Where are people’s manners?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You invited people over and told them to bring their own snacks!?

And, I'm questionning all of this post but especially where you say the mom puts her DD on your bed and lets her watch TV (which to me sounds like a toddler/little kid) but later say the kids are 11 and 14.

+1. This is either a totally made up or badly embellished story. This site basically sucks now because of all the made up crap on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s really missing here is the following:

1. Full accounting of the snacks, what was eaten, and when

2. More about the dog

3. Which child, 11 or 14, was put into the bedroom to chill? How did this happen?

Yes, definitely need more dog details. Story is weak without it. And agreed, what kind of snacks are we talking about here? Wheat thins? Or Cheetos? Huge difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You invited them to come one day during the day but only for dinner? That makes no sense.

The only rude thing is helping themselves to your bed.

They showed up after lunch.

I made it clear we were sharing only dinner. I wasn’t going to cook them breakfast and lunch.

You sound really uptight. I wouldn’t be happy about someone not asking before doing all these things (taking snacks, putting DD in my bedroom) but I also wouldn’t lose my mind and be posting on DCUM. It doesn’t sound like you are really friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re like my dc when he was 4 year old. She’d have a playdate and then expect the guest to ask permission to touch every single toy. We were working hard to explain that when you invite someone over, you expect that they’d reasonably use some toys and that’s ok, they don’t need to ask permission for every single item. Hopefully by time she is grown up and has her own family, she won’t be complaining about guest kids that she invites over for a day to “ask permission to use floaters”

To me this looks more like a case of birds of a feather. The family didn’t think this outing through, but so are you, you didn’t plan to host them. It looks like you “invited” them, but more to join as sharing rather than invited gueses. Did you charge them for the day also?

I was raised to ask permission before taking others personal items.

That’s correct, we didn’t invite them to host them, but to come along. If they spent the night, they would have paid their share of the cost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:.

If you don't intend to feed your guests, you shouldn't invite them to spend the afternoon at the rental. You can suggest they join you for the day on the beach, and specifically tell them everyone brings their own refreshments, beach chairs, beach umbrellas, etc. You invite them to go back to your rental afterwards for dinner. .

I did tell them to bring everything for a day at a beach. The dinner was a potluck and everyone brought something gor the dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How late did they stay that they put an 11 year old to bed? Was she sick? Did they have permission to bring the dog?

Yes, the dog had the permission.
The put 11 year old to my bed at 8:30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

You are a terrible host ^^

Why bother inviting people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

Are you the bacon lady from last year?

I really can’t wrap my head around sharing a house with other families and not planning to share food. It’s just so weird.

Admittedly, we rarely travel with other families who aren’t related to us, but we always load up on food (a mix of healthy and junk) and the goal is for everyone to help themselves.

I can’t imagine baking muffins and only giving them to my kids while others watch.

And bacon!!! Remember that thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

Why did you invite them? You don't like them, aren't a good host, and resented that they showed up all and seem miffed that they didn't treat your rented dump like your personal palace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You invited people over and told them to bring their own snacks!?

And, I'm questionning all of this post but especially where you say the mom puts her DD on your bed and lets her watch TV (which to me sounds like a toddler/little kid) but later say the kids are 11 and 14.

+1. This is either a totally made up or badly embellished story. This site basically sucks now because of all the made up crap on it.

+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Admittedly, we rarely travel with other families who aren’t related to us, but we always load up on food (a mix of healthy and junk) and the goal is for everyone to help themselves.

I can’t imagine baking muffins and only giving them to my kids while others watch.

Let me clarify. You are saying that when your family lets say of 3 travels, you make breakfast and lunch for 10 people very day to share everything?

This sounds like bs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

Does it matter what you call it - house or cabin?

The kids ate and the girl was bored after that. She announced she was ready to go home. Her parents were not ready.

So her mom took her to our bedroom and turned the TV on.

They left around 10.

Any more details you want to know?

[Anonymous]

This strikes me as a thread that goes off the rails because the initial description is inaccurate than everyone attacks the OP.

As I understand it, two families are renting a house and a third is invited for the afternoon (post lunch) and then dinner.

If this is the case, it seems a little rude that it turned into an all day food fest - and if its a rental for the weekend the host doesn't really have an unlimited food supply which a day guest should have realized. Also weird and rude not to bring food for you dog. Actually rude to bring dog but since OP didn't mention this, I guess the dog was invited too. But doesn't the dog have a pretty specific diet he is used to.

I would also find it rude to have people rumaging through cabinets and my room without asking but maybe they felt that since it was a rental it wasn't the same invasion of personal space and they saw the other family doing this as well.

Mostly it sounds like OP just doesn't like this third family very much or know them very well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Admittedly, we rarely travel with other families who aren’t related to us, but we always load up on food (a mix of healthy and junk) and the goal is for everyone to help themselves.

I can’t imagine baking muffins and only giving them to my kids while others watch.

Let me clarify. You are saying that when your family lets say of 3 travels, you make breakfast and lunch for 10 people very day to share everything?

This sounds like bs.

DP, but yes, when we travel with other families, everyone who cooks makes food for everyone else. We aren’t on the Oregon trail, if we need more food we just go buy it.

Some of the people who will travel with us have less means, as the situation appears with the OP… as long as they aren’t resource hoarders like the OP, we share everything with them and don’t expect 100% reciprocation. It’s all a contribute what you can basis. But usually me and another dad go balls to the wall buying awesome food and drink and cooking because we enjoy it and enjoy sharing. If anyone started cooking a breakfast and made it clear it was just for them, they’d simply never be invited back to our awesome vacations.

TBF, in the OPs story, I’m not sure I’d be friends with any of those involved. Except maybe the dog.