Winter is here - waving my white flag at straight leg jeans/pants

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone post an example of a bootie that will work with this style jeans, that does not have a lug sole. I am mid 50s and feel too old for those shoes - i want a “regular” sole/heel, but the shaft tall enough so that you don’t see my
ankles.

You’re not working with booties anymore. They’re done. Ankle boots with those fat little heels and almond toes are dated. Look for long slender mid shaft boots with structural heels and long toe boxes. The ankle is slender and comes up to your shin. Very simple to match with any pants; here’s an inexpensive example of what I’m talking about: https://www.asos.com/us/raid/raid-kennedi-mid-heel-chelsea-boots-in-black/prd/201329765?ctaref=we+recommend+grid_13&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

DP, but I don’t have chicken legs, so those don’t work for me. Oh well. Those are the kinds of boots that look dreadful on anyone who is not super thin and leggy.

So number one, they might look fine. You haven’t even tried them. Number two, you will NEVER have style or feel confident in wearing what you like if you always worry about what’s “flattering.” Younger women DO NOT do that to themselves they way Millennial, Gen X, Boomers do. They wear what they like and is comfortable and don’t necessarily worry about it being flattering. Free yourself from that and you’ll probably find a style you actually love.

I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you don’t realize how patronizing you sound.

Here’s the thing: I love trying on clothes, shoes, getting dressed up. If something is uncomfortable, it’s done. If I put it on and don’t love the way it looks, I’m not wearing it. I wear what I want to and what is comfortable - to me, that’s more about style than what you describe which is trendy. You’re assuming that I equate flattering with “hiding my flaws,” which isn’t the case for me.

Last but not least, most of us older women (I’m 46, solidly Gen X) aren’t “doing this to ourselves” so much as we’re fighting against YEARS of a skinny ideal being forced on us and all that goes along with that. I have worked damn hard to accept my body as it is; you have no right to scold me, or anyone, because of what we grew up with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone post an example of a bootie that will work with this style jeans, that does not have a lug sole. I am mid 50s and feel too old for those shoes - i want a “regular” sole/heel, but the shaft tall enough so that you don’t see my
ankles.

You’re not working with booties anymore. They’re done. Ankle boots with those fat little heels and almond toes are dated. Look for long slender mid shaft boots with structural heels and long toe boxes. The ankle is slender and comes up to your shin. Very simple to match with any pants; here’s an inexpensive example of what I’m talking about: https://www.asos.com/us/raid/raid-kennedi-mid-heel-chelsea-boots-in-black/prd/201329765?ctaref=we+recommend+grid_13&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

DP, but I don’t have chicken legs, so those don’t work for me. Oh well. Those are the kinds of boots that look dreadful on anyone who is not super thin and leggy.

Any kind of stretch boot should work great for women with thicker legs. They’re much more forgiving than the more traditional leather variety. I say this as a pear-shaped woman who frequently has trouble with boots being too tight in the calf. I probably wouldn’t wear these mid-height ones with skirts because they make my short legs look even shorter but with jeans they’re great.

Thanks, PP. Do you have links to what you’re describing? I actually wore stretch knee-high boots yesterday with a dress, so I love that look, but not sure how it would be with shorter boots. If I’m wearing jeans over the boots, I don’t see how what the shaft looks like matters. I don’t like the high ankle pants with mid-calf boots look - mostly because heels are uncomfortable, and I don’t want flats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone post an example of a bootie that will work with this style jeans, that does not have a lug sole. I am mid 50s and feel too old for those shoes - i want a “regular” sole/heel, but the shaft tall enough so that you don’t see my
ankles.

You’re not working with booties anymore. They’re done. Ankle boots with those fat little heels and almond toes are dated. Look for long slender mid shaft boots with structural heels and long toe boxes. The ankle is slender and comes up to your shin. Very simple to match with any pants; here’s an inexpensive example of what I’m talking about: https://www.asos.com/us/raid/raid-kennedi-mid-heel-chelsea-boots-in-black/prd/201329765?ctaref=we+recommend+grid_13&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

DP, but I don’t have chicken legs, so those don’t work for me. Oh well. Those are the kinds of boots that look dreadful on anyone who is not super thin and leggy.

So number one, they might look fine. You haven’t even tried them. Number two, you will NEVER have style or feel confident in wearing what you like if you always worry about what’s “flattering.” Younger women DO NOT do that to themselves they way Millennial, Gen X, Boomers do. They wear what they like and is comfortable and don’t necessarily worry about it being flattering. Free yourself from that and you’ll probably find a style you actually love.

I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you don’t realize how patronizing you sound.

Here’s the thing: I love trying on clothes, shoes, getting dressed up. If something is uncomfortable, it’s done. If I put it on and don’t love the way it looks, I’m not wearing it. I wear what I want to and what is comfortable - to me, that’s more about style than what you describe which is trendy. You’re assuming that I equate flattering with “hiding my flaws,” which isn’t the case for me.

Last but not least, most of us older women (I’m 46, solidly Gen X) aren’t “doing this to ourselves” so much as we’re fighting against YEARS of a skinny ideal being forced on us and all that goes along with that. I have worked damn hard to accept my body as it is; you have no right to scold me, or anyone, because of what we grew up with.

How can you say you “fight the skinny ideal” when you won’t even try BOOTS because you don’t think they’ll flatter you .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone post an example of a bootie that will work with this style jeans, that does not have a lug sole. I am mid 50s and feel too old for those shoes - i want a “regular” sole/heel, but the shaft tall enough so that you don’t see my
ankles.

You’re not working with booties anymore. They’re done. Ankle boots with those fat little heels and almond toes are dated. Look for long slender mid shaft boots with structural heels and long toe boxes. The ankle is slender and comes up to your shin. Very simple to match with any pants; here’s an inexpensive example of what I’m talking about: https://www.asos.com/us/raid/raid-kennedi-mid-heel-chelsea-boots-in-black/prd/201329765?ctaref=we+recommend+grid_13&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

DP, but I don’t have chicken legs, so those don’t work for me. Oh well. Those are the kinds of boots that look dreadful on anyone who is not super thin and leggy.

Any kind of stretch boot should work great for women with thicker legs. They’re much more forgiving than the more traditional leather variety. I say this as a pear-shaped woman who frequently has trouble with boots being too tight in the calf. I probably wouldn’t wear these mid-height ones with skirts because they make my short legs look even shorter but with jeans they’re great.

Thanks, PP. Do you have links to what you’re describing? I actually wore stretch knee-high boots yesterday with a dress, so I love that look, but not sure how it would be with shorter boots. If I’m wearing jeans over the boots, I don’t see how what the shaft looks like matters. I don’t like the high ankle pants with mid-calf boots look - mostly because heels are uncomfortable, and I don’t want flats.

DP - Everlane has some stretch boots

https://www.everlane.com/products/womens-high-ankle-glove-boot-reknit-black?collection=womens-boots

https://www.everlane.com/products/womens-day-boot-reknit-black?collection=womens-boots

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone post an example of a bootie that will work with this style jeans, that does not have a lug sole. I am mid 50s and feel too old for those shoes - i want a “regular” sole/heel, but the shaft tall enough so that you don’t see my
ankles.

You’re not working with booties anymore. They’re done. Ankle boots with those fat little heels and almond toes are dated. Look for long slender mid shaft boots with structural heels and long toe boxes. The ankle is slender and comes up to your shin. Very simple to match with any pants; here’s an inexpensive example of what I’m talking about: https://www.asos.com/us/raid/raid-kennedi-mid-heel-chelsea-boots-in-black/prd/201329765?ctaref=we+recommend+grid_13&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

DP, but I don’t have chicken legs, so those don’t work for me. Oh well. Those are the kinds of boots that look dreadful on anyone who is not super thin and leggy.

So number one, they might look fine. You haven’t even tried them. Number two, you will NEVER have style or feel confident in wearing what you like if you always worry about what’s “flattering.” Younger women DO NOT do that to themselves they way Millennial, Gen X, Boomers do. They wear what they like and is comfortable and don’t necessarily worry about it being flattering. Free yourself from that and you’ll probably find a style you actually love.

I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you don’t realize how patronizing you sound.

Here’s the thing: I love trying on clothes, shoes, getting dressed up. If something is uncomfortable, it’s done. If I put it on and don’t love the way it looks, I’m not wearing it. I wear what I want to and what is comfortable - to me, that’s more about style than what you describe which is trendy. You’re assuming that I equate flattering with “hiding my flaws,” which isn’t the case for me.

Last but not least, most of us older women (I’m 46, solidly Gen X) aren’t “doing this to ourselves” so much as we’re fighting against YEARS of a skinny ideal being forced on us and all that goes along with that. I have worked damn hard to accept my body as it is; you have no right to scold me, or anyone, because of what we grew up with.

How can you say you “fight the skinny ideal” when you won’t even try BOOTS because you don’t think they’ll flatter you .

They don’t FIT me; why would I try to wear boots I literally can’t get up my legs? You think I haven’t dealt with this issue before? Jesus. Stop perseverating on these boots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone post an example of a bootie that will work with this style jeans, that does not have a lug sole. I am mid 50s and feel too old for those shoes - i want a “regular” sole/heel, but the shaft tall enough so that you don’t see my
ankles.

You’re not working with booties anymore. They’re done. Ankle boots with those fat little heels and almond toes are dated. Look for long slender mid shaft boots with structural heels and long toe boxes. The ankle is slender and comes up to your shin. Very simple to match with any pants; here’s an inexpensive example of what I’m talking about: https://www.asos.com/us/raid/raid-kennedi-mid-heel-chelsea-boots-in-black/prd/201329765?ctaref=we+recommend+grid_13&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

DP, but I don’t have chicken legs, so those don’t work for me. Oh well. Those are the kinds of boots that look dreadful on anyone who is not super thin and leggy.

Any kind of stretch boot should work great for women with thicker legs. They’re much more forgiving than the more traditional leather variety. I say this as a pear-shaped woman who frequently has trouble with boots being too tight in the calf. I probably wouldn’t wear these mid-height ones with skirts because they make my short legs look even shorter but with jeans they’re great.

Thanks, PP. Do you have links to what you’re describing? I actually wore stretch knee-high boots yesterday with a dress, so I love that look, but not sure how it would be with shorter boots. If I’m wearing jeans over the boots, I don’t see how what the shaft looks like matters. I don’t like the high ankle pants with mid-calf boots look - mostly because heels are uncomfortable, and I don’t want flats.

DP - Everlane has some stretch boots

https://www.everlane.com/products/womens-high-ankle-glove-boot-reknit-black?collection=womens-boots

https://www.everlane.com/products/womens-day-boot-reknit-black?collection=womens-boots

Thanks, PP! I really like the second ones in particular - will check these out.

[Anonymous]

I resisted booties for years (especially with skirts) because I hated how chopped up it looked. I FINALLY figure it out. And now...none of them will work this new jeans style.

I am giving myself a season or 2 to adjust. I can't just drop $600 udpating all my shoes and jeans in one season. Or I guess I don't really want to. I'll try some lug soles, some cuter fashion sneakers, some wider cut jeans.

Honestly, this is why being my 40s is freeing. IDGAF if I look perfectly updated right on time. I can shift slowly. And if someone looks at my skinny jeans and booties the way I used to scoff and women in boot cut and lug soles in 2011 (when it was skinny and high boot time!) OH WELL.

Ahem. This thread had been helpful. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love straight-leg ankle length jeans/pants. For winter, I just get longer pairs, so they cover my ankles, or I wear booties that more or less cover the lower leg. I will never, ever go back to skinny jeans.

This. Get a pair of mid-height booties that are fitted and wear your straight-leg jeans over the top.

+1
Love these.

I get wearing this in the name of fashion but we can all admit that this looks terrible, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love straight-leg ankle length jeans/pants. For winter, I just get longer pairs, so they cover my ankles, or I wear booties that more or less cover the lower leg. I will never, ever go back to skinny jeans.

This. Get a pair of mid-height booties that are fitted and wear your straight-leg jeans over the top.

+1
Love these.

I get wearing this in the name of fashion but we can all admit that this looks terrible, right?

I think they look good

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone post an example of a bootie that will work with this style jeans, that does not have a lug sole. I am mid 50s and feel too old for those shoes - i want a “regular” sole/heel, but the shaft tall enough so that you don’t see my
ankles.

You’re not working with booties anymore. They’re done. Ankle boots with those fat little heels and almond toes are dated. Look for long slender mid shaft boots with structural heels and long toe boxes. The ankle is slender and comes up to your shin. Very simple to match with any pants; here’s an inexpensive example of what I’m talking about: https://www.asos.com/us/raid/raid-kennedi-mid-heel-chelsea-boots-in-black/prd/201329765?ctaref=we+recommend+grid_13&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

DP, but I don’t have chicken legs, so those don’t work for me. Oh well. Those are the kinds of boots that look dreadful on anyone who is not super thin and leggy.

Any kind of stretch boot should work great for women with thicker legs. They’re much more forgiving than the more traditional leather variety. I say this as a pear-shaped woman who frequently has trouble with boots being too tight in the calf. I probably wouldn’t wear these mid-height ones with skirts because they make my short legs look even shorter but with jeans they’re great.

Thanks, PP. Do you have links to what you’re describing? I actually wore stretch knee-high boots yesterday with a dress, so I love that look, but not sure how it would be with shorter boots. If I’m wearing jeans over the boots, I don’t see how what the shaft looks like matters. I don’t like the high ankle pants with mid-calf boots look - mostly because heels are uncomfortable, and I don’t want flats.

I have these and they fit really well. Super-comfortable and I don't normally like wearing heels. They look great with shorter pants if you decide to give that a try.

https://www.amazon.com/Gentle-Souls-Kenneth-Cole-Plumberry/dp/B093P6NYQW?source=ps-sl-shoppingads-lpcontext&ref_=fplfs&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&th=1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a pair of spat legs for the winter. Sounds like a fit that might work for you.

https://normakamali.com/products/spat-legging-jeans-black-acid-wash-st4227de541511

OMG I’m 95% sure Norma Kamali poster is a troll who posts the most hideous examples of Norma Kamali clothing and accessories throughout this forum. And I’m loving her for it! She makes me snort-laugh on the regular.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do some of you actually wear boots from November thru March? Unless there is snow on the ground or sub zero, I prefer shoes.

I wear almost exclusively boots during those months. They are like winter sneakers to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone post an example of a bootie that will work with this style jeans, that does not have a lug sole. I am mid 50s and feel too old for those shoes - i want a “regular” sole/heel, but the shaft tall enough so that you don’t see my
ankles.

You’re not working with booties anymore. They’re done. Ankle boots with those fat little heels and almond toes are dated. Look for long slender mid shaft boots with structural heels and long toe boxes. The ankle is slender and comes up to your shin. Very simple to match with any pants; here’s an inexpensive example of what I’m talking about: https://www.asos.com/us/raid/raid-kennedi-mid-heel-chelsea-boots-in-black/prd/201329765?ctaref=we+recommend+grid_13&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

DP. I completely disagree about the booties being "done". They look great with the straight leg, ankle-length jeans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love straight-leg ankle length jeans/pants. For winter, I just get longer pairs, so they cover my ankles, or I wear booties that more or less cover the lower leg. I will never, ever go back to skinny jeans.

This. Get a pair of mid-height booties that are fitted and wear your straight-leg jeans over the top.

+1
Love these.

I get wearing this in the name of fashion but we can all admit that this looks terrible, right?

I think it looks great. Different strokes and all that...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone post an example of a bootie that will work with this style jeans, that does not have a lug sole. I am mid 50s and feel too old for those shoes - i want a “regular” sole/heel, but the shaft tall enough so that you don’t see my
ankles.

You’re not working with booties anymore. They’re done. Ankle boots with those fat little heels and almond toes are dated. Look for long slender mid shaft boots with structural heels and long toe boxes. The ankle is slender and comes up to your shin. Very simple to match with any pants; here’s an inexpensive example of what I’m talking about: https://www.asos.com/us/raid/raid-kennedi-mid-heel-chelsea-boots-in-black/prd/201329765?ctaref=we+recommend+grid_13&featureref1=we+recommend+pers

DP. I completely disagree about the booties being "done". They look great with the straight leg, ankle-length jeans.

They’re out of style.