Daycare teacher gone. Our kids fault?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Enlighten us, OP. What is "normal boy behavior?"

I have 3 kids, and I'm clueless as to what you mean.

Rowdy, loud, excitable. Nothing I don’t see from the other boys in his class.

He’s not violent or aggressive. He’s generally a happy, well-adjusted kid.

So ill-behaved and disruptive then, but “boys will be boys,” amirite? #boymom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Boy behavior,” hmm. Got it. You’re that mom.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Preschool teacher here. I fully believe that she could have quit because of your kid. There’s a reason it’s very hard to find daycare workers. It’s not worth it for the money. I’m lucky to be compensated appropriately at my school for my masters degree in education, but the bar is generally pretty low.
I encourage you to take a closer look at the “boy behavior” you describe. The truth is that most 3 year old boys can follow classroom rules and routines. For example, at the playground, your boy might be one who loves to climb high, get his energy out, etc. But those behaviors are only typical and appropriate at certain times. If something was truly going on, you should have been made aware and that is on the director. The teacher quitting is not your responsibility and you need to find a way to move on from it. You also need to ask the director to be brutally honest with you about the concerns re: your kid.

+1. But also OP, be kind to yourself. Most FTPs do not really know the line between “normal” and “not normal.” The fact that a seasoned childcare worker could not handle and may have even quit over your child’s behavior signals some deeper psychological problems, not some quick fix of you being stricter at home, etc. They need to be evaluated so you can get the tools and therapies you need.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your “not particularly smart” comment tells me everything I need to know.

Yeah. OP is pathetic and disgusting. I’m sure gee email was laughed at throughout the school.

Your comment is much ruder, aggressive and unnecessary than OP's (which was in poor taste).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Preschool teacher here. I fully believe that she could have quit because of your kid. There’s a reason it’s very hard to find daycare workers. It’s not worth it for the money. I’m lucky to be compensated appropriately at my school for my masters degree in education, but the bar is generally pretty low.
I encourage you to take a closer look at the “boy behavior” you describe. The truth is that most 3 year old boys can follow classroom rules and routines. For example, at the playground, your boy might be one who loves to climb high, get his energy out, etc. But those behaviors are only typical and appropriate at certain times. If something was truly going on, you should have been made aware and that is on the director. The teacher quitting is not your responsibility and you need to find a way to move on from it. You also need to ask the director to be brutally honest with you about the concerns re: your kid.

+1. But also OP, be kind to yourself. Most FTPs do not really know the line between “normal” and “not normal.” The fact that a seasoned childcare worker could not handle and may have even quit over your child’s behavior signals some deeper psychological problems, not some quick fix of you being stricter at home, etc. They need to be evaluated so you can get the tools and therapies you need.

+2 As an FTM when the teachers told me they were concerned about DD's behavior at school, I didn't know what to do about it because I wasn't observing it directly. What I didn't realize is that when teachers tell you they are concerned about something, the subtext is you need to get your child evaluated and get them into appropriate therapy if indicated.

[Anonymous]

Op- have you spoken to the Director to get an honest and clear picture either way?

[Anonymous]

It sounds as if she confused two boys, OP. But go to the meeting, you never know.

[Anonymous]

OP is there any update?? Or are you just a troll?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

OP, it's telling that you latched onto this comment, by far the most far-fetched theory in the thread. The only thing crazier than a teacher telling a parent to their face "your kid made Ms. Larla quit" would be her telling a parent that about *not* their kid. This willing credulity, on top of calling your kid's behavior "boy behavior" and barely knowing the TA ("seems sweet [but dumb]") tells me that it's extremely likely your kid is a menace.

The kid may be a handful, but you’re calling a 3 year old a “menace”?

99.5% of three year olds are a handful. Not many cause a daycare worker to quit her job and her coworker to commiserate about it in front of their mom.

I've been in so many classes with this age and I completely disagree with you. The majority of kids are absolutely fine.

[Anonymous]

Yes, daycare teachers are tired and leaving the field. We aren't in the times of $10 per hour for daycare workers these days but even $20 per hour isn't great when you can make the same (or more) doing easier work. It's not so much that children are kicking, spitting, running off, etc., it's more that children are listening less for basic instructions.

In my experience during pre-pandemic times, you would ask a child to do something and may have had to repeat yourself once or twice, but cooperation for basic instructions was easier. Now you have to ask children 8 or 9 times before they cooperate. The asking children to listen over and over for the basics is what drains the energy from a preschool teacher in the classroom.

Parents are often having to do the same at home. We try to encourage parents to have a system for boundaries for behaviors at home and they have no idea where to start.

So yes OP, the head teacher may have made comments about your child's behavior to the TA. I think the TA was attempting to tell you that you need to put your foot down and establish some boundaries and consequences at home, but should have found a more professional way to communicate this.

[Anonymous]

Voting for “the TA was mixed up”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, daycare teachers are tired and leaving the field. We aren't in the times of $10 per hour for daycare workers these days but even $20 per hour isn't great when you can make the same (or more) doing easier work. It's not so much that children are kicking, spitting, running off, etc., it's more that children are listening less for basic instructions.

In my experience during pre-pandemic times, you would ask a child to do something and may have had to repeat yourself once or twice, but cooperation for basic instructions was easier. Now you have to ask children 8 or 9 times before they cooperate. The asking children to listen over and over for the basics is what drains the energy from a preschool teacher in the classroom.

Parents are often having to do the same at home. We try to encourage parents to have a system for boundaries for behaviors at home and they have no idea where to start.

So yes OP, the head teacher may have made comments about your child's behavior to the TA. I think the TA was attempting to tell you that you need to put your foot down and establish some boundaries and consequences at home, but should have found a more professional way to communicate this.

Too much screens, chemical laden processed food, and environmental pollutants have made each generation of kids progressively dumber, unable to concentrate, and off the wall.

[Anonymous]

I am guessing that since OP didn't come back with an update, her child was, in fact, the reason that the teacher quit.

[Anonymous]

I am guessing that OP did not come back, because you people are HORRIBLE as usual. You have read into a situation with your knives out and many of you are delighted because you can talk trash about daycare workers, moms, and children!

I shouldn't be surprised, since this one was fairly predictable Mommy Wars BS, but don't sit here and say that OP didn't come back because her child was the problem. She probably didn't come back because most of you are pretty horrible beyond your courageous anonymity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am guessing that OP did not come back, because you people are HORRIBLE as usual. You have read into a situation with your knives out and many of you are delighted because you can talk trash about daycare workers, moms, and children!

I shouldn't be surprised, since this one was fairly predictable Mommy Wars BS, but don't sit here and say that OP didn't come back because her child was the problem. She probably didn't come back because most of you are pretty horrible beyond your courageous anonymity.

This.