Taking adult child’s boyfriend on vacation - sleeping arrangement???

[Anonymous]

I think you and husband should take one room and put all the kids; teens and couple in the second room and have them figure out the bed situation themselves.

[Anonymous]

I read this entire thread which was very entertaining. This is starting to sound like a SAT problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no world in which I'd do this trip with two hotel rooms.

You're either creating a guys/girls situation, which will be incredibly awkward for your daughter and her boyfriend - he, especially, should have the opportunity to have a bit of privacy in the midst of your family.

Or you're putting your kid/her boyfriend in their own room while you and your other kids share a room and somehow giving their relationship primacy over that of you/your spouse.

Two hotel room? NFW

[Anonymous]

I'd get a 3 bedroom rental or not have the BF come. I'm fine with them sleeping together but no way the people paying should be less comfortable than the 21 year olds living it up in their own room.

[Anonymous]

ROOM 1: mom, other bed sisters
ROOM 2: dad, other bed brother, pull-out couch BF

[Anonymous]

Did not read all 12 pages, but I'd get 3 rooms: 1 for parents, one for GF/BF, one for other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did not read all 12 pages, but I'd get 3 rooms: 1 for parents, one for GF/BF, one for other kids.

Yup. OP can assign rooms in whichever configuration she feels is better but if they can afford and want a pleasant and relaxing trip, they need three rooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have any problem with a 21yo having sex with her boyfriend, but if anyone is having sex on the vacation it’s gonna be he/she who pays the bills… so if we couldn’t afford 3 rooms it would be me and DH in our own room and all the “kids” in the other. The BF can deal with the lack of privacy or skip the trip. Why is he going on the family vacation anyway?

This...

[Anonymous]

I'm old, over 50. When my now husband and I were dating, his parents invited me on a trip with them, just a weekend jaunt to some wineries. I assumed I was staying in one room and the three of them in another. Boy was I surprised when my future MIL handed us the key to the second room AND -- we still laugh about this with her and she is in her late 80s -- she gave us a goodie bag with snacks, sodas, magazines... and as she hne handed it to us she said, "no condoms are in there, you're on your own for those." I was SHOCKED. SHOCKED. It definitely set the tone for our relationship as MIL-DIL. I knew then there were probably few things I couldn't go to her with, and she ended up being enormously helpful when we were having issues getting pregnant. I'm not suggesting you do what she did, OP, but we did appreciate being treated like adults and our relationship accepted for what it was.

[Anonymous]

Separate bedrooms and no sex until marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Separate bedrooms and no sex until marriage.

I don't think they are planning on taking a time machine to the hotel.

[Anonymous]

If you can't afford another room, Id put all 4 "kids" in one room.

[Anonymous]

I have been in this situation and it was parent and one sister in one room and my bf and I and his sister in the other room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Separate bedrooms and no sex until marriage.

The cats out of the bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Separate bedrooms and no sex until marriage.

The cats out of the bag.

Just hope the bag is in the cat, until marriage.