Pronouns? Do you visibly share yours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grammar stung hand from whacks by the catholic nuns refuses to allow me to acknowledge a plural pronoun for a singular person. It stats to twitch violently when I read that plural pronoun being used for a person.

I'm so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not put it in my email signiature line. I do not need my gender to be my defining characterisitc that I put out there for everyone. We took the sex / gender field off of CVs but now it needs to be in every email?

After women fighitng so long for equality, I don't need to let everyone know they should read my email through the lens of woman writing this. I don't have a strong gender identity at all (if any really) so I don't need people to be thinking she/her when they read anything from me. It just isn't that defining for me.

And most of the time, emails are direct and names are used and pronouns aren't.

+1!

Thank you for pointing out what has been bothering me about all this gender stuff that I couldn’t put my finger on.

Gender shouldn’t be something important in the workplace. And sexual preferences definitely shouldn’t. I don’t need to know what turns you on sexually when you’re my colleague. The idea of people leading with pronouns and then broadcasting which gender they want to sleep with around the office (queer clubs etc) is really strange and very unprofessional.

I think you’d change your tune quickly if everyone started referring to you using pronouns of the opposite gender that you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Will not do this.

+1 and one person is not "they"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not buying into this lunacy

+1

[Anonymous]

I'll call you as you dress and appear.

[Anonymous]

No, but I'm a Gen X person. It would seem disingenuous if I bought into this silliness.

[Anonymous]

I do not subscribe to modern gender theory. I believe in gender dysphoria but do not believe a male who feels they are a woman is anymore a woman than a person with multiple personality disorder is “x” number of distinct people. So tired of all this bullsh*t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not put it in my email signiature line. I do not need my gender to be my defining characterisitc that I put out there for everyone. We took the sex / gender field off of CVs but now it needs to be in every email?

After women fighitng so long for equality, I don't need to let everyone know they should read my email through the lens of woman writing this. I don't have a strong gender identity at all (if any really) so I don't need people to be thinking she/her when they read anything from me. It just isn't that defining for me.

And most of the time, emails are direct and names are used and pronouns aren't.

+1!

Thank you for pointing out what has been bothering me about all this gender stuff that I couldn’t put my finger on.

Gender shouldn’t be something important in the workplace. And sexual preferences definitely shouldn’t. I don’t need to know what turns you on sexually when you’re my colleague. The idea of people leading with pronouns and then broadcasting which gender they want to sleep with around the office (queer clubs etc) is really strange and very unprofessional.

I think you’d change your tune quickly if everyone started referring to you using pronouns of the opposite gender that you are.

If it is important for someone else, they can do it. And emails aren’t usually the place where pronouns get used a lot.
For me, I don’t care if people think I am male, female or otherwise when I am doing work and completing a project. I am there to perform tasks and meet deliverable and for me those tasks are not defined by my gender. I don’t care if they think a man wrote this report rather than a woman. And I don’t want to send the message that being a woman is what matters most about me in the workplace and the too I do. They have my name as an identifier and they can call me that.
If someone else feels differently and wants their gender highlighted in the workplace, they are free to do so and I am happy to follow their guidance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not buying into this lunacy

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not buying into this lunacy

+1

+1

I've only seen this nonsense maybe twice in my life. Both times I could never look at them in the same way again.

[Anonymous]

Nope, sorry. I refuse to participate in the generational stupid-speak. You can keep your dumb-ass pronouns to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grammar stung hand from whacks by the catholic nuns refuses to allow me to acknowledge a plural pronoun for a singular person. It stats to twitch violently when I read that plural pronoun being used for a person.

Same here. It's idiotic. You don't get to change the language.

[Anonymous]

My parents gave me a man's name, and I'm a man so, no, I don't buy into the insanity. No one I do business with via email needs to know my gender, if it wasn't obvious from my name. If my name were, Terry for example, knowing my gender still wouldn't make any difference to the spreadsheet or proposal I just sent you.

[Anonymous]

No, never.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised by the amount of folks who don't get that it's. not. about. you.

I'm a woman. I have a woman's name, I use she/her pronouns, I have never in my life had someone look at me and NOT know that I'm a woman, and pretty much everyone that I interact with professionally knows that I'm a woman.

I don't put my pronouns in my email sig so that folks know what pronouns to use with ME. I put pronouns in my email sig so that the 20-something new hire who would like to be treated with respect and called by the pronouns that they prefer can see the example of a leader in the organization publicly displaying pronouns and feel like it's not weird if they do the same.

I don't require ANYONE else to do it, but when you suggest that all allyship is performative, then you diminish folks who are doing any kind of allyship at all.

I do rather suspect that is the point, and while there's a long way on the scale of "grumpy because I think "they" is inherently plural" to blowing up an electrical substation -- it's still the same scale.