Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for all the good advice. I guess there really isn’t a cut and dry answer. To clarify a few things…

The other kids are college girl and HS boy.

Saying it might not set a good example was poorly worded. I guess I meant that it could make them uncomfortable, especially her little brother. Her sister couldn’t care less.

The boyfriend is extremely outgoing and will happily just roll with whatever setup we decide on. He has spent lots of time with us and our other kids adore him.

We are inviting him because we genuinely think it would be fun to have him there. It was our idea, not theirs.

Our family vacations have always been all 5 of us crammed in a hotel room. Our kids prefer that to vacation rentals because it’s just easier. So having 4 in a room is going to feel spacious to my other kids. Lol.

I had not thought of putting all four “kids” together. I am leaning towards just asking dd what she would be comfortable with.

Your family of five, with two college-age kids and another teen, usually shares one single hotel room? Do you put two kids in a bed and one on the floor? They’re practically all adults. Something seems off to me here.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend used to get the sofa pull out bed in this situation. Put all the kids in one room.

My inlaws split the room by gender and it was so awkward. I just didn't want to share a hotel room with his sisters and mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for all the good advice. I guess there really isn’t a cut and dry answer. To clarify a few things…

The other kids are college girl and HS boy.

Saying it might not set a good example was poorly worded. I guess I meant that it could make them uncomfortable, especially her little brother. Her sister couldn’t care less.

The boyfriend is extremely outgoing and will happily just roll with whatever setup we decide on. He has spent lots of time with us and our other kids adore him.

We are inviting him because we genuinely think it would be fun to have him there. It was our idea, not theirs.

Our family vacations have always been all 5 of us crammed in a hotel room. Our kids prefer that to vacation rentals because it’s just easier. So having 4 in a room is going to feel spacious to my other kids. Lol.

I had not thought of putting all four “kids” together. I am leaning towards just asking dd what she would be comfortable with.

Sisters + BF in one room. Your son + you/DH in another room.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea. I wouldn't be super excited about 4 of us rooming together so the young couple can have their own room-although if there were 3 rooms I would be fine with them having a room. I also wouldn't put a teen of any gender alone in a room with a college aged guy-I now I"m going to be in the minority and it's unlikely that anything bad would happen, but I've heard too many bad stories to risk it. So-maybe I would flip coins

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for all the good advice. I guess there really isn’t a cut and dry answer. To clarify a few things…

The other kids are college girl and HS boy.

Saying it might not set a good example was poorly worded. I guess I meant that it could make them uncomfortable, especially her little brother. Her sister couldn’t care less.

The boyfriend is extremely outgoing and will happily just roll with whatever setup we decide on. He has spent lots of time with us and our other kids adore him.

We are inviting him because we genuinely think it would be fun to have him there. It was our idea, not theirs.

Our family vacations have always been all 5 of us crammed in a hotel room. Our kids prefer that to vacation rentals because it’s just easier. So having 4 in a room is going to feel spacious to my other kids. Lol.

I had not thought of putting all four “kids” together. I am leaning towards just asking dd what she would be comfortable with.

Your family of five, with two college-age kids and another teen, usually shares one single hotel room? Do you put two kids in a bed and one on the floor? They’re practically all adults. Something seems off to me here.

Not OP, but what are you talking about. Hotel rooms usually have 2 full size beds. 2 kids in one bed, 1 kid in the other bed. Boyfriend on the floor.

[Anonymous]

3 rooms. One for parents, One for siblings, One for the adult couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for all the good advice. I guess there really isn’t a cut and dry answer. To clarify a few things…

The other kids are college girl and HS boy.

Saying it might not set a good example was poorly worded. I guess I meant that it could make them uncomfortable, especially her little brother. Her sister couldn’t care less.

The boyfriend is extremely outgoing and will happily just roll with whatever setup we decide on. He has spent lots of time with us and our other kids adore him.

We are inviting him because we genuinely think it would be fun to have him there. It was our idea, not theirs.

Our family vacations have always been all 5 of us crammed in a hotel room. Our kids prefer that to vacation rentals because it’s just easier. So having 4 in a room is going to feel spacious to my other kids. Lol.

I had not thought of putting all four “kids” together. I am leaning towards just asking dd what she would be comfortable with.

Your family of five, with two college-age kids and another teen, usually shares one single hotel room? Do you put two kids in a bed and one on the floor? They’re practically all adults. Something seems off to me here.

We did something similar growing up. Pull out couch or floor plus double up on beds and it's fine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for all the good advice. I guess there really isn’t a cut and dry answer. To clarify a few things…

The other kids are college girl and HS boy.

Saying it might not set a good example was poorly worded. I guess I meant that it could make them uncomfortable, especially her little brother. Her sister couldn’t care less.

The boyfriend is extremely outgoing and will happily just roll with whatever setup we decide on. He has spent lots of time with us and our other kids adore him.

We are inviting him because we genuinely think it would be fun to have him there. It was our idea, not theirs.

Our family vacations have always been all 5 of us crammed in a hotel room. Our kids prefer that to vacation rentals because it’s just easier. So having 4 in a room is going to feel spacious to my other kids. Lol.

I had not thought of putting all four “kids” together. I am leaning towards just asking dd what she would be comfortable with.

Sisters + BF in one room. Your son + you/DH in another room.

+1. Son will be more comfortable sharing a room with you and DH. 3 in each room also works well with beds and one bathroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for all the good advice. I guess there really isn’t a cut and dry answer. To clarify a few things…

The other kids are college girl and HS boy.

Saying it might not set a good example was poorly worded. I guess I meant that it could make them uncomfortable, especially her little brother. Her sister couldn’t care less.

The boyfriend is extremely outgoing and will happily just roll with whatever setup we decide on. He has spent lots of time with us and our other kids adore him.

We are inviting him because we genuinely think it would be fun to have him there. It was our idea, not theirs.

Our family vacations have always been all 5 of us crammed in a hotel room. Our kids prefer that to vacation rentals because it’s just easier. So having 4 in a room is going to feel spacious to my other kids. Lol.

I had not thought of putting all four “kids” together. I am leaning towards just asking dd what she would be comfortable with.

Your family of five, with two college-age kids and another teen, usually shares one single hotel room? Do you put two kids in a bed and one on the floor? They’re practically all adults. Something seems off to me here.

Not OP, but what are you talking about. Hotel rooms usually have 2 full size beds. 2 kids in one bed, 1 kid in the other bed. Boyfriend on the floor.

Read the thread. pp is responding to a follow up by op where she shares that her family of five (ie two parents and three teens) usually squish into a single hotel room (which sounds terrible/the antithesis to a vacation to many of us, and is surprising she’s even finding standard hotel rooms that allow it but apparently works for them.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dd is 21, and we are taking her boyfriend on vacation with us this summer. If you have done this, what was the sleeping arrangement? We are a family of 5, so he will be the 6th. We are getting 2 hotel rooms. Do we go ahead and let them have one of the rooms? Or do we put girls in one and guys in the other? We all know that they obviously spend the night together all the time, so it kinda seems futile to separate them. But also not sure if it sends the wrong signal to my other kids who are teenagers. What do most people do in this situation? I see people on sm taking their kids’ boyfriends/girlfriends on trips and always wondered how that was handled!

Definitely girls in one room, guys in the other.
This is your simple solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should get three rooms. Two rooms for 6 people is cramped. If you do two rooms only, I guess I would give them their own room. Why is he coming along again?

+1. Don’t be cheap. If you make people cram it is NOT a vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3 rooms. One for parents, One for siblings, One for the adult couple.

This is the ONLY answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for all the good advice. I guess there really isn’t a cut and dry answer. To clarify a few things…

The other kids are college girl and HS boy.

Saying it might not set a good example was poorly worded. I guess I meant that it could make them uncomfortable, especially her little brother. Her sister couldn’t care less.

The boyfriend is extremely outgoing and will happily just roll with whatever setup we decide on. He has spent lots of time with us and our other kids adore him.

We are inviting him because we genuinely think it would be fun to have him there. It was our idea, not theirs.

Our family vacations have always been all 5 of us crammed in a hotel room. Our kids prefer that to vacation rentals because it’s just easier. So having 4 in a room is going to feel spacious to my other kids. Lol.

I had not thought of putting all four “kids” together. I am leaning towards just asking dd what she would be comfortable with.

Sisters + BF in one room. Your son + you/DH in another room.

Younger sister has to lie in bed at night, listing to her sister and boyfriend having sex? That's awful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for all the good advice. I guess there really isn’t a cut and dry answer. To clarify a few things…

The other kids are college girl and HS boy.

Saying it might not set a good example was poorly worded. I guess I meant that it could make them uncomfortable, especially her little brother. Her sister couldn’t care less.

The boyfriend is extremely outgoing and will happily just roll with whatever setup we decide on. He has spent lots of time with us and our other kids adore him.

We are inviting him because we genuinely think it would be fun to have him there. It was our idea, not theirs.

Our family vacations have always been all 5 of us crammed in a hotel room. Our kids prefer that to vacation rentals because it’s just easier. So having 4 in a room is going to feel spacious to my other kids. Lol.

I had not thought of putting all four “kids” together. I am leaning towards just asking dd what she would be comfortable with.

Sisters + BF in one room. Your son + you/DH in another room.

+1. Son will be more comfortable sharing a room with you and DH. 3 in each room also works well with beds and one bathroom.

- 1 do not make your teenage daughter share a bedroom with her sister and sister’s boyfriend with no one else there. So inappropriate!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dd is 21, and we are taking her boyfriend on vacation with us this summer. If you have done this, what was the sleeping arrangement? We are a family of 5, so he will be the 6th. We are getting 2 hotel rooms. Do we go ahead and let them have one of the rooms? Or do we put girls in one and guys in the other? We all know that they obviously spend the night together all the time, so it kinda seems futile to separate them. But also not sure if it sends the wrong signal to my other kids who are teenagers. What do most people do in this situation? I see people on sm taking their kids’ boyfriends/girlfriends on trips and always wondered how that was handled!

Definitely girls in one room, guys in the other.
This is your simple solution.

What kind of lunatics put a daughters BF in a hotel room with his GF’s dad and brother?! That is so weird. Reminds me of Meet the Parents only worse. I don’t care how “outgoing” the kid is (and if he’s polite he’s obviously going to go along) but there is no way he’s comfortable with that.

Is this a WASP thing? So gross.