and cost as much as jeans.

Yeah, but I wouldn’t go out to a bar or someone’s house at night in them. Maybe to run errands and a kid’s soccer game.

[Anonymous]

Agree Op. no one is saying you had to be “dressed up” but I’d at least wear nice jeans and a dressy top.

[Anonymous]

Covid has done a real number on people’s sense of propriety and presentation.

Anything goes!

It’s rude OP. Of course they should have put some effort into their appearance. But I guess they’re one of those “keeping it real”/take us as we are couples.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work full time and get dressed up to go to the office, or for client dinners or to events etc. I would never think to dress up to go to a neighbors house unless a party. Assume op does not have full time job and does not go to events and thus to op - a dinner at her house is a dressy occasion - bht op for most that is not the case. Unless you are over 50 maybe

So best foot forward only when you are getting a pay check right? That's sad.

It’s really not sad.
It’s sad to think that someone coming to your house warrants getting dressed up. It’s sad bc it’s a huge mismatch between how important you think you are and how important you are.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get it either. Doesn’t bother me but I wouldn’t do it. I would change out of leggings into jeans and a top. I have a pair of flared yoga pants that can pass as pants so that might be the exception .! Dh wears his vionic flip flops almost everywhere because (he claims) they are the only comfortable shoes for his plants facsitisn, but he would pair with jeans. However we are in our early 50s so not up on the trend of 150$ Lycra pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree Op. no one is saying you had to be “dressed up” but I’d at least wear nice jeans and a dressy top.

‘Dressy top’ lol
Tell me you’re middle class suburban without telling me you’re middle class suburban