If you get Starbucks with your kids present, do you always buy Starbucks for your kids?

[Anonymous]

If I’m having a treat, they can have a treat too.

I’m perfectly capable to making coffee before I leave home/work. Starbucks is an overpriced luxury.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen boys. There is nothing at Starbucks that they want.

Your teens don’t like cake pops, hot chocolate, frappachinos, water, cookies, muffins, a bagel or hard boiled eggs? Nothing at Starbucks?

Water? I don’t need to buy water at Starbucks. And no, they don’t want any of that other stuff. We never made Starbucks a habit when they were younger and I guess it has stuck with them.

This is so oddly self-righteous. Because you never took your kids to Starbucks, they have grown up to shun hot chocolate, cheese and crackers, chips, apple sauce, cookies, yogurt, and hard boiled eggs? Well ok…but, maybe they are just picky.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Was just curious what other families did. I offer to get them something probably about 75% of the time. My son usually wants one cake pop, daughter wants something fancy. I'm getting black coffee or a misto everytime.

I like the idea to offer them a tea, thanks.

For example today I just got myself a coffee, but we were going to a market where I was planning to buy them different things I knew they would want and didnt think they needed both (though one wanted starbucks, but not to use her allowance, which is exactly the type of thing her allowance is for).

If it's starbucks to power me through the last hour of the road trip, and they've already had a few treats that day, those are times I don't t want to pay $8 for their custom sugar filled beverage (while I sip black coffee). If it's an outing and starbucks is a stop I might buy it, but if we're going to their activity where I'm buying it to sip while watching them, I don't feel it's necessary.

I do think it contributes to reasonable & more tempered expectations if Starbucks drinks aren't seen as essential childcare or family together time.

I agree with posters saying it's OK for it to be an adult thing. Like in a restaurant, if the adults want a cocktail, the kids are fine with just the usual iced tea instead of getting $12 virgin slushy drinks.

Probably depends how often people go too.

[Anonymous]

F no.

I’m getting coffee I’m not even sure my kids know Starbucks has something they want.

Wtf is wrong with some of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Was just curious what other families did. I offer to get them something probably about 75% of the time. My son usually wants one cake pop, daughter wants something fancy. I'm getting black coffee or a misto everytime.

I like the idea to offer them a tea, thanks.

For example today I just got myself a coffee, but we were going to a market where I was planning to buy them different things I knew they would want and didnt think they needed both (though one wanted starbucks, but not to use her allowance, which is exactly the type of thing her allowance is for).

If it's starbucks to power me through the last hour of the road trip, and they've already had a few treats that day, those are times I don't t want to pay $8 for their custom sugar filled beverage (while I sip black coffee). If it's an outing and starbucks is a stop I might buy it, but if we're going to their activity where I'm buying it to sip while watching them, I don't feel it's necessary.

I do think it contributes to reasonable & more tempered expectations if Starbucks drinks aren't seen as essential childcare or family together time.

I agree with posters saying it's OK for it to be an adult thing. Like in a restaurant, if the adults want a cocktail, the kids are fine with just the usual iced tea instead of getting $12 virgin slushy drinks.

Probably depends how often people go too.

I'm definitely in the "if I'm getting a treat, the kids are too" but I'll make an exception for "We can each get one thing on this outing. I'm getting mine at Starbucks, but I think you should see what they offer at the fair because I bet you'll like that more."

I also don't see a problem with telling the kid that there are nutrition parameters or cost parameters to what they get. If you're getting something small with no sugar, they don't need a mondo sized frappuccino.

But I think getting yourself a treat and not getting them one at all is weird, and I think the message that expensive Starbucks coffee is a "need" and not an indulgence for you is worse.

[Anonymous]

I very rarely go to Starbucks (why spend $5 on coffee when I can make much better coffee at home?), and if I do, it's because the kids wanted to go!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:F no.

I’m getting coffee I’m not even sure my kids know Starbucks has something they want.

Wtf is wrong with some of you.

Ummm some people have kids who know what Starbucks is and are aware of the menu? You understand this is the tweens and teens forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I very rarely go to Starbucks (why spend $5 on coffee when I can make much better coffee at home?), and if I do, it's because the kids wanted to go!

We go once a year to get pumpkin spice lattes so we all get one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

This!

How old are these kids? Most kids don’t or shouldn’t drink coffee daily. Kids have milk and apple juice and yogurt pouches at home. OP wants a latte or coffee. Different to me. It’s not like Op is getting a Big Mac and denying the kids food

[Anonymous]

Sounds petty to me

[Anonymous]

I don't drink coffee and never go to Starbucks but I could see the difference between a parent getting a small reg coffee and something more in the treat column.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:F no.

I’m getting coffee I’m not even sure my kids know Starbucks has something they want.

Wtf is wrong with some of you.

This!

Me getting coffee and not getting my child an unnecessary sweet drink or treat is not rude. Kids get so much. They don’t need to be entitled to something every time I get something.

To the pedicure person, my mom went every week to get a mani/pedi when I was growing up and I just sat in the waiting area flipping through random magazines, most full of hair styles. And I certainly didn’t feel deprived. I just recognized that as an adult activity that kids didn’t do all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:F no.

I’m getting coffee I’m not even sure my kids know Starbucks has something they want.

Wtf is wrong with some of you.

Ummm some people have kids who know what Starbucks is and are aware of the menu? You understand this is the tweens and teens forum?

The majority of teens and tweens can read so it seems like they would be able to figure out what Starbucks have.

[Anonymous]

Of course. That’s just rude not to offer your kid something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a dumb question, because it adds up. Sometimes I buy for my kids, sometimes I tell them they can pay with their own money if they want one. Sometimes I get something for myself and make them a treat at home.

Then why can't you go to Starbucks when they aren't with you? You are telling them they are second class. Would you like if you spouse treated you the way you treat your kids?