Invited neighbor friends over
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Anonymous
I wear t shirts and sweatshirts with leggings or joggers on weekends. This is how I dress. I’m sorry if my oversized Taylor swift sweatshirt doesn’t look dressy enough for you. I haven’t worn jeans for years. |
Anonymous
We were invited to a dinner of a couple we recent became acquainted with at the club, we arrived dressed casually and comfortably. And Brought with us a bottle of red and white wine from our preferred vineyard as a hostess gift. As we arrived at their home, the husband greeted us at the door dressed in similar attire. His wife stood beside him wearing a sheer black blouse and black semi sheer pants, with her thong visible. We enjoyed a lovely evening, dinner was outstanding, learned that the wife had a culinary degree, our white wine selection paired well with the appetizer and the red with the entree. Never through the course of our evening did they make us feel uncomfortable nor did we feel uncomfortable with the wife's fashion. We have since invited them to our home for a football game, and bbq. We are hesitant to invite other friends for fear the wife might choose to dress in similar provocative attire. What do y'all think? |
Anonymous
Better yet, what did your husband think? Did he volunteer to be her on call handyman? |
Anonymous
You do you. Invite away, though the writing tone of your post sounds a bit like a story prompt for a novel, or maybe a Penthouse letter. Not calling you a troll, just noting that this all sounds rather...elaborate. Maybe it's "the club" and the wine pairing oh, so well. |
Anonymous
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Going to somebody else's house in sweats (unless we are going to workout together) seems ... ick.
That said, I'd be fine if they showed up at my house with sweats on! |
Anonymous
Is this why it's now acceptable to wear painted-on Lululemon-type leggings and a matching sports bra -- sorry, it's a top, not a bra, right? -- at places like historic houses people are touring? We were on vacation in the summer in NY state and were going around some historic sites and homes and was surprised at seeing skintight workout gear on a few women. It was, to be honest, gross. I don't care how expensive their garments were; no one needs to have to avert gazes from camel toe and butt crack at 10 a.m. while touring a historic site or at noon while in a nice restaurant that in the past would have had issues with that nonsense. Does anyone have a right to wear anything anywhere? Sure. Am I judging? You bet. Expensive can still be inappropriate. And the "look at me and my fit ass in my pricey athleisure gear" egotism is on display. |
Anonymous
Just looked those up, nope. I think I’ve worn leggings on an errand twice. Idc if I’m not hip. Those look terrible. Kim K looks terrible in hers. |
Anonymous
I don’t understand how being “dressed up” is uncomfortable? |
Anonymous
Hi neighbor! Next time we’ll ask if there is a dress code. Awkward, right? |
Anonymous
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Honestly, for me it would depend on how the night went. If they were really fun and I was glad to have gotten to know them better, I wouldn’t have been annoyed since the evening was a success and we’d have learned more interesting things from them to talk about. But if they sucked and were awkward and rude, then I’d be like, “—also what was up with the tracksuits!?” to my husband, later that night… but that would be the end of that.
Personally I think it’s nice to look a little extra sparkly, even if it’s subtle, as a way of acknowledging the host’s efforts / conveying that I’m excited to see them. Therefore I do think that it would have been a little more thoughtful if they’d turned up in “neutral” outfits that could work in most situations. You obviously don’t know each other that well, so they had no idea whether you were the type to greet them in a dress with full makeup and heels, or running clothes with takeout served directly out of the pan, and more importantly, whether you’d feel uncomfortable or foolish if there was a huge mismatch. And I would assume you’d have done the same. |
Anonymous
Omg EW, no!!!!! What an awful thing to say. And as the HOST. You have no concept of hospitality. |
Anonymous
no class guests. |
Anonymous
Yes they have. |
Anonymous
| I don't have time to read all twelve pages - but IMHO the neighbors were low class to show up in sweats. casual is fine, but sweats are disrespectful. |
Anonymous
Good post, especially the bolder. The cost of clothing has no bearing on its propriety in any given situation. |