Are you more, less, or equally as physically attractive as your husband?

[Anonymous]

I was definitely better looking than him when we got married, but now he is better looking because I got fat after three kids. I am trying to lose the weight and am doing ok.....slowly but surely. Now I am one of those people who get told they have such a "pretty face."
I have a waaaaaay better personality though. Peole gravitate to me because I am funny and friendly. He is mostly an asshole -- sometimes he can pretend not to be, but it always comes out after a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Glad I don't have to care about my looks anymore now that I am married. He is average. I am above average. But he thinks we are the same. The physical is not important in our relationship and he has told me he would not care if I gained 50 pounds or even 100 if I were truly happy. We will never leave each other and I will never cheat on him so I am definitely letting myself go, still looking better than him all the while because he has continued to gain weight.

How long have you been married? Did you know that half of all marriages end in divorce? It's nice though that the physical is not important in your relatuionship.

[Anonymous]

Excuse the typo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure but I know I have a much better personality. It's the fact that my husband is an ass that makes our marriage suffer.

This is my situation but most people think DH has a great personality. Which he does until he let's you into his inner circle. Then he treats you like crap. People are always saying what a great guy he is and we seem so happy. Only his employees and his family know the demon within.

[Anonymous]

I look better. We both know it. He is still attractive but he never works out and smokes, so...these are his best years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Glad I don't have to care about my looks anymore now that I am married. He is average. I am above average. But he thinks we are the same. The physical is not important in our relationship and he has told me he would not care if I gained 50 pounds or even 100 if I were truly happy. We will never leave each other and I will never cheat on him so I am definitely letting myself go, still looking better than him all the while because he has continued to gain weight.

How long have you been married? Did you know that half of all marriages end in divorce? It's nice though that tIhe physical is not important in your relatuionship.

my husband had said the same to me but I respect myself and want to live a long time for my kids so I take good care of myself. I've also seen that people change. And lie.

[Anonymous]

I do not exercise but two kids later am the same weight I was when we married. By letting myself go I mean that I never get manis or pedis or waxes, wear makeup other than lipstick, or get my hair done.

[Anonymous]

My husband is way hotter and always has been. I was fat when he met me, fat when he married me, am losing some weight now. But I've always been beautiful to him, and he doesn't have a superficial bone in his body. He's a keeper.

[Anonymous]

we are probably about the same in the looks department, though i might have a slight edge b/c men turn their heads more frequently than women (and i'm an athletic/thin blonde). neither my DH or i would ever let ourselves go...it's either ego, or respect for the other, but we both take good care of ourselves and each other.

[Anonymous]

I'm not married, but I wanna play! I tend to prefer to be the slightly hotter one in my relationships. I'm not insecure about my looks, but I don't quite "get" really pretty guys. (and it can be hard to find a really super hot guy who is smart and funny and down-to-earth.) Just not interested in that. I like the guy to be slightly quirky looking. (I think Donnie Wahlberg is super hot, for example, but Marky Mark Wahlberg leaves me cold.) I'm ok with the guy having a really great body, though, as long as he's not a total meathead always-at-the-gym guy.

Most of my coupled friends are pretty well matched in their attractiveness, I've noticed. I think I kind of expect the female half of the pair to be slightly more attractive. I have a couple of guy friends who are unusually hot and their wives are very plain, which seemed unusual to me. (that said, the women have really great personalities so my guy friends must just be non-shallow.)

[Anonymous]

I'm way more attractive, but he makes a ton of money, so we're both quite happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're both average to above average but we think each other is beautiful, inside and out. Our child is freaking adorable (bi-racial) and is a perfect blend of the both of us. I can't wait to see what my husband will look like as an old man

LOL, what did this have to do with anything?

Nothing. But many who are bi-racial, or who have bi-racial kids, have an almost compulsive desire to inform everyone.

[Anonymous]

Oh yes we BLACK AND WHITE definitely MIXING ON THE absolutely UNDERGROUND RAILROAD do!

[Anonymous]

I think we were pretty evenly matched when we were first married. She was a stunning beauty and I was handsome beyond description. Well, not quite. But we were a decent looking couple. Things have changed over the intervening years. Where I took pretty good care of myself with exercise and a somewhat disciplined approach to nutrition, she did neither of those things and gained a lot of weight. Now there is a pretty substantial discrepancy between my physical appearance and hers. It doesn't help that men can get away with some gray hair and a few wrinkles but we don't give women the same break. Sad but true.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I were not attractive when we were younger - never sought after and not particularly noticed. Oddly, in our 30s both of us got definitely better looking. He's 6'2'' and I am 5'6'' and we are both in really good shape (we like working out). It is weird - my facial structure changed (when I look at younger pictures of me, it is a little creepy how different my face looks). And, he went from skinny to buff and needed glasses, which really look good on him. I am glad this is an anonymous forum and am embarrassed to admit it but it is like we are ugly people in good-looking bodies. When we get home from going out, he will be like "everyone was staring at you" and I'll be like "no....your kidding." He came home from work and was like "this woman just kept giggling around me ...it was very annoying" and I was like "she was flirting with you" and he was shocked that anyone would flirt with him. Physical attractiveness just doesn't occur to us, until others notice. My daughter asked me to not wear lipstick when I meet her at school because the boys talk about how pretty I am. Really funny (and so foreign). I suppose it will wear off just as soon as it came on. Beauty is such a fleeting thing. (And, when I see women trying to hold on to it - it just looks worse.)