Are you more, less, or equally as physically attractive as your husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure but I know I have a much better personality. It's the fact that my husband is an ass that makes our marriage suffer.

Hilarious. I know not for you, I mean I know how you feel. My husband can be a complete ass as well, but so much that out marriage suffers. He is a dick tho

[Anonymous]

clothes on - we're about equal, he's funny, cute and successful so women love to flirt with him

clothes off - me -

[Anonymous]

We were close when we got married - but he would have won. I was really in good shape but never really pretty. Now, he would still win. I have a much, much better personality though...hopefully that will do for another year or two until I can get in shape again!

[aprilmayjune]

Him... especially after having children!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Dh is hot to me. He works out 6 times a week and has zero body fat. Age 41, more pepper than salt hair, beautiful eyes and a warm smile that still melts me. I have no idea if he's attractive to other women. Really.
But I, on the other hand, am beautiful. Honest to God, I'm the prettiest girl in the room 99% of the time. Not hottest/sexiest, but the prettiest.

oh - So you're saying you don't go out much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure but I know I have a much better personality. It's the fact that my husband is an ass that makes our marriage suffer.

This made me laugh! Quote of the Day, for sure.

My husband is quite eye-catching, but I'm much more interesting. [Sorry, hon.] We are both charismatic and attractive though. And, I think when we are out together (all three of us) we make quite the impact as a family. Then again, maybe DS is the draw there?

OP, please share the underlying issue. Why is this causing a rift in your relationship? Jealousy, self-esteem,...? Whatever it is, I wish you luck on resolving it.

[Anonymous]

Are you seriously that shallow?

That is SO sad and I feel sorry for you both that you have such a sad, shallow marriage.

Beauty comes from within and true love is based on feelings. NOT looks...

[Anonymous]

Ha, I'll play. I'm not remotely good looking, but my husband is a total hottie, but really I like him because he's about the smartest guy I've ever met. We adore each other and our daughter is gorgeous as she takes after him. I have plenty of other qualities to go around and I certainly don't have to worry about him ditching me if I lose my looks or gain weight since I didn't start out with a ton to go around in the first place. I'd have far more to worry about if I woke up an idiot one day or turned into an ass hole.

[Anonymous]

Both attractive and DH was a bit ahead when we married. However, he gained about 40 pounds of sympathy baby weight and has lost only 15 of that. I gained 30 pounds of actual baby weight and lost all of it. He also used to dress better but now dresses like a bum unless I put in a special request for something decent. It's annoying and damaging to our relationship, I married a very good-looking man and now find myself not attracted to him anymore a lot of the time. Does that make me somewhat superficial, yeah, and I admit it. But what does it take to put a little energy into your appearance? If I can do it, so can he.

[Anonymous]

How do you know how attractive you are? I have no idea. I'm the same size 8 as I've been since, oh, college, so that must count for something after 2 kids, right, even though I don't work out 3x/wk anymore? DH is, er, 40 lbs heavier, but has a really nice build so I have no clue where things fall. That said, it is a nice feeling when I dress up as his 'arm candy' on a date night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both attractive and DH was a bit ahead when we married. However, he gained about 40 pounds of sympathy baby weight and has lost only 15 of that. I gained 30 pounds of actual baby weight and lost all of it. He also used to dress better but now dresses like a bum unless I put in a special request for something decent. It's annoying and damaging to our relationship, I married a very good-looking man and now find myself not attracted to him anymore a lot of the time. Does that make me somewhat superficial, yeah, and I admit it. But what does it take to put a little energy into your appearance? If I can do it, so can he.

I assume you're not a SAHM with school-aged kids and hence 5+ hours to work out a week, and he's not working 60+ hours to keep you in Bethesda or McLean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now THIS is a fun topic. I'd say we are about the same....but I have a leg up because I'm a woman and a cute woman can get more out of her looks than a cute man, at least until a certain age. DH is cute but I doubt at 35 women are really checking him out much anymore.

Men, they have lower standards on who they check out. I'm a petite, thin blond, age 34, still look pretty young and in a bra, my boobs don't even sag.

DH has an amazing personality though. People are drawn to him, and he's successful in his career and friendships in a way I'll never be.

No way - age is much more forgiving to men than women . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both attractive and DH was a bit ahead when we married. However, he gained about 40 pounds of sympathy baby weight and has lost only 15 of that. I gained 30 pounds of actual baby weight and lost all of it. He also used to dress better but now dresses like a bum unless I put in a special request for something decent. It's annoying and damaging to our relationship, I married a very good-looking man and now find myself not attracted to him anymore a lot of the time. Does that make me somewhat superficial, yeah, and I admit it. But what does it take to put a little energy into your appearance? If I can do it, so can he.

I assume you're not a SAHM with school-aged kids and hence 5+ hours to work out a week, and he's not working 60+ hours to keep you in Bethesda or McLean?

You assume correctly, I am not. Quoted PP here. We both work 50+ hours per week. I manage to do a good amount of my work after I've put DS to sleep. Hate me, but I managed to lose all the weight and stay in shape without making time to work out, but if I had to work out to do it, I would've sacrificed one more hour of sleep to get it done.

[Anonymous]

Hate me, but I managed to lose all the weight and stay in shape without making time to work out, but if I had to work out to do it, I would've sacrificed one more hour of sleep to get it done.

Kudos to you. Not me, but I don't have to worry about it as a means to keep up with DH. We're both chubby. We're about equally attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not sure but I know I have a much better personality. It's the fact that my husband is an ass that makes our marriage suffer.

This made me laugh! Quote of the Day, for sure.

My husband is quite eye-catching, but I'm much more interesting. [Sorry, hon.] We are both charismatic and attractive though. And, I think when we are out together (all three of us) we make quite the impact as a family. Then again, maybe DS is the draw there?

OP, please share the underlying issue. Why is this causing a rift in your relationship? Jealousy, self-esteem,...? Whatever it is, I wish you luck on resolving it.

You make "quite the impact"? Wow. Hopefully you are half as good-looking as you think because I guarantee people hate you. (and not in the envious way.)