I can’t stop being salty even though I know it’s irrational

[Anonymous]

I understand why you feel hurt, but there may be something you do not understand behind the decision about money.

You stop being salty by deciding to understand that you do not know the true reason, and it likely has nothing to do with how much your grandfather cared about you.

[Anonymous]

Ouch. I get it, OP. Yes you’re not owed anything, obviously. But I would still be hurt! It’s completely okay to have genuine feelings over this. That said, after you mull it over for a days, you should put it out of your mind. Be gentle and kind to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help!

I wasn’t left anything in my grandfather’s will when he passed. I have one cousin, who was left a considerable amount of money (around $25000) and I was left zero. The reasoning was that he had a difficult childhood. It could be argued that I had an equally difficult childhood, but that’s neither here nor there. For whatever reason, though this cousin grew up with similar disadvantages, he was catered to his whole life. It just doesn’t seem fair, and I’m salty about the whole thing, even though I know I shouldn’t be. I’ve had the absolute worst couple of years financially and even $12500, had the money been split between us, would have improved my life in ways I’m sure my grandfather can’t imagine, while also probably improving my cousin’s life with that amount. I’m so exhausted and tired of struggling for everything I have while watching other people get things so easily. I work my butt off, and for what!

Now anytime anyone brings up my grandfather I get an awful taste in my mouth, and then I feel shameful. But I can’t help feeling snubbed, yet again. Please help!

In what way was your cousin disadvantaged and you also similarly but differently disadvantaged? How was he catered to his whole life?

This reads like you’re jealous of the money, of course, but it’s difficult to disentangle that from your feelings of jealousy and comparison to your perception of how your cousin has been treated his whole life. Are you from a culture that values male descendents more than female ones?