Where are people’s manners?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

Are you the bacon lady from last year?

I really can’t wrap my head around sharing a house with other families and not planning to share food. It’s just so weird.

Admittedly, we rarely travel with other families who aren’t related to us, but we always load up on food (a mix of healthy and junk) and the goal is for everyone to help themselves.

I can’t imagine baking muffins and only giving them to my kids while others watch.

And bacon!!! Remember that thread?

I was totally just thinking of that bacon thread. Some people are really best off just vacationing with their own family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

You’re a horrible host. I’m so embarrassed you think you are “hosting” with potluck dinners and BYOSnacks.

[Anonymous]

DP and we don't cook a big breakfast for 10 people, we just stock up with stuff like bread, eggs, cheese, cereal, and fruit and people help themselves (or make food for little kids who are up and too small to help themselves) when they get up. Same for lunch, we stock up on sandwich stuff, it's not super formal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

usually me and another dad go balls to the wall buying awesome food and drink and cooking because we enjoy it and enjoy sharing. If anyone started cooking a breakfast and made it clear it was just for them, they’d simply never be invited back to our awesome vacations.

Ahahahaha now I get it.
You are a guy. You don’t cook. Your wife does. You just buy the bbq.

So you should shut up at this point as no one wants to hear your opinion as no point in your life you have cooked every day for all these people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DP and we don't cook a big breakfast for 10 people, we just stock up with stuff like bread, eggs, cheese, cereal, and fruit and people help themselves (or make food for little kids who are up and too small to help themselves) when they get up. Same for lunch, we stock up on sandwich stuff, it's not super formal.

Eggs are not going to cook themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DP and we don't cook a big breakfast for 10 people, we just stock up with stuff like bread, eggs, cheese, cereal, and fruit and people help themselves (or make food for little kids who are up and too small to help themselves) when they get up. Same for lunch, we stock up on sandwich stuff, it's not super formal.

Exactly. Breakfast and lunch on group vacations are muffins, make a sandwich, cereal, etc. If we want bacon or eggs we cook for all.

[Anonymous]

OP-
How did it come to pass that this third family got invited? Do you like them? I am sympathetic to you but that’s how I’d feel towards someone I really didn’t like and invited out of obligation. Someone I did like and was close with, I would feel more generous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP-
How did it come to pass that this third family got invited? Do you like them? I am sympathetic to you but that’s how I’d feel towards someone I really didn’t like and invited out of obligation. Someone I did like and was close with, I would feel more generous.

While I do like the parents, I think they have failed to instil manners in their kids.

I can’t stand badly mannered and entitled kids at my house -

- they destroy things
- take our stuff without permission
- grab food with their hands out of bowls and platters
- rummage through cabinets, pantry and fridge and will eat whatever they find that suits them
- leave greasy fingerprints in doors, walls and everywhere they go
- they are unable to carry a conversation

I have several friends with kids like these and then I have friends with very well mannered kids who are a joy to have around and converse with.

In addition to this, this particular family likes to mooch off of other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP-
How did it come to pass that this third family got invited? Do you like them? I am sympathetic to you but that’s how I’d feel towards someone I really didn’t like and invited out of obligation. Someone I did like and was close with, I would feel more generous.

While I do like the parents, I think they have failed to instil manners in their kids.

I can’t stand badly mannered and entitled kids at my house -

- they destroy things
- take our stuff without permission
- grab food with their hands out of bowls and platters
- rummage through cabinets, pantry and fridge and will eat whatever they find that suits them
- leave greasy fingerprints in doors, walls and everywhere they go
- they are unable to carry a conversation

I have several friends with kids like these and then I have friends with very well mannered kids who are a joy to have around and converse with.

In addition to this, this particular family likes to mooch off of other people.

You know all this and invited them anyway? Looks like the joke is on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

usually me and another dad go balls to the wall buying awesome food and drink and cooking because we enjoy it and enjoy sharing. If anyone started cooking a breakfast and made it clear it was just for them, they’d simply never be invited back to our awesome vacations.

Ahahahaha now I get it.
You are a guy. You don’t cook. Your wife does. You just buy the bbq.

So you should shut up at this point as no one wants to hear your opinion as no point in your life you have cooked every day for all these people.

Oh, I am sorry. Have we met?

You sound like you live a sad pitiful existence. You and your husband and your friends are deadbeats, and I’m sure it’s reassuring to assume this is how everyone else lives.

Instead of being so bitter about your lost Cheetos and granola bars, you should focus a bit on self improvement and get out of this sad rut that’s bringing you down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP-
How did it come to pass that this third family got invited? Do you like them? I am sympathetic to you but that’s how I’d feel towards someone I really didn’t like and invited out of obligation. Someone I did like and was close with, I would feel more generous.

While I do like the parents, I think they have failed to instil manners in their kids.

I can’t stand badly mannered and entitled kids at my house -

- they destroy things
- take our stuff without permission
- grab food with their hands out of bowls and platters
- rummage through cabinets, pantry and fridge and will eat whatever they find that suits them
- leave greasy fingerprints in doors, walls and everywhere they go
- they are unable to carry a conversation

I have several friends with kids like these and then I have friends with very well mannered kids who are a joy to have around and converse with.

In addition to this, this particular family likes to mooch off of other people.

You know all this and invited them anyway? Looks like the joke is on you.

None of this is true. This lady is just crazy and miserable! I’d love to hear the other side of this story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP-
How did it come to pass that this third family got invited? Do you like them? I am sympathetic to you but that’s how I’d feel towards someone I really didn’t like and invited out of obligation. Someone I did like and was close with, I would feel more generous.

While I do like the parents, I think they have failed to instil manners in their kids.

I can’t stand badly mannered and entitled kids at my house -

- they destroy things
- take our stuff without permission
- grab food with their hands out of bowls and platters
- rummage through cabinets, pantry and fridge and will eat whatever they find that suits them
- leave greasy fingerprints in doors, walls and everywhere they go
- they are unable to carry a conversation

I have several friends with kids like these and then I have friends with very well mannered kids who are a joy to have around and converse with.

In addition to this, this particular family likes to mooch off of other people.

You know all this and invited them anyway? Looks like the joke is on you.

None of this is true. This lady is just crazy and miserable! I’d love to hear the other side of this story.

It's probably something along the lines of: the kids ate one granola bar apiece, all the kids were playing on the floats together, and OP was so drunk, loud and obnoxious, the daughter wanted to get away from the noise for a bit and went to another room. It's weird that OP is so territorial about a rented place she was just staying in for the weekend. Who cares if someone opened a cabinet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

Are you the bacon lady from last year?

I really can’t wrap my head around sharing a house with other families and not planning to share food. It’s just so weird.

Admittedly, we rarely travel with other families who aren’t related to us, but we always load up on food (a mix of healthy and junk) and the goal is for everyone to help themselves.

I can’t imagine baking muffins and only giving them to my kids while others watch.

And bacon!!! Remember that thread?

What did I miss?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You invited them to come one day during the day but only for dinner? That makes no sense.

The only rude thing is helping themselves to your bed.

Dp. Their kids were incredibly rude going through the fridge and cabinets. You’re telling us so much about yourself.

My house was the playdate house when my kids were young and I only encountered 2 kids who would go through our cabinets and fridge like that. They both had parents who ignored them. Their parents sucked as people too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You invited them to come one day during the day but only for dinner? That makes no sense.

The only rude thing is helping themselves to your bed.

Not op. You must not get out much. We’ve hosted other people at the beach rental for dinner. What is unusual about that?