DD 16 attempted suicide Friday. Need tips for ME.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heartwood is the intensive out patient program under the umbrella of Healthy Foundations. They do use DBT. Do schedule an intake appointment with them. As others have said, they do take BCBS. Embark gave us a huge quote for cost, said they would not work with BCBS. There is also Helix, but don’t know if they take insurance. Our Ped suggested that group. Strongly suggest getting on some waitlists for IOP.

I will be contacted at the end of May for intake when they anticipate an opening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh goodness, OP. That's horrific for you and your daughter. Our child was not admitted to a local inpatient facility because there was "a violence threat" from another teen on the ward. So we stayed in the hospital emergency department while they searched out of state.

So do you have at least a PHP in place, somewhere for your DD to go after discharge?

They discharged DD to us a day early since they could not keep her safe. She had to spend her last night in ICU. Which is a mattress on the floor of an otherwise empty floor. This was the SECOND time they had to keep her safe from a threat, a known threat. I cant even talk about it anymore.

The PHP that was available is their PHP. Their claim is that no one violent is admitted to the PHP program. Im not sure I believe them anymore.

I am so sorry OP. Please keep us posted.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry to hear about your updates and further trauma your daughter and your family have been through. You have been on my mind a lot these past few days and I was coming back on just to say I was thinking about you. You have a lot of anonymous support out here, if that’s any comfort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry to hear about your updates and further trauma your daughter and your family have been through. You have been on my mind a lot these past few days and I was coming back on just to say I was thinking about you. You have a lot of anonymous support out here, if that’s any comfort.

OP here. This means a lot. Thank you.

I'm working from a laptop at the library while DD is at her first day of PHP. To her credit, she is giving it a go. She has been freaked out but she also has had moments of significant insight which may help her achieve a more accurate diagnosis.

It has just been so disheartening to consider that she will always have this struggle or some similar struggle.

However I have felt not entirely alone, thanks to my husband, a colleague whose daughter made two attempts and is now doing well, and your anonymous support.

Hugs.

[Anonymous]

OP again, things are starting to take form.

I have found an IOP program that has a place for DD which I think is the best thing for her. I still need to find an individual therapist but that may be part of the IOP as well, if we can find the right fit. Will see.

A while back we told DD that we would put certain network and IT type protections in place in the event that anything happened to her that would allow us to look and see what her activity was

I am seeing some, not a lot, but some concerning communications of a sexual nature which I didnt expect, and its not sexting or porn but sharing of "kinks" with another teen. Pretty explicit and kind of laughable for someone with no real sexual experience, which I know is a fact because she has been in my presence 24/7 for a few years now, thanks to pandemic and the need to generally keep an eye on her.

Along with several other factors, including her psychiatrists renewed interest in getting her properly diagnosed, it looks like we are heading in the direction of a Bipolar diagnosis, possibly overlapping /comorbi with Borderline Personality Disorder. Of course also possible is some other mood disorder with ADHD and GAD since she has ADHD, GAD and major depression DX's.

My husband and I have been collecting and poring over large amounts of very specific diagnostic reference materials from NIMH and other medical sources regarding bipolar II and BPD. It seems it wont be an easy path forward for her, but we are heading towards the area of getting to the truth of what have been her issues.

Scary. Sad. But its better to be moving toward the truth, eventhough it is scary and sad.