My girlfriend is mean to her daughter and it makes me uncomfortable

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She sounds like an awful person.

Except for this one thing, she is really awesome. She's funny and kind and interesting. I like her a lot except for this. I try to defend her daughter when she says mean things about her, but I've only met the kid a couple of times and don't know her well so it's hard.

She is NOT KIND. That poor child will be damaged for much of her life because of this type of cruel treatment from her own mother (not to mention what she says and does to the child when no one is around). A parent's job is to love their child unconditionally. Sadly, you are not able to be of support to that very unfortunate child.
You already know what to do with this relationship.

I meant she's kind to other people. Like she helped a friend who was moving to unpack, held the door for an old couple, and she brought me soup when I was sick. Stuff like that.

That bar is low, my friend. Holding the door for an old couple? That is simple human decency.

PP with the horrible mother here. I distinctly remember her taking chicken soup to my (monster) stepdad when they were still dating and he was sick. She was enraged because she thought he might be lying and that there was another woman at his house. She took the soup over there the check. I'm sure he thought it was very sweet, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is like saying you love the restaurant except that the food is bad. The decor, the music, the waitstaff, etc. is SO nice

I wouldn’t even go to a restaurant if I knew the owner was rude to his staff.

[Anonymous]

Sad. I hope the dad is still in the picture. Your GF sounds like someone who should not have a kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds like an awful person.

Except for this one thing, she is really awesome. She's funny and kind and interesting. I like her a lot except for this. I try to defend her daughter when she says mean things about her, but I've only met the kid a couple of times and don't know her well so it's hard.

This was my mom. She is not really nice. That is her facade. She will turn on you as well.

[Anonymous]

I would not be friends with a woman like that.

If you decide to, then at least be kind to the girl and point out when she is being good (so the mother questions her perspective?)

This is not normal though.

[Anonymous]

RUN.

But first tell her why. What’s she’s doing is going to mess up that kid, and somebody needs to care enough to tell her. She’ll probably react badly, but you owe it to the kids to bring this up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:RUN.

But first tell her why. What’s she’s doing is going to mess up that kid, and somebody needs to care enough to tell her. She’ll probably react badly, but you owe it to the kids to bring this up.

I'd absolutely tell her why - and stick to the breakup while she fixes her life.