The Research on Various Childcare Options

[Anonymous]

That blog sounds very Republican. Woman, just stay mom and do your job.
Awful.
It's obvious it's the foods, diets that changes the kids moods and behaviors. Junk food makes adhd worse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't want a screaming baby at home, and being scared, afraid of people because that happens when you isolate infants from others. They are even scared of people's laugh.

Don't put your child in a bubble

What a bizarre comment. Babies cared for at home by a parent are not afraid of people, they don't cry when others start laughing. I think you must be in a bubble yourself, that involves telling yourself whatever makes you feel okay with your own personal choices.

So you never seen a child afraid of OTHERS PEOPLE'S LAUGH??

REALLY???

I met a baby who was at home all the time. Anything, even seeing people's faces would make that poor boy cry. Even other normal noises would make him cry. At home they are not learning a lot.

At home they don't have challenges to surpass, no cognitive development, antisocial.

[Anonymous]

Many parents let's the child keep using pacifier all the d*m time.

Do they know that will hurt thier child's speech? No because we are parents, most of us just wants anything to make then stop crying.

But I know some moms would need a blog to teach them to stop giving pacifiers to their 2 years old.
I know you want some peace at home but you gotta be consistent. Stop babying your kids. Teach them to be independent.
Lots of lazy parents here and just want Early Educators do everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These topics are difficult to discuss in mom forums (like this one) because people feel judged for the choices they make/made.

But let's assume you had access to any childcare option. There's no monetary constraint. You have loving grandparents who want to be caretakers for your infant. You have found the Mary Poppins of baby nannies and the cost is no big deal to you. How many would still choose center-based care for an infant?

Most of these findings line up with my intuitive feelings as a mom whose been through this a couple of times. But I didn't have infinite financial resources, we didn't have grandparents who lived nearby, the US does not grant a year or two years of parental leave, so we did the best we could.

I don't know, I mean I think there are valid questions to be asked about the research. I mean just saying that people don't want to hear what you are saying, doesn't make what you are saying right.

This whole thing about cortisol in kids in daycare strikes me as really disingenuous fearmongering. Cortisol levels vary based on sleep patterns. A lot of kids nap at daycare and don't nap at home. So if you compare weekday level cortisol level patterns to weekends (which is what most of the studies do), you'll see a difference. Is it because daycare is a dystopia of stressed out young children? Maybe but I'm not convinced. It's funny because one of the few studies that actually compares kids that stay at home to kids that go to daycare found that the kids at home had higher cortisol levels. Then suddenly they mention the benefits of daycare - consistent schedules - which are really good for young kids' stress levels.

Yep. In daycare my kid is constantly engaging with other kids and toys he doesn't have at home. At home he gets bored, asks me to be super engaged with playing with him all the time, and wants to watch TV and whines when I say no.

This doesn’t make me want to send my child to daycare. I’d be worried about the constant stimuli and noise. Your poor child never gets a break from other kids, movement, noise etc. I understand that kids have siblings but daycare is on another level. I’d be concerned if your child is acting like this at home. You can almost tell daycare kids because they are always work out and over stimulated.

My kid is almost 4, I think he can handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These topics are difficult to discuss in mom forums (like this one) because people feel judged for the choices they make/made.

But let's assume you had access to any childcare option. There's no monetary constraint. You have loving grandparents who want to be caretakers for your infant. You have found the Mary Poppins of baby nannies and the cost is no big deal to you. How many would still choose center-based care for an infant?

Most of these findings line up with my intuitive feelings as a mom whose been through this a couple of times. But I didn't have infinite financial resources, we didn't have grandparents who lived nearby, the US does not grant a year or two years of parental leave, so we did the best we could.

I don't know, I mean I think there are valid questions to be asked about the research. I mean just saying that people don't want to hear what you are saying, doesn't make what you are saying right.

This whole thing about cortisol in kids in daycare strikes me as really disingenuous fearmongering. Cortisol levels vary based on sleep patterns. A lot of kids nap at daycare and don't nap at home. So if you compare weekday level cortisol level patterns to weekends (which is what most of the studies do), you'll see a difference. Is it because daycare is a dystopia of stressed out young children? Maybe but I'm not convinced. It's funny because one of the few studies that actually compares kids that stay at home to kids that go to daycare found that the kids at home had higher cortisol levels. Then suddenly they mention the benefits of daycare - consistent schedules - which are really good for young kids' stress levels.

Yep. In daycare my kid is constantly engaging with other kids and toys he doesn't have at home. At home he gets bored, asks me to be super engaged with playing with him all the time, and wants to watch TV and whines when I say no.

Now you've got a kid who doesn't know how to exist without being constantly stimulated. Not sure that's a win.

He exists just fine, thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These topics are difficult to discuss in mom forums (like this one) because people feel judged for the choices they make/made.

But let's assume you had access to any childcare option. There's no monetary constraint. You have loving grandparents who want to be caretakers for your infant. You have found the Mary Poppins of baby nannies and the cost is no big deal to you. How many would still choose center-based care for an infant?

Most of these findings line up with my intuitive feelings as a mom whose been through this a couple of times. But I didn't have infinite financial resources, we didn't have grandparents who lived nearby, the US does not grant a year or two years of parental leave, so we did the best we could.

I don't know, I mean I think there are valid questions to be asked about the research. I mean just saying that people don't want to hear what you are saying, doesn't make what you are saying right.

This whole thing about cortisol in kids in daycare strikes me as really disingenuous fearmongering. Cortisol levels vary based on sleep patterns. A lot of kids nap at daycare and don't nap at home. So if you compare weekday level cortisol level patterns to weekends (which is what most of the studies do), you'll see a difference. Is it because daycare is a dystopia of stressed out young children? Maybe but I'm not convinced. It's funny because one of the few studies that actually compares kids that stay at home to kids that go to daycare found that the kids at home had higher cortisol levels. Then suddenly they mention the benefits of daycare - consistent schedules - which are really good for young kids' stress levels.

Yep. In daycare my kid is constantly engaging with other kids and toys he doesn't have at home. At home he gets bored, asks me to be super engaged with playing with him all the time, and wants to watch TV and whines when I say no.

This doesn’t make me want to send my child to daycare. I’d be worried about the constant stimuli and noise. Your poor child never gets a break from other kids, movement, noise etc. I understand that kids have siblings but daycare is on another level. I’d be concerned if your child is acting like this at home. You can almost tell daycare kids because they are always work out and over stimulated.

My kid is almost 4, I think he can handle it.

Also, they have naptime/quiet time for 1.5 hours after lunch. They have breakfast and lunch and sit around at a table and eat and chill. They have plenty of outdoor time and can play with each other or dig up dirt by themselves or whatever. Before and after school and on weekends there is plenty of him to chill out or do whatever he wants away from the "constant simuli and noise". In a little over a year and half, he's going to be starting kindergarten where it's going to be "constant simuli and noise". Or are you guys going to skip that and keep your kids hiding in a dark room until they're 12?

Lol, "You can almost tell daycare kids because they are always work out and over stimulated". Well, I can always tell nanny kids because they're usually sitting in a stroller staring at the sky and bored out of their minds while their nanny is texting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of the studies she cites are 15+ years old and some are from the 70s. Does not seem very current

Did Science 2 come out in the mean time?

Sorry, when you see your doctor do you ask them to ignore any research newer than 1977 because you’re pretty sure they’d nailed it by then?? Or would you perhaps value seeing if anything has been updated or changed this millennium?

[Anonymous]

Is your kid being bored a bad thing now? My mom would always hand me a broom if I said I was bored. Found a way to not be bored really quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your kid being bored a bad thing now? My mom would always hand me a broom if I said I was bored. Found a way to not be bored really quickly.

What’s your point? It sounds like you weren’t bored with the broom so why are you asking if being bored is bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your kid being bored a bad thing now? My mom would always hand me a broom if I said I was bored. Found a way to not be bored really quickly.

What’s your point? It sounds like you weren’t bored with the broom so why are you asking if being bored is bad?

Oh you meant you weren’t bored because you didn’t want to clean. LOL I thought you meant you liked playing with the broom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These topics are difficult to discuss in mom forums (like this one) because people feel judged for the choices they make/made.

But let's assume you had access to any childcare option. There's no monetary constraint. You have loving grandparents who want to be caretakers for your infant. You have found the Mary Poppins of baby nannies and the cost is no big deal to you. How many would still choose center-based care for an infant?

Most of these findings line up with my intuitive feelings as a mom whose been through this a couple of times. But I didn't have infinite financial resources, we didn't have grandparents who lived nearby, the US does not grant a year or two years of parental leave, so we did the best we could.

I don't know, I mean I think there are valid questions to be asked about the research. I mean just saying that people don't want to hear what you are saying, doesn't make what you are saying right.

This whole thing about cortisol in kids in daycare strikes me as really disingenuous fearmongering. Cortisol levels vary based on sleep patterns. A lot of kids nap at daycare and don't nap at home. So if you compare weekday level cortisol level patterns to weekends (which is what most of the studies do), you'll see a difference. Is it because daycare is a dystopia of stressed out young children? Maybe but I'm not convinced. It's funny because one of the few studies that actually compares kids that stay at home to kids that go to daycare found that the kids at home had higher cortisol levels. Then suddenly they mention the benefits of daycare - consistent schedules - which are really good for young kids' stress levels.

Yep. In daycare my kid is constantly engaging with other kids and toys he doesn't have at home. At home he gets bored, asks me to be super engaged with playing with him all the time, and wants to watch TV and whines when I say no.

This doesn’t make me want to send my child to daycare. I’d be worried about the constant stimuli and noise. Your poor child never gets a break from other kids, movement, noise etc. I understand that kids have siblings but daycare is on another level. I’d be concerned if your child is acting like this at home. You can almost tell daycare kids because they are always work out and over stimulated.

My kid is almost 4, I think he can handle it.

Also, they have naptime/quiet time for 1.5 hours after lunch. They have breakfast and lunch and sit around at a table and eat and chill. They have plenty of outdoor time and can play with each other or dig up dirt by themselves or whatever. Before and after school and on weekends there is plenty of him to chill out or do whatever he wants away from the "constant simuli and noise". In a little over a year and half, he's going to be starting kindergarten where it's going to be "constant simuli and noise". Or are you guys going to skip that and keep your kids hiding in a dark room until they're 12?

Lol, "You can almost tell daycare kids because they are always work out and over stimulated". Well, I can always tell nanny kids because they're usually sitting in a stroller staring at the sky and bored out of their minds while their nanny is texting.

You don’t sound very secure with your choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your kid being bored a bad thing now? My mom would always hand me a broom if I said I was bored. Found a way to not be bored really quickly.

It actually is. Kids are constantly stimulated now. Many are out in front of a screen if bored. Parents are expected to play with and entertain kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These topics are difficult to discuss in mom forums (like this one) because people feel judged for the choices they make/made.

But let's assume you had access to any childcare option. There's no monetary constraint. You have loving grandparents who want to be caretakers for your infant. You have found the Mary Poppins of baby nannies and the cost is no big deal to you. How many would still choose center-based care for an infant?

Most of these findings line up with my intuitive feelings as a mom whose been through this a couple of times. But I didn't have infinite financial resources, we didn't have grandparents who lived nearby, the US does not grant a year or two years of parental leave, so we did the best we could.

I don't know, I mean I think there are valid questions to be asked about the research. I mean just saying that people don't want to hear what you are saying, doesn't make what you are saying right.

This whole thing about cortisol in kids in daycare strikes me as really disingenuous fearmongering. Cortisol levels vary based on sleep patterns. A lot of kids nap at daycare and don't nap at home. So if you compare weekday level cortisol level patterns to weekends (which is what most of the studies do), you'll see a difference. Is it because daycare is a dystopia of stressed out young children? Maybe but I'm not convinced. It's funny because one of the few studies that actually compares kids that stay at home to kids that go to daycare found that the kids at home had higher cortisol levels. Then suddenly they mention the benefits of daycare - consistent schedules - which are really good for young kids' stress levels.

Yep. In daycare my kid is constantly engaging with other kids and toys he doesn't have at home. At home he gets bored, asks me to be super engaged with playing with him all the time, and wants to watch TV and whines when I say no.

This doesn’t make me want to send my child to daycare. I’d be worried about the constant stimuli and noise. Your poor child never gets a break from other kids, movement, noise etc. I understand that kids have siblings but daycare is on another level. I’d be concerned if your child is acting like this at home. You can almost tell daycare kids because they are always work out and over stimulated.

My kid is almost 4, I think he can handle it.

Also, they have naptime/quiet time for 1.5 hours after lunch. They have breakfast and lunch and sit around at a table and eat and chill. They have plenty of outdoor time and can play with each other or dig up dirt by themselves or whatever. Before and after school and on weekends there is plenty of him to chill out or do whatever he wants away from the "constant simuli and noise". In a little over a year and half, he's going to be starting kindergarten where it's going to be "constant simuli and noise". Or are you guys going to skip that and keep your kids hiding in a dark room until they're 12?

Lol, "You can almost tell daycare kids because they are always work out and over stimulated". Well, I can always tell nanny kids because they're usually sitting in a stroller staring at the sky and bored out of their minds while their nanny is texting.

You don’t sound very secure with your choices.

I’m actually pretty confident that I’ve made good choices

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These topics are difficult to discuss in mom forums (like this one) because people feel judged for the choices they make/made.

But let's assume you had access to any childcare option. There's no monetary constraint. You have loving grandparents who want to be caretakers for your infant. You have found the Mary Poppins of baby nannies and the cost is no big deal to you. How many would still choose center-based care for an infant?

Most of these findings line up with my intuitive feelings as a mom whose been through this a couple of times. But I didn't have infinite financial resources, we didn't have grandparents who lived nearby, the US does not grant a year or two years of parental leave, so we did the best we could.

I don't know, I mean I think there are valid questions to be asked about the research. I mean just saying that people don't want to hear what you are saying, doesn't make what you are saying right.

This whole thing about cortisol in kids in daycare strikes me as really disingenuous fearmongering. Cortisol levels vary based on sleep patterns. A lot of kids nap at daycare and don't nap at home. So if you compare weekday level cortisol level patterns to weekends (which is what most of the studies do), you'll see a difference. Is it because daycare is a dystopia of stressed out young children? Maybe but I'm not convinced. It's funny because one of the few studies that actually compares kids that stay at home to kids that go to daycare found that the kids at home had higher cortisol levels. Then suddenly they mention the benefits of daycare - consistent schedules - which are really good for young kids' stress levels.

Yep. In daycare my kid is constantly engaging with other kids and toys he doesn't have at home. At home he gets bored, asks me to be super engaged with playing with him all the time, and wants to watch TV and whines when I say no.

This doesn’t make me want to send my child to daycare. I’d be worried about the constant stimuli and noise. Your poor child never gets a break from other kids, movement, noise etc. I understand that kids have siblings but daycare is on another level. I’d be concerned if your child is acting like this at home. You can almost tell daycare kids because they are always work out and over stimulated.

There are Family daycares that has spaces/rooms for children that feel overstimulsted.

Shhh it's called the quiet rooms

Usually it has pillows, books, not much posters, it's a safe area. Parents finds Daycares that can help thier kids who has disabilities. Many providers are trained. Kids like adhd needs small groups or a nanny.

Normal people need a bit of peace in their days. Especially kids who have growing brains and are taking in everything. We have whole generations of kids who are overstimulated, completely reactive and not adequately rested and then we wonder why kids are so messed up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That blog sounds very Republican. Woman, just stay mom and do your job.
Awful.
It's obvious it's the foods, diets that changes the kids moods and behaviors. Junk food makes adhd worse

You clearly didn't read the link.