If you get Starbucks with your kids present, do you always buy Starbucks for your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:F no.

I’m getting coffee I’m not even sure my kids know Starbucks has something they want.

Wtf is wrong with some of you.

This!

Me getting coffee and not getting my child an unnecessary sweet drink or treat is not rude. Kids get so much. They don’t need to be entitled to something every time I get something.

To the pedicure person, my mom went every week to get a mani/pedi when I was growing up and I just sat in the waiting area flipping through random magazines, most full of hair styles. And I certainly didn’t feel deprived. I just recognized that as an adult activity that kids didn’t do all the time.

Eating and drinking is not an activity that kids do? Why take them then? Pretty mean.

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We don't go often but I usually offer to buy 1 thing and if they want more then they can pay for what they want (they get an allowance).

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, and that goes for anywhere we get food or drink. To do otherwise would be rude. But it’s never happened at Starbucks. My teens are not interested in that place.

Me again. Like others have said, we limit sugar and fat. We're not a family who buys a lot of drinks or take-out. So in that context of frugality, it would be rude for me to get something and deny them the same. I get an Earl Grey, they can get tea as well. We've never bought ridiculous oversugared drinks or pastries there, because they're entirely gross.

Children are not second-class citizens in my house, they are responsible, intelligent human beings, and over their course of their lives have not shown themselves to be lazy or entitled. Maybe that's because I both respect them AND have clear behavioral expectations.

Their butter and chocolate croissants are not gross. We have them 3-4x a year

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Anonymous wrote:I very rarely go to Starbucks (why spend $5 on coffee when I can make much better coffee at home?), and if I do, it's because the kids wanted to go!

We go once a year to get pumpkin spice lattes so we all get one.

Those are disgusting.

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Seldomly go there but treat DD when I do go!

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I’m getting coffee I’m not even sure my kids know Starbucks has something they want.

Your teens don't know what Starbucks is and can't read a menu?

My teens are allowed to consume sugar and caffeine. I would insist on a tall size if they wanted something really gross. DD likes cold brew with a splash of soy milk. DS likes the plain frappuccino.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I very rarely go to Starbucks (why spend $5 on coffee when I can make much better coffee at home?), and if I do, it's because the kids wanted to go!

We go once a year to get pumpkin spice lattes so we all get one.

Those are disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:F no.

I’m getting coffee I’m not even sure my kids know Starbucks has something they want.

Wtf is wrong with some of you.

My tweens can’t read is a new weird for DCUM flexes.

To be clear, no judgement if your kids are still learning but judging people whose kids can is kinda weird.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Was just curious what other families did. I offer to get them something probably about 75% of the time. My son usually wants one cake pop, daughter wants something fancy. I'm getting black coffee or a misto everytime.

I like the idea to offer them a tea, thanks.

For example today I just got myself a coffee, but we were going to a market where I was planning to buy them different things I knew they would want and didnt think they needed both (though one wanted starbucks, but not to use her allowance, which is exactly the type of thing her allowance is for).

If it's starbucks to power me through the last hour of the road trip, and they've already had a few treats that day, those are times I don't t want to pay $8 for their custom sugar filled beverage (while I sip black coffee). If it's an outing and starbucks is a stop I might buy it, but if we're going to their activity where I'm buying it to sip while watching them, I don't feel it's necessary.

I do think it contributes to reasonable & more tempered expectations if Starbucks drinks aren't seen as essential childcare or family together time.

I agree with posters saying it's OK for it to be an adult thing. Like in a restaurant, if the adults want a cocktail, the kids are fine with just the usual iced tea instead of getting $12 virgin slushy drinks.

Probably depends how often people go too.

I'm definitely in the "if I'm getting a treat, the kids are too" but I'll make an exception for "We can each get one thing on this outing. I'm getting mine at Starbucks, but I think you should see what they offer at the fair because I bet you'll like that more."

I also don't see a problem with telling the kid that there are nutrition parameters or cost parameters to what they get. If you're getting something small with no sugar, they don't need a mondo sized frappuccino.

But I think getting yourself a treat and not getting them one at all is weird, and I think the message that expensive Starbucks coffee is a "need" and not an indulgence for you is worse.

I mean, you earn your own money, so you don’t have justify your spending to your children. That’s insane to me.

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It’s rude. I also don’t believe in the whole “I must have coffee to survive the day” trope.

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So for all the “omg it’s so rude” people, if you need to shop for an item of clothing, and need to bring your kid along, do you automatically purchase them an item of clothing as well?

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Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

This!

How old are these kids? Most kids don’t or shouldn’t drink coffee daily. Kids have milk and apple juice and yogurt pouches at home. OP wants a latte or coffee. Different to me. It’s not like Op is getting a Big Mac and denying the kids food

This is the teens and tweens forum. They are not drinking milk and appeals juice and yogurt pouches at home. Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:So for all the “omg it’s so rude” people, if you need to shop for an item of clothing, and need to bring your kid along, do you automatically purchase them an item of clothing as well?

I mean " I need new jeans" really isn't the same as "i'm in the mood for a mocha." I probably pick up something Starbucks-y a couple of times a month, it's not an every day or even weekly thing. So I'm standing by "rude" as the description of getting yourself something nice and telling kids sorry they're outta luck.

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Anonymous wrote:No. I would never order food or drink for myself without ordering something for my kids. That's horrifyingly rude.

This.

And unloving

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I rarely go to Starbucks with or without my kids because I don't think it's any better than the much less expensive brands. So if I was out with my kids and wanted a coffee, I'd probably just go to Dunkin' or McDonalds where I can also buy them a treat.