I think I offended my boss

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. No matter what you did, your boss’s behavior towards you is unacceptable. Cancelling meetings for no good reasons, ignoring chats. If she has a legit problem with you, she needs to give you that feedback directly and dispassionately. WTF does that mean “boss from Office Space”

The boss from Office Space consistently hounds on "TPS Reports". Asks about them, reminds employees about them, does numerous follow ups, etc. Everyone knows about the reports and they do not need the follow ups, nor do the employees think the reports are really as important as the boss does.

Maybe OP needs to watch the movie and gather her own take a ways.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fy3rjQGc6lA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. No matter what you did, your boss’s behavior towards you is unacceptable. Cancelling meetings for no good reasons, ignoring chats. If she has a legit problem with you, she needs to give you that feedback directly and dispassionately. WTF does that mean “boss from Office Space”

The boss from Office Space consistently hounds on "TPS Reports". Asks about them, reminds employees about them, does numerous follow ups, etc. Everyone knows about the reports and they do not need the follow ups, nor do the employees think the reports are really as important as the boss does.

Maybe OP needs to watch the movie and gather her own take a ways.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fy3rjQGc6lA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5Uf3QKtuX0

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She just doesn't like your vibe. You are ordering her around but she is your boss and she doesn't think she needs to be racing to answer you. You are fed up with her not snapping to attention and retaliate by seeking someone else to do her job on your time line. Just chill

a boss who would undermine a subordinate like that is just … wow.

The subordinate undermined the boss by racing to ask another employee (at presumably the bosses level or higher). That guy was annoyed at having to do boss lady's job and told boss "Hey, why is underling asking me this stuff? What's going on over there?" Op reached out because she has tunnel vision that her work needs to be completed asap and got frustrated too quickly by boss. Boss sees this makes her look bad and snaps at op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She just doesn't like your vibe. You are ordering her around but she is your boss and she doesn't think she needs to be racing to answer you. You are fed up with her not snapping to attention and retaliate by seeking someone else to do her job on your time line. Just chill

a boss who would undermine a subordinate like that is just … wow.

The subordinate undermined the boss by racing to ask another employee (at presumably the bosses level or higher). That guy was annoyed at having to do boss lady's job and told boss "Hey, why is underling asking me this stuff? What's going on over there?" Op reached out because she has tunnel vision that her work needs to be completed asap and got frustrated too quickly by boss. Boss sees this makes her look bad and snaps at op.

None of that is in what OP wrote. You are inventing details.

[Anonymous]

The TPS reports don't have to be done asap and will be addressed at some point so just chill out about them before running around asking everyone to do them

[Anonymous]

Where is everyone getting this idea that OP was demanding people prioritize the project or setting unreasonable deadlines?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is everyone getting this idea that OP was demanding people prioritize the project or setting unreasonable deadlines?

The OP says the boss told her people complained that she was "aggressive"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is everyone getting this idea that OP was demanding people prioritize the project or setting unreasonable deadlines?

The OP says the boss told her people complained that she was "aggressive"

That’s the only detail? That word means a lot of different things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is everyone getting this idea that OP was demanding people prioritize the project or setting unreasonable deadlines?

The OP says the boss told her people complained that she was "aggressive"

That’s the only detail? That word means a lot of different things.

Not when coupled with the comparison to Office Space boss. I assumed boss meant she was aggressive like Lumbergh the character.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP. No matter what you did, your boss’s behavior towards you is unacceptable. Cancelling meetings for no good reasons, ignoring chats. If she has a legit problem with you, she needs to give you that feedback directly and dispassionately. WTF does that mean “boss from Office Space”

The boss from Office Space consistently hounds on "TPS Reports". Asks about them, reminds employees about them, does numerous follow ups, etc. Everyone knows about the reports and they do not need the follow ups, nor do the employees think the reports are really as important as the boss does.

Maybe OP needs to watch the movie and gather her own take a ways.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fy3rjQGc6lA

It’s a truly nasty allusion. Even if OP needs some coaching on how to collaborate across teams, it’s her bosses job to identify that and help her. Plus boss put her in that position by expressly refusing to talk to OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She just doesn't like your vibe. You are ordering her around but she is your boss and she doesn't think she needs to be racing to answer you. You are fed up with her not snapping to attention and retaliate by seeking someone else to do her job on your time line. Just chill

a boss who would undermine a subordinate like that is just … wow.

The subordinate undermined the boss by racing to ask another employee (at presumably the bosses level or higher). That guy was annoyed at having to do boss lady's job and told boss "Hey, why is underling asking me this stuff? What's going on over there?" Op reached out because she has tunnel vision that her work needs to be completed asap and got frustrated too quickly by boss. Boss sees this makes her look bad and snaps at op.

Can you read? The boss TOLD her to ask the third party. Then when the third party complained to the boss, boss threw OP under the bus and insulted her. It’s entirely possible OP needs coaching but that is NOT what boss is doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The TPS reports don't have to be done asap and will be addressed at some point so just chill out about them before running around asking everyone to do them

… no. the TPS reports never get done, then OP gets in trouble. this is truly a double bind for OP. not an uncommon one, but one that she absolutely needs support from her boss to accomplish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is everyone getting this idea that OP was demanding people prioritize the project or setting unreasonable deadlines?

The OP says the boss told her people complained that she was "aggressive"

Oh we all know what it means to call a young woman “aggressive” in the office …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We need more info:
How old are you? Is this your first job? if not, what was your last job and what was the feedback there?

Why haven’t you answered this? It’s important to know whether this interaction is a one-off or if you have a pattern of struggling or if you’ve ever worked with others in an office setting like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We need more info:
How old are you? Is this your first job? if not, what was your last job and what was the feedback there?

Why haven’t you answered this? It’s important to know whether this interaction is a one-off or if you have a pattern of struggling or if you’ve ever worked with others in an office setting like this.

+3

I'm wondering if this is the Op who posted awhile back how/why she can't keep a job for more than a year.