Do all men cheat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is interesting that people seem to be responding either “yes, they all cheat. I cheat and so do my friends” or “No, I don’t cheat, and none of my friends do either”.

Maybe they key is to find a guy whose friends aren’t cheating.

Yeah, this is a very interesting takeaway from this thread. I'm on the no side and I'd be shocked if any of my guy friends had either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Low T, overweight, unattractive, Beta-types, unsuccessful/no $ are NOT likely to cheat.

Very good-looking, fit, successful/$$$ are hit on constantly by women and when they are married they become even more desirable to gold-diggers. More likely to cheat, especially in very long marriages- no matter if they are happy or not.

It’s really an opportunity game.

What is this horseshit? Never have cheated. Never will. 41 years old. Call me all the names you want. But the guys I’ve known who have cheated have been pretty insecure or angry. Women don’t “hit on men” constantly. Is this some weird incel philosophy? GTFO.

Women do hit on very attractive men.They can get really grabby if they're tipsy and pretty forward.

If that doesn't happen to you...then you aren't a part of that group.

Women hit on very attractive men who look professional and well-off. Maybe some bar-fly cougar will get grabby with someone that is just handsome, but not your typical woman.

You're not contradicting anything I said. If you're an attractive man, it happens enough that it can feel 'constant" even if every woman in the world doesn't engage in that behavior.

Also, no men do not need to look "professional and well-off" to get hit on by women. Being physically attractive is enough. Just because a woman hits on a guy doesn't mean she wants to marry him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Most outgrow it eventually, but they all do it at some point.

This is the correct answer. Seriously.

I am 48 and reasonably attractive man. Almost all men I know have cheated at some point. That doesn't mean "affair and other woman." It could be just ONS at a conference or kissing your co-worker or less than a full blown affair.

Now, at 48, most of us have settled down and actually just hang out.

All of that being said, of course not ALL men cheat. Some are faithful and would never, ever cheat. I think that is about 25% of men.

+1. This is exactly right. Most men cheat, stray, etc., when younger, and then you grow up.

Career, kids, other responsibilities crowd out a bunch of the time and energy you used to spend on activities that could lead to cheating. You have less drive (not none, obviously, just less than a 24 year old). You hopefully have been through enough in life to think more about consequences and care more about potential impact on other people (spouse included) and other aspects of your life. And you just don’t need the headache honestly.

I think the “never cheated” number is way below 25%, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Low T, overweight, unattractive, Beta-types, unsuccessful/no $ are NOT likely to cheat.

Very good-looking, fit, successful/$$$ are hit on constantly by women and when they are married they become even more desirable to gold-diggers. More likely to cheat, especially in very long marriages- no matter if they are happy or not.

It’s really an opportunity game.

What is this horseshit? Never have cheated. Never will. 41 years old. Call me all the names you want. But the guys I’ve known who have cheated have been pretty insecure or angry. Women don’t “hit on men” constantly. Is this some weird incel philosophy? GTFO.

Women do hit on very attractive men. They can get really grabby if they're tipsy and pretty forward.

If that doesn't happen to you...then you aren't a part of that group.

I think we just hang out in different circles. A woman who is drunk and openly flirting with a married man wouldn’t be welcome. I’ve never witnessed something so trashy. Perhaps if the woman doesn’t know the man is married. But honestly I’ve not been in a social setting in years where everyone wasn’t already connected by 2 degrees of separation. Taking me out of it for a minute, most of my friends are pretty HNW, attractive, well-connected late 30s early 40s. The walk by grabby drunk female thing is not something that happens. Affairs, if they happen, are discrete. And they aren’t actually as common as bitter, sad, angry people like to think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low T, overweight, unattractive, Beta-types, unsuccessful/no $ are NOT likely to cheat.

Very good-looking, fit, successful/$$$ are hit on constantly by women and when they are married they become even more desirable to gold-diggers. More likely to cheat, especially in very long marriages- no matter if they are happy or not.

It’s really an opportunity game.

What is this horseshit? Never have cheated. Never will. 41 years old. Call me all the names you want. But the guys I’ve known who have cheated have been pretty insecure or angry. Women don’t “hit on men” constantly. Is this some weird incel philosophy? GTFO.

Women do hit on very attractive men.They can get really grabby if they're tipsy and pretty forward.

If that doesn't happen to you...then you aren't a part of that group.

Women hit on very attractive men who look professional and well-off. Maybe some bar-fly cougar will get grabby with someone that is just handsome, but not your typical woman.

You're not contradicting anything I said. If you're an attractive man, it happens enough that it can feel 'constant" even if every woman in the world doesn't engage in that behavior.

Also, no men do not need to look "professional and well-off" to get hit on by women. Being physically attractive is enough. Just because a woman hits on a guy doesn't mean she wants to marry him.

I think you interpret a lot of daily interactions as being hit on if you think you’re constantly being hit on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low T, overweight, unattractive, Beta-types, unsuccessful/no $ are NOT likely to cheat.

Very good-looking, fit, successful/$$$ are hit on constantly by women and when they are married they become even more desirable to gold-diggers. More likely to cheat, especially in very long marriages- no matter if they are happy or not.

It’s really an opportunity game.

What is this horseshit? Never have cheated. Never will. 41 years old. Call me all the names you want. But the guys I’ve known who have cheated have been pretty insecure or angry. Women don’t “hit on men” constantly. Is this some weird incel philosophy? GTFO.

Women do hit on very attractive men.They can get really grabby if they're tipsy and pretty forward.

If that doesn't happen to you...then you aren't a part of that group.

Women hit on very attractive men who look professional and well-off. Maybe some bar-fly cougar will get grabby with someone that is just handsome, but not your typical woman.

You're not contradicting anything I said. If you're an attractive man, it happens enough that it can feel 'constant" even if every woman in the world doesn't engage in that behavior.

Also, no men do not need to look "professional and well-off" to get hit on by women. Being physically attractive is enough. Just because a woman hits on a guy doesn't mean she wants to marry him.

I think you interpret a lot of daily interactions as being hit on if you think you’re constantly being hit on.

Well, maybe my circle is low libido and calculating but no women I know are interested in handsome low-earners for hook-ups or anything else. Frequently a man that is too handsome and charming has the opposite intended effect- he needs to dampen it a bit with intellect or being self-deprecatory.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low T, overweight, unattractive, Beta-types, unsuccessful/no $ are NOT likely to cheat.

Very good-looking, fit, successful/$$$ are hit on constantly by women and when they are married they become even more desirable to gold-diggers. More likely to cheat, especially in very long marriages- no matter if they are happy or not.

It’s really an opportunity game.

What is this horseshit? Never have cheated. Never will. 41 years old. Call me all the names you want. But the guys I’ve known who have cheated have been pretty insecure or angry. Women don’t “hit on men” constantly. Is this some weird incel philosophy? GTFO.

Women do hit on very attractive men.They can get really grabby if they're tipsy and pretty forward.

If that doesn't happen to you...then you aren't a part of that group.

Women hit on very attractive men who look professional and well-off. Maybe some bar-fly cougar will get grabby with someone that is just handsome, but not your typical woman.

You're not contradicting anything I said. If you're an attractive man, it happens enough that it can feel 'constant" even if every woman in the world doesn't engage in that behavior.

Also, no men do not need to look "professional and well-off" to get hit on by women. Being physically attractive is enough. Just because a woman hits on a guy doesn't mean she wants to marry him.

I think you interpret a lot of daily interactions as being hit on if you think you’re constantly being hit on.

So you are going to tell me about my experiences? The nerve of some people haha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, only the attractive ones.
I actually wish my husband was cheating on me. But instead he’s a controlling freak who tracks my location and reads through my messages . I can’t even sneeze without him knowing about it. If he had a side piece he would maybe finally stop.

Guessing you committed “an indiscretion” that he hasn’t quite recovered from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low T, overweight, unattractive, Beta-types, unsuccessful/no $ are NOT likely to cheat.

Very good-looking, fit, successful/$$$ are hit on constantly by women and when they are married they become even more desirable to gold-diggers. More likely to cheat, especially in very long marriages- no matter if they are happy or not.

It’s really an opportunity game.

What is this horseshit? Never have cheated. Never will. 41 years old. Call me all the names you want. But the guys I’ve known who have cheated have been pretty insecure or angry. Women don’t “hit on men” constantly. Is this some weird incel philosophy? GTFO.

Women do hit on very attractive men. They can get really grabby if they're tipsy and pretty forward.

If that doesn't happen to you...then you aren't a part of that group.

I think we just hang out in different circles. A woman who is drunk and openly flirting with a married man wouldn’t be welcome. I’ve never witnessed something so trashy. Perhaps if the woman doesn’t know the man is married. But honestly I’ve not been in a social setting in years where everyone wasn’t already connected by 2 degrees of separation. Taking me out of it for a minute, most of my friends are pretty HNW, attractive, well-connected late 30s early 40s. The walk by grabby drunk female thing is not something that happens. Affairs, if they happen, are discrete. And they aren’t actually as common as bitter, sad, angry people like to think.

Your circle is not the world.

You sound like you're in a pretty insular social group. Why would there be a lot open flirting when people are concerned about their reputations and collateral damage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Most outgrow it eventually, but they all do it at some point.

God, I hate DCUM posts where the poster makes vast, sweeping statements about What ALL People Do. You do not know every man, everywhere, so no, you cannot say "they all do it at some point." What an immature, asinine thing to say. If you mean that all men you know personally cheat, say that. It's still asinine, though. You don't know what every man in your entire world does behind closed doors.

[Anonymous]

I’m fairly certain that every boyfriend I ever had cheated to some extent… or at least had old flames on the back burner that they would hook up with if they ever reunited. I think DH would if he had the opportunity because he’s human and doesn’t seem that interested in emotional intimacy with me and only mildly interested in physical intimacy. I never cheated on any of my boyfriends over 15 years of dating. But I did cheat on DH after 15 years of marriage. I wasn’t looking for it at all and it blindsided me but years of neglect make your walls weak apparently.

[Anonymous]

The guy at Walmart doesn't have the same cheating opportunities as Tiger Woods. Not all men have the money or time to cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low T, overweight, unattractive, Beta-types, unsuccessful/no $ are NOT likely to cheat.

Very good-looking, fit, successful/$$$ are hit on constantly by women and when they are married they become even more desirable to gold-diggers. More likely to cheat, especially in very long marriages- no matter if they are happy or not.

It’s really an opportunity game.

What is this horseshit? Never have cheated. Never will. 41 years old. Call me all the names you want. But the guys I’ve known who have cheated have been pretty insecure or angry. Women don’t “hit on men” constantly. Is this some weird incel philosophy? GTFO.

Women do hit on very attractive men. They can get really grabby if they're tipsy and pretty forward.

If that doesn't happen to you...then you aren't a part of that group.

I think we just hang out in different circles. A woman who is drunk and openly flirting with a married man wouldn’t be welcome. I’ve never witnessed something so trashy. Perhaps if the woman doesn’t know the man is married. But honestly I’ve not been in a social setting in years where everyone wasn’t already connected by 2 degrees of separation. Taking me out of it for a minute, most of my friends are pretty HNW, attractive, well-connected late 30s early 40s. The walk by grabby drunk female thing is not something that happens. Affairs, if they happen, are discrete. And they aren’t actually as common as bitter, sad, angry people like to think.

It’s surprising that you and your high net worth circle can’t spell “discreet” properly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is interesting that people seem to be responding either “yes, they all cheat. I cheat and so do my friends” or “No, I don’t cheat, and none of my friends do either”.

Maybe they key is to find a guy whose friends aren’t cheating.

Yeah, this is a very interesting takeaway from this thread. I'm on the no side and I'd be shocked if any of my guy friends had either.

Yes, interesting. I'm 49 and have never cheated and not one of my male friends has ever hinted at cheating.

[Anonymous]

No.