Dad decided to stop paying child support

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Consult an attorney and absolutely file. If you have fewer expenses now that your son is out of the house you can save it— something tells me a dad who doesn’t want to help pay for college isn’t going to be excited to help with a first home or a grad program either.

Also did he pay according yo the calculator? It may be the case that he owes more than three years. Ask an attorney.

If the Dad was paying child support, the child support was his contribution to college.

[Anonymous]

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New poster. OP, as you can see, you need to talk to a good attorney with experience in child support law where you live and if possible, experience getting back child support where there was no formal agreement in place previously.

Here, you are just getting posts telling you it's useless etc. when people here just cannot know that for certain. People here tend to project their own issues and experiences onto others' questions. We are not lawyers here.

I'd get off this site and get to an attorney ASAP. I'm sorry your ex is a jerk who doesn't choose to support his kid who was smart enough and worked hard enough to get into college.

The ex is not a jerk. Child is an adult. How long does mom expect support? Dad can help his adult child directly if he chooses.

Stopping child support three years early while assuming no costs for the child? Yeah that’s basically the definition of a jerk. I bet he doesn’t want the kid living with him all summer and I bet he’s not the one the kid calls for help paying for books.

This child is 20, not 18 and no, the kid probably doesn't call him for books because Dad is paying mom the child support money that should be used to buy books. He shouldn't pay for books/college and child support. Its one or the other. And, at 20, its his choice.

By the time OP gets to court the child will be 21. It only goes retroactive to the date of filing since there was no order so she'll spend more in attorney fees than she'll recoup.

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New poster. OP, as you can see, you need to talk to a good attorney with experience in child support law where you live and if possible, experience getting back child support where there was no formal agreement in place previously.

Here, you are just getting posts telling you it's useless etc. when people here just cannot know that for certain. People here tend to project their own issues and experiences onto others' questions. We are not lawyers here.

I'd get off this site and get to an attorney ASAP. I'm sorry your ex is a jerk who doesn't choose to support his kid who was smart enough and worked hard enough to get into college.

The ex is not a jerk. Child is an adult. How long does mom expect support? Dad can help his adult child directly if he chooses.

Stopping child support three years early while assuming no costs for the child? Yeah that’s basically the definition of a jerk. I bet he doesn’t want the kid living with him all summer and I bet he’s not the one the kid calls for help paying for books.

This child is 20, not 18 and no, the kid probably doesn't call him for books because Dad is paying mom the child support money that should be used to buy books. He shouldn't pay for books/college and child support. Its one or the other. And, at 20, its his choice.

By the time OP gets to court the child will be 21. It only goes retroactive to the date of filing since there was no order so she'll spend more in attorney fees than she'll recoup.

I’m not sure where you get that the child is 20. OP never said that.

[Anonymous]

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New poster. OP, as you can see, you need to talk to a good attorney with experience in child support law where you live and if possible, experience getting back child support where there was no formal agreement in place previously.

Here, you are just getting posts telling you it's useless etc. when people here just cannot know that for certain. People here tend to project their own issues and experiences onto others' questions. We are not lawyers here.

I'd get off this site and get to an attorney ASAP. I'm sorry your ex is a jerk who doesn't choose to support his kid who was smart enough and worked hard enough to get into college.

The ex is not a jerk. Child is an adult. How long does mom expect support? Dad can help his adult child directly if he chooses.

Stopping child support three years early while assuming no costs for the child? Yeah that’s basically the definition of a jerk. I bet he doesn’t want the kid living with him all summer and I bet he’s not the one the kid calls for help paying for books.

This child is 20, not 18 and no, the kid probably doesn't call him for books because Dad is paying mom the child support money that should be used to buy books. He shouldn't pay for books/college and child support. Its one or the other. And, at 20, its his choice.

By the time OP gets to court the child will be 21. It only goes retroactive to the date of filing since there was no order so she'll spend more in attorney fees than she'll recoup.

No, he’s not, and that’s the whole point of the thread.

To the second bolded no, it isn’t, and that’s why states have laws governing the amount of time of child support.

And to this weird narrative that she’ll pay more in attorney fees than she’ll recoup, that seems like a reason not to waste any time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Consult an attorney and absolutely file. If you have fewer expenses now that your son is out of the house you can save it— something tells me a dad who doesn’t want to help pay for college isn’t going to be excited to help with a first home or a grad program either.

Also did he pay according yo the calculator? It may be the case that he owes more than three years. Ask an attorney.

If the Dad was paying child support, the child support was his contribution to college.

Thats some impressively poor reasoning if you mean the child support the dad was paying when the kid wasn’t in college…

[Anonymous]

Would it make more sense financially to ask school for more aid and explain father discontinued financial support? Asking is free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would it make more sense financially to ask school for more aid and explain father discontinued financial support? Asking is free.

Why should the school (and if public, the taxpayers) subsidize a deadbeat?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He should not pay you child support. Enough is enough. Child is an adult and not living with you.

The only reason their child doesn't live with her is that mom is paying for the child to go to college. Most 18 yr olds don't have the means to full support themselves even if they aren't in college.

And why is that? The kid can get a job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He should not pay you child support. Enough is enough. Child is an adult and not living with you.

The only reason their child doesn't live with her is that mom is paying for the child to go to college. Most 18 yr olds don't have the means to full support themselves even if they aren't in college.

And why is that? The kid can get a job.

The kid isn’t obliged to get a job. The father is obliged to pay child support.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dream of going back to some man for support of a 20 year old. Get another job or something you’ve had two decades to figure out how to support your child.

-single mom

NP and I think OP's point is that their child is owed this money by their other parent, not that OP wants the money just for the sake of her getting the money. But hey, bully for you for cheating your own kid by cutting out their father and his responsibilities just to prove you're not like the other girls.

The dad can help the child directly. Dad does not need to pay mom who can choose to dole it out or keep it and claim she is the only one supporting the adult. After 18, you don’t owe your kids anything and if dad has no relationship why should he pay to support and adult.

It sounds to me like OP is trying to get 'child support' to help her pay for college, which is understandable, especially if he can afford it and she can't. Good luck OP.

Dad can pay the school directly if he wishes to contribute.

Once again, it’s not about “if he wishes” and you don’t make the rules.

Lots of wishful thinking by stepmoms and dads on this thread.

[Anonymous]

You can apply online.

https://cssd.dc.gov/

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Consult an attorney and absolutely file. If you have fewer expenses now that your son is out of the house you can save it— something tells me a dad who doesn’t want to help pay for college isn’t going to be excited to help with a first home or a grad program either.

Also did he pay according yo the calculator? It may be the case that he owes more than three years. Ask an attorney.

If the Dad was paying child support, the child support was his contribution to college.

Uh, no. That child support was his contribution to the child's care and upkeep during the YEAR HE PAID IT.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dream of going back to some man for support of a 20 year old. Get another job or something you’ve had two decades to figure out how to support your child.

-single mom

NP and I think OP's point is that their child is owed this money by their other parent, not that OP wants the money just for the sake of her getting the money. But hey, bully for you for cheating your own kid by cutting out their father and his responsibilities just to prove you're not like the other girls.

The dad can help the child directly. Dad does not need to pay mom who can choose to dole it out or keep it and claim she is the only one supporting the adult. After 18, you don’t owe your kids anything and if dad has no relationship why should he pay to support and adult.

It sounds to me like OP is trying to get 'child support' to help her pay for college, which is understandable, especially if he can afford it and she can't. Good luck OP.

Dad can pay the school directly if he wishes to contribute.

Once again, it’s not about “if he wishes” and you don’t make the rules.

Lots of wishful thinking by stepmoms and dads on this thread.

A lot of denial by deadbeats hoping to get out of three years of payment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Consult an attorney and absolutely file. If you have fewer expenses now that your son is out of the house you can save it— something tells me a dad who doesn’t want to help pay for college isn’t going to be excited to help with a first home or a grad program either.

Also did he pay according yo the calculator? It may be the case that he owes more than three years. Ask an attorney.

If the Dad was paying child support, the child support was his contribution to college.

Uh, no. That child support was his contribution to the child's care and upkeep during the YEAR HE PAID IT.

And he paid through age 18 which is reasonable. If he paid when child was in college money should go to school as child is not home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dream of going back to some man for support of a 20 year old. Get another job or something you’ve had two decades to figure out how to support your child.

-single mom

NP and I think OP's point is that their child is owed this money by their other parent, not that OP wants the money just for the sake of her getting the money. But hey, bully for you for cheating your own kid by cutting out their father and his responsibilities just to prove you're not like the other girls.

The dad can help the child directly. Dad does not need to pay mom who can choose to dole it out or keep it and claim she is the only one supporting the adult. After 18, you don’t owe your kids anything and if dad has no relationship why should he pay to support and adult.

It sounds to me like OP is trying to get 'child support' to help her pay for college, which is understandable, especially if he can afford it and she can't. Good luck OP.

Dad can pay the school directly if he wishes to contribute.

Once again, it’s not about “if he wishes” and you don’t make the rules.

Lots of wishful thinking by stepmoms and dads on this thread.

A lot of denial by deadbeats hoping to get out of three years of payment.

He is not a deadbeat. Child is an adult.