If you get Starbucks with your kids present, do you always buy Starbucks for your kids?

[Anonymous]

I don’t like coffee. When we go it’s either because I have a gift card and I want to get a roast or because the kids want something as a special treat. Their dad likes coffee and they go to a coffee shop 3-4 a month. Occasionally they might get a pastry but they only get an actual drink a couple times a year. Sometimes their dad gets a drink and our daughters don’t get anything at all. They don’t protest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I do, but sometimes I just want to spend less than $5 & get my coffee. I wouldn't get food with them in the car without offering to get them food, but Starbucks - sometimes I just don't want to spend $20. So I tell them they're free to buy their own if they want Starbucks too. Thoughts?

No I don’t. They get enough treats elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

That is simply cruel. If they refuse that is fine, but to say I’m getting a drink and you don’t even get water is pure cruelty.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But we don’t go a lot. It’s a treat and they can get whatever they want as long as it’s caffeine free.

[Anonymous]

All the time. My kids don't need to get something just because I'm getting something. I often stop and get dinner on my way home just for me. I don't always call to ask if anyone wants anything. Sometimes I just want to think about myself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is simply cruel. If they refuse that is fine, but to say I’m getting a drink and you don’t even get water is pure cruelty.

Someone please call CPS on these parents—no, wait, write your congressperson!

[Anonymous]

Does OP actually plan to change their mind, or are they just looking for justification for what they're going to do anyway?

I wouldn't eat or drink in front of someone I know without offering them some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

+1

And I also offer one if I have a friend or someone else in the car.

If you can't afford it don't get it. Or get it for yourself when kid is not around. It's rude and petty not to offer it to your kid if you're getting it for yourself. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the time. My kids don't need to get something just because I'm getting something. I often stop and get dinner on my way home just for me. I don't always call to ask if anyone wants anything. Sometimes I just want to think about myself

Your kids don’t need dinner just because you’re getting dinner, because sometimes you just want to think about yourself. This is some grade A fantastic parenting right here.