I think I offended my boss

[Anonymous]

Sorry, but I think you need to find a new job. I had a similar experience and trust me, its her, not you.

Do whatever it takes to get along and give no offense, this may be difficult because she sounds insecure. But do what you must while you job search. You do not want to work there any longer than you have to because you will be walking on egg-shells.

[Anonymous]

Both OP and the boss are making mistakes and are likely hard to work with. OP is undermining the boss and not getting a read on hierarchy and culture and the boss is immature and slinging insults rather than giving professional and constructive feedback.

Either way, it’s not going to work out long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not appreciate being told, as a manager, that my pace is slow and you were not used to working in such a slow office culture. WTF!
For the record my pace is brutal and I don't think it is the right way, but telling other people, my boss no less, that their pace is leisurely or relaxed or slow is not a great way to make friends and get a good reputation.

If you as a manager were playing games like that, then even more reason to leave. “You’re being too pushy! Slow down and give them time to respond … what, you dare call us ‘slow paced’?? How insulting!!!”

Op here. I’m actually surprised she seemed to imply I can come across as condescending especially since I apparently say, “ that’s great” or “that would be great”

I had never seen office space so I never made the connection until I watched it. God so embarrassing

If she thinks you are condescending, there is probably nothing you can do. You cannot control her perception and it is her perception that controls the situation, not your intention. Good luck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your boss sounds like she’s got a personality disorder.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is everyone getting this idea that OP was demanding people prioritize the project or setting unreasonable deadlines?

They are projecting and it is fascinating

[Anonymous]

I still want the background - age, job history, etc.

NP. I just think it’s relevant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. No matter what you did, your boss’s behavior towards you is unacceptable. Cancelling meetings for no good reasons, ignoring chats. If she has a legit problem with you, she needs to give you that feedback directly and dispassionately. WTF does that mean “boss from Office Space”

The boss from Office Space consistently hounds on "TPS Reports". Asks about them, reminds employees about them, does numerous follow ups, etc. Everyone knows about the reports and they do not need the follow ups, nor do the employees think the reports are really as important as the boss does.

Maybe OP needs to watch the movie and gather her own take a ways.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fy3rjQGc6lA

But OP’s boss mentioned Office Space in reference to OP being “snobby”. It doesn’t make sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still want the background - age, job history, etc.

NP. I just think it’s relevant

33. I have been a project manager/coordinator for the past 8 years or so. I have head a cross-departmental project worth 2 million dollars that was completed successfully. I pride myself on my attention to detail, planning and communication skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you pretty?

Are you a foreigner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you pretty?

Are you a foreigner?

Yes. South American. Boss is white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you pretty?

Are you a foreigner?

Yes. South American. Boss is white.

There's often a problem of non-trusting with foreigners. You being assertive is seen as some hidden agenda and different communication style as being non-respectful. If you are new and driven, of course there will be people who don't want that kind of a contrast next to their own performance.

It will be difficult to succeed and less stress on the job when the boss is by default not on your side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Managers perspective: Sometimes overly type-A achievers miss the nuance in project management. You are given a target - and you set out to conquer that goal, right now, faster than required, and checking every box with zero variation.

In school this was a good thing, study for the test and get an A. The higher you go up the ladder in business, the less this attribute is seen as a positive. Showing that you can achieve is good; knowing the boundaries, priority, or how to adjust tone/pace/projects/influence stakeholders are more important.

I was this person in my early 20s. I managed this person a few times in my career. Now I mentor.

You are thinking “look at me! I’m so proactive. I’m crushing it ! Look I’m talking to execs to get my project done early!” And your boss is thinking “why don’t they understand this is my 15th priority on the list. And you are threatening my credibility with leadership by making it appear that I don’t understand priorities and am giving bad direction.”

Your manager should have pulled you aside and been more constructive in feedback. Best way to handle it next time is to say “I’m interested in understanding how project fits into companies objectives. How would you prioritize this?”

YES. I agree with this 100%. From another manager.

[Anonymous]

Stop showing up your boss
You making her look bad
Slow down

Get on your knees and ask for forgiveness

[Anonymous]

Sounds like OP decided they were the golden child after the first review and that they have carte blanche to do the boss' bidding around the organization. Boss is probably hearing blowback from their peers because OP is being annoying and/or distracting.