Where do kids in their 20’s meet potential spouses?

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Anonymous wrote:My son just got engaged to a wonderful young woman. He's 28 and she's 26; they've been dating for two years. They met through her mom, who was the volunteer coordinator at Big Brothers/Big Sisters, where my son was a volunteer mentor.

So young to get married. Statistics are against it lasting.

I mean if you want to talk "statistics," getting married at 36 is riskier than 28, but maybe you're not ready for that conversation.

[Anonymous]

in their 30s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son just got engaged to a wonderful young woman. He's 28 and she's 26; they've been dating for two years. They met through her mom, who was the volunteer coordinator at Big Brothers/Big Sisters, where my son was a volunteer mentor.

So young to get married. Statistics are against it lasting.

Statistics are NOT against 28 and 26! DCUM’s insistence on infantilizing people over 25 is just exhausting.

DH and I got married at 26 and 27, 10 years ago. If DCUM is any metric we are doing better than 99% of you all in terms of marital happiness.

Keep trying to make yourself feel better. It is ridiculously young to get married. Did you both actually graduate from college?

Just like PP, we met at 25 and 27 (not in college but through common friends)and both had professional degrees and career track jobs. We feel so thankful listening to dating problems people in their 30's and 40's face.

Yeah, seriously. We were each 28 when I got married and we had a masters degree and PhD between us! Friends I know who married at 26/27 typically were couples who met in college and waited a long time to actually get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am old and met my spouse the old fashioned way, at a bar 😂.

My much youbger sister met hers … at a house party in Arlington! And my much younger cousin met hers on Hinge.

Sounds wholesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also know some couples who were set up by their moms’ friends, or coworkers.

People who have community overlap tend to stay married. Has something to do with being a part of a village and the commitment to those relationships.
I don't know, maybe it's a tribal reflex.

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Don't pressurize to meet, mate and procreate, let them figure out their time and person. It may happen earlier or later than your perfect formula and its okay because they aren't you, love and life are unpredictable. Don't push them to end good relationship because your aren't ready or to settle for something because you think deadline is looming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also know some couples who were set up by their moms’ friends, or coworkers.

People who have community overlap tend to stay married. Has something to do with being a part of a village and the commitment to those relationships.
I don't know, maybe it's a tribal reflex.

No good formula, staying together and being happy together are two different things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also know some couples who were set up by their moms’ friends, or coworkers.

People who have community overlap tend to stay married. Has something to do with being a part of a village and the commitment to those relationships.
I don't know, maybe it's a tribal reflex.

No good formula, staying together and being happy together are two different things.

It’s best to stick it out and try to resolve differences.

[Anonymous]

I also met my husband on a sierra club hike!

I definitely believe in meeting people at common-interest activities, Most couples i know seem to have met that way, or at work. I don't think I know any married couples who met on-line; or at least they have not told me.

My social group is 26-33.

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Most married people I know met at work. I met my husband at work -- we are both nurses.

Perfect match. We understood the utter chaos of each other's schedules and there was never any resentment of canceled plans, which happened a lot.