can you maintain a relationship with family if your sibling is a mooch

[Anonymous]

Nobody WANTS to live at home in their 30s & 40s + not working or living an independent life. If someone fits that description it’s because they likely have MH or physical issues preventing them from living a full life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL is an actress in her mid 50s. Since she started her career she has had regular acting and radio work but she has never had her 'big break' and has often struggled financially. Sometimes there were long gaps of several months when she had no work.

When she doesn't get any acting work she refuses to get other jobs to pay the bills because, in her own words, she 'can't go to auditions' if she takes a regular job, like waitressing or working in a store.
She also likes flashing the cash when she does get paid for an acting job.

SIL has always received a lot more practical, emotional and financial support from MIL than my DH and his other siblings, and she was never encouraged by MIL to look for other work.



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That's unusual, I think most actors and actresses have to have a second jobs to pay the bills, and the majority are out of acting work longer than in it.
I used to work with an aspiring young actress. Her day job was receptionist, it never stopped her auditioning though.

I have no relation to acting but I’m currently reading Jenna Fischer’s book on it & it is a real eye-opener of what it takes to break in if you have no family in the business

[Anonymous]

CAN you have a relationship? Yes. My husband's entire family remain close with my BIL and despite the fact that my BIL hasn't worked in 20 years. They blame it on his wife, who for some reason doesn't get along with them.

Do you WANT to have a relationship? That's the real question. I'd probably be a little more diplomatic in the way you criticize your brother. Your parents are probably well-aware of and embarrassed that the fact that they have enabled him. Unless it's directly affecting you with requests for money or time I would probably avoid the topic or at most say, "This isn't something I want to discuss Mom" when she rails against the person that caused your brother's car accident. Your parents aren't going to change and neither is your brother.