Accepting the possibility of long-term singlehood

[Anonymous]

I am almost 50 and have been single for 15 years. I have not put any effort into finding a partner. However as I inch towards 50, I am feeling a stronger pull and will likely start to find someone for my later years. There are pros and cons to being single vs married and for this time of my life I preferred single but I think I want a partner (not necessarily marriage) for the next stages of life. How easy hard that will be to find someone, I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn't ask, but it seems often the case that people who say they have "high standards" often just have trouble being romantically close to people. It is a way to avoid closeness while maintaining a righteous (as opposed to dysfunctional) veneer. If you want to be in a relationship, try investigating why you feel you have such high standards.

If you are OP, perhaps this response, and not the supposed high standards, is why you are single.

This response was for your armchair analysis and blanket assumptions about why someone would be single. There are so many reasons but you just boil it down to one absolute. You must be quite a peach, PP.

[Anonymous]

“I am single because I have high standards” = obese aging cat lady cope.

[Anonymous]

"'I am single because I have high standards' = obese aging cat lady cope." -- bored dissatisfied middle aged passionless unhappily married person overcompensating