Pronouns? Do you visibly share yours?

[Anonymous]

I’m a blue-blood liberal, but I absolutely hate performative crap like that.

Hard no.

[Anonymous]

I’m one of the majority whose name and appearance are in keeping with standard pronoun usage. I don’t have a compelling reason to declare that I am standard issue.

[Anonymous]

I have a female name. I figure that means people would know to use female pronouns, whether it’s because I was born a woman or because I’m a trans woman. A trans man would not choose this name.

[Anonymous]

Do the pronoun idiots realize how they're being offensive?

If you require everyone to list a pronoun, you could force someone who isn't ready to come out to come out. And then they'll feel uncomfortable. They can't not most their pronouns either, because then they'd get on some progresisve's s list as some sort of Trump supporter when in reality they just do not want to reveal anything about their sexual orientation because they aren't ready yet.

Do your damn work and stop caring about who people sleep with in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:F*** no. What a manufactured act of virtue signaling.

Repulsive virtue signaling

I can’t imagine being this enraged over something so trivial. Are you ok?

[Anonymous]

Never in my life has anyone not been able to guess my "preferred pronouns," so there is no reason to share.

[Anonymous]

I don’t, but I work in higher ed, and a lot of people do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do the pronoun idiots realize how they're being offensive?

If you require everyone to list a pronoun, you could force someone who isn't ready to come out to come out. And then they'll feel uncomfortable. They can't not most their pronouns either, because then they'd get on some progresisve's s list as some sort of Trump supporter when in reality they just do not want to reveal anything about their sexual orientation because they aren't ready yet.

Do your damn work and stop caring about who people sleep with in bed.

Curious if there are any closeted people who care to weigh in on this. My general view is that it is totally harmless for me to share my pronouns, but if not, perhaps I will reconsider.

[Anonymous]

No but I would if my employer required it. I don't care if people do or don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a blue-blood liberal, but I absolutely hate performative crap like that.

Hard no.

Same-- makes me barf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, unless you are anything other than heterosexual, it is performative.

I’m queer and I still won’t do it.

Agree and I won’t use them either.

They are so pathetic and cringy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, because I have no problem with any pronouns used to describe me. Feel free to use any pronouns including talking to me in the third person in front of me.

Sorry, forgot to sign this.

Poster Larlo
Pronouns: Any/All

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do the pronoun idiots realize how they're being offensive?

If you require everyone to list a pronoun, you could force someone who isn't ready to come out to come out. And then they'll feel uncomfortable. They can't not most their pronouns either, because then they'd get on some progresisve's s list as some sort of Trump supporter when in reality they just do not want to reveal anything about their sexual orientation because they aren't ready yet.

Do your damn work and stop caring about who people sleep with in bed.

Curious if there are any closeted people who care to weigh in on this. My general view is that it is totally harmless for me to share my pronouns, but if not, perhaps I will reconsider.

I'm not closeted but I've thought of this before. There are ways that "support" can go awry. For example, DH's (very large) employer asked his office to maintain a list of people in the LGBTQIA+ community so they can meet their metrics of diversity outreach. DH is very wary of that. So many pitfalls.

My DS is gay and his preferred pronoun is the one assigned at birth so no issues there. But, what if it wasn't? What if he would prefer she/her but he wasn't quite ready to shout it from the rooftops? Instead, he would have to actively claim he/him as his preference even though it would go against everything that he feels.

So, I think people should do it or not based on whatever they want to do. No pressure. No expectation.

[Anonymous]

I do not and don't care if other people do but I bristle at the situations where it seems to be expected/required.

[Anonymous]

If it’s not immediately obvious by my frilly traditional first name that is obviously feminine, then perhaps my 33EEE bustline and fashion choices and long, styled hair and manicured nails would leave no doubt.

I’m not putting my pronoun preferences on my name tag, business cards, email signature and I especially will opt out of stating my pronouns during introductions on Zoom business meetings.

I believe in calling people what they wish to be called and will politely and graciously follow stated pronoun and name preferences for anyone who specifies a preference.