Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???

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At 21 they are old enough to share a room. In this scenario I don't think it's appropriate for parents to be split up and rooms to be divided by gender. You wouldn't do this if the boyfriend wasn't there, would you? Either you spring for the 3rd room so you have a kids/parents/college couple setup or you sacrifice your comfort and your teens' comfort so the college couple can have some privacy. I know what I would do.

Do you always let your kids run your life? Ridiculous. If they can't afford a third room, parents definitely get their own and all kids share. If the BF isn't comfortable with this he shouldn't go.

Op previously acknowledged that sharing a room with his sister and boyfriend would probably (understandably) make the high school aged younger brother uncomfortable. Do his feelings not matter or should he just not go on the trip?

Can they do

Room 1: One bed: Mom+Dad, Other bed: brother

Room 2: One bed: Sister + Sister, Other bed: boyfriend

Why not put BF with parents to supervise and put three siblings in one room.

I'm sure that would be a fun vacation for boyfriend and parents!

I meant parents supervising BF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a few years the family will be wondering why dd and her boyfriend don't vacation with them anymore...

This^.

[Anonymous]

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At 21 they are old enough to share a room. In this scenario I don't think it's appropriate for parents to be split up and rooms to be divided by gender. You wouldn't do this if the boyfriend wasn't there, would you? Either you spring for the 3rd room so you have a kids/parents/college couple setup or you sacrifice your comfort and your teens' comfort so the college couple can have some privacy. I know what I would do.

Do you always let your kids run your life? Ridiculous. If they can't afford a third room, parents definitely get their own and all kids share. If the BF isn't comfortable with this he shouldn't go.

Op previously acknowledged that sharing a room with his sister and boyfriend would probably (understandably) make the high school aged younger brother uncomfortable. Do his feelings not matter or should he just not go on the trip?

Can they do

Room 1: One bed: Mom+Dad, Other bed: brother

Room 2: One bed: Sister + Sister, Other bed: boyfriend

Are we trying to see just how awkward for BF we can make it?

How about:

Room 1: One bed: Mom+Dad, Other bed: BF+Sister

Room 2: One bed: Sister, Other bed: brother

or

Room 1: One bed: Mom+Dad,

Room 2: One bed: Sister + Sister Other bed: BF + brother

[Anonymous]

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At 21 they are old enough to share a room. In this scenario I don't think it's appropriate for parents to be split up and rooms to be divided by gender. You wouldn't do this if the boyfriend wasn't there, would you? Either you spring for the 3rd room so you have a kids/parents/college couple setup or you sacrifice your comfort and your teens' comfort so the college couple can have some privacy. I know what I would do.

Do you always let your kids run your life? Ridiculous. If they can't afford a third room, parents definitely get their own and all kids share. If the BF isn't comfortable with this he shouldn't go.

Op previously acknowledged that sharing a room with his sister and boyfriend would probably (understandably) make the high school aged younger brother uncomfortable. Do his feelings not matter or should he just not go on the trip?

Can they do

Room 1: One bed: Mom+Dad, Other bed: brother

Room 2: One bed: Sister + Sister, Other bed: boyfriend

Why not put BF with parents to supervise and put three siblings in one room.

I'm sure that would be a fun vacation for boyfriend and parents!

I meant parents supervising BF.

I know that's what you meant, I'm still laughing. He's a 21 year old man. I can't imagine sharing a hotel room with my daughter's boyfriend to prevent sex or whatever the supervising is for.

[Anonymous]

Get one of those rooms with two queens and a fold out couch, or one that allows rollaway beds.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t the two “adults” in question simply get their own hotel room, and of course pay for it?

[Anonymous]

If parents are taking kids for a trip, asking a similar age SO or potential SIL to pay seems odd. If they don't want to spend, shouldn't invite.

If all kids were employed and contributing then SO or SIL can be asked to pay as well.

[Anonymous]

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Why can’t the two “adults” in question simply get their own hotel room, and of course pay for it?

Its a family vacation. If they are paying, they can go anywhere.

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Why can’t all the kids share a room and you and DH get your own room. Your DD and her boyfriend will just have to abstain from having sex in the hotel room.

This is what we did. I can't even imagine telling my DH we were going to share a room with our other kids so that DD and boyfriend could have their own room. LOL.

+100 My DH ain’t about to forego vacation sex so our son or daughter could have it!

The OP is having vacation sex regardless given that she said normally the family of 5 shares 1 room.

[Anonymous]

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Why can’t the two “adults” in question simply get their own hotel room, and of course pay for it?

Because presumably they are in college, and using whatever money they earn to pay a portion of tuition and living expenses.

People on DCUM have the most warped views on money. I pity your children that you're passing them on to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no world in which I'd do this trip with two hotel rooms.

You're either creating a guys/girls situation, which will be incredibly awkward for your daughter and her boyfriend - he, especially, should have the opportunity to have a bit of privacy in the midst of your family.

Or you're putting your kid/her boyfriend in their own room while you and your other kids share a room and somehow giving their relationship primacy over that of you/your spouse.

+1. You should get three rooms.

[Anonymous]

Op previously acknowledged that sharing a room with his sister and boyfriend would probably (understandably) make the high school aged younger brother uncomfortable. Do his feelings not matter or should he just not go on the trip?

Practice critical reading skills. PP suggested having all kids in one room - so younger brother would not be in a room with only his sister and her bf. So yes, his feelings matter but you are assuming a situation that was not suggested since OP has three kids and not just two.

[Anonymous]

For the poster to make things most awkward, you forget the most awkward scenario which is boyfriend bunks with dad and mom hangs with the rest.

[Anonymous]

NP.

Room 1 - DD1 + Her BF

Room 2 with a pullout sofa and two Double beds:

Mom/Dad in 1 double bed, DD2 in one double bed, DS on the pullout sofa.

[Anonymous]

PP again.

Or put all 4 kids in a room with double beds

Both DDs in one, DS and BF in another. Mom/Dad get their room.