I think Telework is Killing my Marriage

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have sex during lunch? I work from an office and dh is at home. The couple days month i wfh we have lunch and sex together and its lovely.

Sure, the key is that you only WFH on occasion. Massive difference.

NP. DH and I work from home full time. We have sex at lunch twice a week on average. It's a great perk.

Good for you. Why does this matter to anyone?

His gay lover gets the other days

[Anonymous]

So sorry OP! It's good to get a glimpse into this now. DH and I see each other maybe 30min a day in little spurts. When one of us travels (maybe once every 2 months) we notice. Retirement will be great.

Don't let it get you down OP! You also never know how the two of you will change over the years. Consider you started off most likely wanting to be together 24/7. You're a little different now, but who knows what'll happen in 10-20 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe schedule one weekly lunch walk and once weekly lunch date together. And, I hear you OP. I go nuts when my dh WFH. He is really " judgey" that I need to have the tv on for background noise even though he has his own " man-cave" on another floor.

ugh, having to hear the tv all day even if in background from another room would drive me crazy

[Anonymous]

DH felt this way - about me! I've worked remotely full-time for several years (even before COVID), and DH got a new job last year that was all remote. We set up separate workspaces in different rooms of the house, and didn't see each other much during the day except the occasional lunch together. Nevertheless, he never really managed to transition from working 100% onsite to WFH, and confided after 6 months that it just wasn't working for him... he was distracted by another person being in the house (me). tbf, he never framed it as criticism of me, just that WFH and him don't mesh well.

Since then, he's transitioned to 1-2 days WFH, sometimes from a different location, and goes into the office 3x a week. He's much happier and more productive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why people are acting like OP's post is so strange. I think a lot of people feel this way. I WISH my husband would go back in the office. I have not had the house to myself in three years now. I used to work remotely just one day a week and I lived for that day - no hubby or kids - just me for a full 8 hours. Now I hear his phone calls all day and he also treats me as his "water cooler" talk person when I'm working, which is so distracting. I'm an introvert so this may be part of it, I feel like I'm never ever alone and never get to fully recharge.

NP and I could have written this! Double checking the date to make sure I didn't. Bingo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why people are acting like OP's post is so strange. I think a lot of people feel this way. I WISH my husband would go back in the office. I have not had the house to myself in three years now. I used to work remotely just one day a week and I lived for that day - no hubby or kids - just me for a full 8 hours. Now I hear his phone calls all day and he also treats me as his "water cooler" talk person when I'm working, which is so distracting. I'm an introvert so this may be part of it, I feel like I'm never ever alone and never get to fully recharge.

NP and I could have written this! Double checking the date to make sure I didn't. Bingo.

I agree as well! I’m actually back in the office 2xs a week to get away. I also kinda enjoy seeing people. I love my DH, but I don’t need to be with him 24hrs a day. He also likes to vent to me like I’m his coworker and I humor him and listen, but to be honest , I really don’t care. I know that sounds mean and realize he needs to vent , but I wish he had his coworkers to vent to at his corporate office.

[Anonymous]

I am right there with you.
I'm going to keep working for a long time just to keep myself busy, even though he is planning to retire in a few years.
HUGS!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know why people are acting like OP's post is so strange. I think a lot of people feel this way. I WISH my husband would go back in the office. I have not had the house to myself in three years now. I used to work remotely just one day a week and I lived for that day - no hubby or kids - just me for a full 8 hours. Now I hear his phone calls all day and he also treats me as his "water cooler" talk person when I'm working, which is so distracting. I'm an introvert so this may be part of it, I feel like I'm never ever alone and never get to fully recharge.

NP and I could have written this! Double checking the date to make sure I didn't. Bingo.

I agree as well! I’m actually back in the office 2xs a week to get away. I also kinda enjoy seeing people. I love my DH, but I don’t need to be with him 24hrs a day. He also likes to vent to me like I’m his coworker and I humor him and listen, but to be honest , I really don’t care. I know that sounds mean and realize he needs to vent , but I wish he had his coworkers to vent to at his corporate office.

I could have written this as well!

[Anonymous]

This posts help me know I am not alone! Thank you!