Daycare teacher gone. Our kids fault?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

You wouldn't be so bothered by it unless you though there was some truth to it. Since you're not at school you can't really speak to what his behavior is like when you're not there. Time to call a conference and find out what's really going on.

[Anonymous]

Don’t reach out to the teacher on Facebook, for heaven’s sake! If she did quit because of your child, she doesn’t want to hear from you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

You wouldn't be so bothered by it unless you though there was some truth to it. Since you're not at school you can't really speak to what his behavior is like when you're not there. Time to call a conference and find out what's really going on.

What? I would be bothered by this comment regardless of whether I knew if there was truth to it or not. It sounds like OP has already scheduled a call and reached out to the departed teacher.

[Anonymous]

Your kids probably needs a proper eval OP. Maybe another kid in the class does too.

[Anonymous]

I think you should have an open and honest conversation with the Director and maybe the teacher assistant. Don’t go into it defensive, but open and receptive. If there is an issue with your son, it is better to find out now, so you can address it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

OP, it's telling that you latched onto this comment, by far the most far-fetched theory in the thread. The only thing crazier than a teacher telling a parent to their face "your kid made Ms. Larla quit" would be her telling a parent that about *not* their kid. This willing credulity, on top of calling your kid's behavior "boy behavior" and barely knowing the TA ("seems sweet [but dumb]") tells me that it's extremely likely your kid is a menace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

OP, it's telling that you latched onto this comment, by far the most far-fetched theory in the thread. The only thing crazier than a teacher telling a parent to their face "your kid made Ms. Larla quit" would be her telling a parent that about *not* their kid. This willing credulity, on top of calling your kid's behavior "boy behavior" and barely knowing the TA ("seems sweet [but dumb]") tells me that it's extremely likely your kid is a menace.

The kid may be a handful, but you’re calling a 3 year old a “menace”?

[Anonymous]

This is such a weird comment and I can’t understand why they wouldn’t have spoken to you about your child’s behavioral issues already if people were quitting their jobs due to it.

I would be very put off by a daycare or school that 1. Gossiped this way to parents and 2. Didn’t communicate about serious issues they were noticing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

OP, it's telling that you latched onto this comment, by far the most far-fetched theory in the thread. The only thing crazier than a teacher telling a parent to their face "your kid made Ms. Larla quit" would be her telling a parent that about *not* their kid. This willing credulity, on top of calling your kid's behavior "boy behavior" and barely knowing the TA ("seems sweet [but dumb]") tells me that it's extremely likely your kid is a menace.

The kid may be a handful, but you’re calling a 3 year old a “menace”?

99.5% of three year olds are a handful. Not many cause a daycare worker to quit her job and her coworker to commiserate about it in front of their mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

You wouldn't be so bothered by it unless you though there was some truth to it. Since you're not at school you can't really speak to what his behavior is like when you're not there. Time to call a conference and find out what's really going on.

What? I would be bothered by this comment regardless of whether I knew if there was truth to it or not. It sounds like OP has already scheduled a call and reached out to the departed teacher.

Was it not clear? If you are honest about your kids this wouldn't come as a surprise. If you are upset, then you know there is something there. If someone said this about either of my sons I wouldn't believe it. And would go on with my day. But, if it was said about my daughter, then I wouldn't be shocked and losing sleep over it. I know my kids well enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

OP, it's telling that you latched onto this comment, by far the most far-fetched theory in the thread. The only thing crazier than a teacher telling a parent to their face "your kid made Ms. Larla quit" would be her telling a parent that about *not* their kid. This willing credulity, on top of calling your kid's behavior "boy behavior" and barely knowing the TA ("seems sweet [but dumb]") tells me that it's extremely likely your kid is a menace.

The kid may be a handful, but you’re calling a 3 year old a “menace”?

99.5% of three year olds are a handful. Not many cause a daycare worker to quit her job and her coworker to commiserate about it in front of their mom.

I used to work at a daycare. This is a completely unprofessional and unhelpful way to express concern over a child’s behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

OP, it's telling that you latched onto this comment, by far the most far-fetched theory in the thread. The only thing crazier than a teacher telling a parent to their face "your kid made Ms. Larla quit" would be her telling a parent that about *not* their kid. This willing credulity, on top of calling your kid's behavior "boy behavior" and barely knowing the TA ("seems sweet [but dumb]") tells me that it's extremely likely your kid is a menace.

The kid may be a handful, but you’re calling a 3 year old a “menace”?

99.5% of three year olds are a handful. Not many cause a daycare worker to quit her job and her coworker to commiserate about it in front of their mom.

I used to work at a daycare. This is a completely unprofessional and unhelpful way to express concern over a child’s behavior.

Maybe OP misunderstood when they talked about "normal boy behavior" because she has heard some things about her son. But OPs idea of what's normal may not be the same as the day care teachers. It's not par for the course that boys be loud, rowdy and excitable just because they are boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a weird comment and I can’t understand why they wouldn’t have spoken to you about your child’s behavioral issues already if people were quitting their jobs due to it.

I would be very put off by a daycare or school that 1. Gossiped this way to parents and 2. Didn’t communicate about serious issues they were noticing

This. Something is off about the whole situation.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm not surprised that so many people assume your kid is awful. Speak to the director and find out what is really going on. If your child's behavior is this terrible that a teacher quit over it, the daycare should have had a direct conversation with you about it. You shouldn't have to guess and read between the lines with the people who are caring for your 3 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird that the assistant would be so blunt. It almost makes me wonder if she meant some other kid but said your kid’s name because she was looking at you. It can’t hurt to get honest feedback on your son’s behavior. If the assistant’s comment wasn’t erroneous, you need to know what’s going on.

I’m wondering if she just got me confused with another kids parent?

There is a little boy in the class who is constant trouble. He’s in the office a lot during pick ups.

You wouldn't be so bothered by it unless you though there was some truth to it. Since you're not at school you can't really speak to what his behavior is like when you're not there. Time to call a conference and find out what's really going on.

What? I would be bothered by this comment regardless of whether I knew if there was truth to it or not. It sounds like OP has already scheduled a call and reached out to the departed teacher.

Was it not clear? If you are honest about your kids this wouldn't come as a surprise. If you are upset, then you know there is something there. If someone said this about either of my sons I wouldn't believe it. And would go on with my day. But, if it was said about my daughter, then I wouldn't be shocked and losing sleep over it. I know my kids well enough.

Lol. You wouldn't follow up on the comments about your sons? You are the entitled parents we are quitting our jobs over! Because you just can't believe your little prince charming is wreaking havoc all day.