Where are people’s manners?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids eat afternoon snacks. They don't go from lunch to dinner without a snack.

That’s not ops responsibility.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They do sound really rude, but as you can see from this thread, many people were simply raised without good manners. We're seeing the breakdown of society in real time, the normalization of lowest common denominator behavior. This is why country clubs have always had to be snobby- because riff raff usually dont even realize theyre doing anything wrong. It's sad but true.

Lol the fact that you took this seriously and think all these posters have no manners reflects poorly on you.

For Christ sake, the OP even dramatically inserted how starved the dog was!!

I’d love to hear the other side, if this is even a real post at all.

I agree with pp except the crap about country clubs. I think this is generational. I’m an older mom and the younger moms in our playgroups would pull stuff that was astounding to me.

[Anonymous]

You invited people over for the day with no intention to provide snacks for their kids, so no food for them until dinner?

Where are people's manners, indeed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, agree ^^ would love to hear the other side of the story.

They probably sat in Labor Day weekend traffic to make it to your beach house so they arrived tired and hungry,
They hadnt eaten since they left. You huped up how great your beach house was with all the amenities and what a great dinner youd have.
Hosts provide snacks to weary traveling guests especially if they arrive prior for dinner .
You knew they had tween/teens who, by their nature, are ravenously hungry, so when you served them -I'm guessing something skimpy bc you said dinner would be in 2 hrs - everyone was still hungry.

So you invite them for the day, but only offer to serve them dinner? And BYO snack(?)?

Amazing how you made all of this up to make op look evil. I would never drag my kids off somewhere without feeding them and looking out for them myself. These guests were tacky and rude.

[Anonymous]

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+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

Does it matter what you call it - house or cabin?

The kids ate and the girl was bored after that. She announced she was ready to go home. Her parents were not ready.

So her mom took her to our bedroom and turned the TV on.

They left around 10.

Any more details you want to know?

How often do you make crap up and post it on dcum? That’s my only question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids eat afternoon snacks. They don't go from lunch to dinner without a snack.

That’s not ops responsibility.

I will bet the kids saw it more as a party and not a visit to someone's house. This is a rented home, they know that, and there were a lot of people there. Like a party. Normally at a party the food is for everyone. OP says they didn't bring snacks but it was a potluck dinner and everyone brought food, presumably even these guests. OP didn't say they came completely empty handed.

[Anonymous]

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+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

Does it matter what you call it - house or cabin?

The kids ate and the girl was bored after that. She announced she was ready to go home. Her parents were not ready.

So her mom took her to our bedroom and turned the TV on.

They left around 10.

Any more details you want to know?

How often do you make crap up and post it on dcum? That’s my only question.

Ask OP who first started talking about small children being put to rest on a bed but then said they were older, 11 and 14, neither are the right age to lead into another room and laid down on a bed with a towel blankie.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids eat afternoon snacks. They don't go from lunch to dinner without a snack.

That’s not ops responsibility.

Well, you are right, it's not her "responsibility." No one is going to call child protective services due to OP's failure to feed her friend's kids a snack. But she was hosting. You can't have people over "after lunch" and expect their kids not to get hungry for a snack before dinner, and when you are hosting -- you provide the food. Otherwise, you are the one with bad manners. So yeah, ok, technically not OP's responsibility, but she sure is rude. I was brought up to immediately offer drinks and refreshments to anyone who comes in the door. I guess you weren't. Nor was OP, and what is funny about this whole thing to me is that I see very poor manners on OPs part, and yet here she is, literally posting with the title "Where are people's manners?" I don't know OP -- what did you do with yours?

[Anonymous]

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+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

Does it matter what you call it - house or cabin?

The kids ate and the girl was bored after that. She announced she was ready to go home. Her parents were not ready.

So her mom took her to our bedroom and turned the TV on.

They left around 10.

Any more details you want to know?

How often do you make crap up and post it on dcum? That’s my only question.

Ask OP who first started talking about small children being put to rest on a bed but then said they were older, 11 and 14, neither are the right age to lead into another room and laid down on a bed with a towel blankie.

?? That post was obviously directed at the OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You invited them to come one day during the day but only for dinner? That makes no sense.

The only rude thing is helping themselves to your bed.

They showed up after lunch.

I made it clear we were sharing only dinner. I wasn’t going to cook them breakfast and lunch.

How?

“Hey Suzy! Would your family like to join us at the cabin on Saturday? By Saturday I just mean the afternoon. You should arrive after lunch, and to be clear, I am only providing dinner.”

Nice invite.

ICYMI: when you host, you host. That means ample food, drinks, activities, and fun.

If I visit someone, I typically feed my kids something ahead of time…mostly in case they serve something weird. And while I always bring a hostess gift that is edible, I would never show up with groceries if I’m only someplace for 1/2 a day.

PS - kids get tired and it’s NBD to put them down in a quiet bedroom. I would ask first.

You’re rude. You have no idea how the invitation was worded. I’ll share what I experienced.

Dh and I rent a beach house every year 2 hours away. I had reconnected with an old friend and invited her and her dh to come Friday-Sunday. They agree and left a msg using an app that leaves a msg and ensures the phone doesn’t ring to say they are extending their stay thru Wednesday and are bringing their adult daughter I barely know.

I am uncomfortable with confrontation but called friend to say we couldn’t accommodate her daughter and the extended time didn’t work for us. The b admitted that they were being rude they just didn’t think I’d actually say no.

People are rude. I would have been bothered by every bit of it.

[Anonymous]

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+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

Does it matter what you call it - house or cabin?

The kids ate and the girl was bored after that. She announced she was ready to go home. Her parents were not ready.

So her mom took her to our bedroom and turned the TV on.

They left around 10.

Any more details you want to know?

How often do you make crap up and post it on dcum? That’s my only question.

Ask OP who first started talking about small children being put to rest on a bed but then said they were older, 11 and 14, neither are the right age to lead into another room and laid down on a bed with a towel blankie.

?? That post was obviously directed at the OP.

I'm not sure that is OP. Some people pretend to be OP recapping. The details of the story keep changing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the OP is rude as well. You’re vacationing with another family and then invite a 3rd family for a limited, timed visit? Why did you invite them? It probably felt weird to them being a 3rd wheel family for the afternoon. And seriously you couldn’t offer snacks? Did they only get tap water?

It’s insane that you are twisting this into op doing something wrong by inviting them to dinner as if she owed them accommodations. How old are you? You are spoiled and entitled.

[Anonymous]

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+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

Does it matter what you call it - house or cabin?

The kids ate and the girl was bored after that. She announced she was ready to go home. Her parents were not ready.

So her mom took her to our bedroom and turned the TV on.

They left around 10.

Any more details you want to know?

How often do you make crap up and post it on dcum? That’s my only question.

Ask OP who first started talking about small children being put to rest on a bed but then said they were older, 11 and 14, neither are the right age to lead into another room and laid down on a bed with a towel blankie.

?? That post was obviously directed at the OP.

I'm not sure that is OP. Some people pretend to be OP recapping. The details of the story keep changing.

The details of the story keep changing because OP made up the story.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“BYO snacks”?! Liar. That’s not a thing. You weren’t expecting they would want snacks, you didn’t prepare, and now you are back-tracking when you see that posters are rightly telling you that good hosts provide snacks.

“BYO snacks” is not a thing, and if you really did tell that to guests, never host again. Because you are a horrible host.

No, that’s not true. I actually told them to bring snacks to carry their kids until dinner. They ignored it.

Each family brings our own food for the three days we at the cabin. We do potlucks for dinner, but breakfast and lunch each family makes separately.

And have zero intention to feed another family of four.

Why did you invite them? You don't like them, aren't a good host, and resented that they showed up all and seem miffed that they didn't treat your rented dump like your personal palace.

Tell us you’re rude and entitled without telling us…

[Anonymous]

LOL everyone is rude here. I love when two rude families meet up, it's like the ultimate boss fight.