Invited neighbor friends over

[Anonymous]

Invited one of our neighbor friend couples over for dinner; hadn’t seen them in a while. Maybe it’s just me, but I was a bit annoyed that they both showed up in sweats. Obviously wasn’t some fancy dinner, but I guess I figured they would dress a bit nicer.

What do you think?

[Anonymous]

I hope they avoid you

[Anonymous]

I would not care.

[Anonymous]

Lol.
I hope she at least put her pearls on before walking next door.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you OP. Maybe I’m old school but I’d never show up in sweats. Jeans? Sure!

[Anonymous]

Focus on what matters. It's your choice. They weren't trying to hurt you, they were trying to connect with you.
If dress code is important, communicate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol.
I hope she at least put her pearls on before walking next door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. Maybe I’m old school but I’d never show up in sweats. Jeans? Sure!

That wasn't the question they was asked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Focus on what matters. It's your choice. They weren't trying to hurt you, they were trying to connect with you.
If dress code is important, communicate.

+1
It’s just you. And if this annoys you then maybe they should take another long break from you and not see you in a long while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Focus on what matters. It's your choice. They weren't trying to hurt you, they were trying to connect with you.
If dress code is important, communicate.

NP. I agree it doesn't matter, but it also tells you something about them. If you'd wear the same thing to a dinner at someone else's home as you would for cleaning out the garage, you are lacking in social intelligence.

[Anonymous]

I might be surprised, but never annoyed.

Also, FWIW my mom and I (Gen X) have different ideas of what are sweats. there is an abundance of loungewear that I would not go running in or wear to the gym.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. Maybe I’m old school but I’d never show up in sweats. Jeans? Sure!

OP here. Maybe annoyed isn’t the right word, but we just felt a little bit weird after we put effort into the meal, dressed decently well ourselves. Obviously not a big deal, but I think we just were probably expecting jeans at least!

Is what it is.

[Anonymous]

I think I’d just wear what I would if I were going to a Super Bowl party or something similar; so jeans.

[Anonymous]

What i think is that you are the problem - people can wear what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. Maybe I’m old school but I’d never show up in sweats. Jeans? Sure!

OP here. Maybe annoyed isn’t the right word, but we just felt a little bit weird after we put effort into the meal, dressed decently well ourselves. Obviously not a big deal, but I think we just were probably expecting jeans at least!

Is what it is.

Are all of your dinner parties… nice (for lack of a better word)? Maybe they thought it was a casual neighborhood get together. We have casual get together’s all the time and nobody dresses up. Sweats, yoga, pants, jeans, logo T-shirts are all usual.