Dad decided to stop paying child support

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dream of going back to some man for support of a 20 year old. Get another job or something you’ve had two decades to figure out how to support your child.

-single mom

NP and I think OP's point is that their child is owed this money by their other parent, not that OP wants the money just for the sake of her getting the money. But hey, bully for you for cheating your own kid by cutting out their father and his responsibilities just to prove you're not like the other girls.

If OP was concerned about that she has had years to get an official document that speaks to their support structure. She didn’t. I’m not trying to be a “cool girl”, I’m just efficient and she’s better off saving her lawyer fees, IMO.

Dad supported the child as a child. Child is an adult and can work it out with dad.

[Anonymous]

You probably need to consult with a lawyer. I don't know if you can get a child support order for someone over 18, if they didn't already have one. Just pay a lawyer a consult fee and find out.

[Anonymous]

Child support ends at 18 in Virginia

[Anonymous]

Feel lucky that you got unsecured, voluntary child support for so many years, seeing your kid to adulthood. Hopefully Dad can pony up EFC for college if possible. At this point it seems between them and not you. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Child support ends at 18 in Virginia

Child support ends at 21 in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Child support ends at 18 in Virginia

Child support ends at 21 in DC.

Child support depends on the order and situation as well as the state. OP does not have a court order so its not real child support. And, it ends when Dad decides it ends. OP is misleading as she's said he wasn't helping with college when he was via child support/monthly payment. She wants Dad to pay for college and child support which is not reasonable. It should be one or the other but it also depends on the relationship. Kids are not owed support when they are adults. Dad can pay the college directly and give child money or pay for needs and not go through Mom. Mom is looking for help with her expenses however that's absurd he pay a portion of the rent when child is only there 2 months a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Child support ends at 18 in Virginia

Child support ends at 21 in DC.

Child support depends on the order and situation as well as the state. OP does not have a court order so its not real child support. And, it ends when Dad decides it ends. OP is misleading as she's said he wasn't helping with college when he was via child support/monthly payment. She wants Dad to pay for college and child support which is not reasonable. It should be one or the other but it also depends on the relationship. Kids are not owed support when they are adults. Dad can pay the college directly and give child money or pay for needs and not go through Mom. Mom is looking for help with her expenses however that's absurd he pay a portion of the rent when child is only there 2 months a year.

Their jurisdiction says otherwise. But if there was no legal CS order, I'd drop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Child support ends at 18 in Virginia

Child support ends at 21 in DC.

Child support depends on the order and situation as well as the state. OP does not have a court order so its not real child support. And, it ends when Dad decides it ends. OP is misleading as she's said he wasn't helping with college when he was via child support/monthly payment. She wants Dad to pay for college and child support which is not reasonable. It should be one or the other but it also depends on the relationship. Kids are not owed support when they are adults. Dad can pay the college directly and give child money or pay for needs and not go through Mom. Mom is looking for help with her expenses however that's absurd he pay a portion of the rent when child is only there 2 months a year.

Their jurisdiction says otherwise. But if there was no legal CS order, I'd drop it.

Actually, no it doesn't because Mom wanted CS under the table for all these years and there is no order. Dad owes Mom nothing.

[Anonymous]

You're going to spend more money in attorney fees than what you will get at this point. He outmaneuvered you, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're going to spend more money in attorney fees than what you will get at this point. He outmaneuvered you, lol.

She probably thought she was being smart to hide the money so when she applied for colleges, activities, or what ever, there is no documented support, she can claim she didn't get any and play low income.

[Anonymous]

New poster. OP, as you can see, you need to talk to a good attorney with experience in child support law where you live and if possible, experience getting back child support where there was no formal agreement in place previously.

Here, you are just getting posts telling you it's useless etc. when people here just cannot know that for certain. People here tend to project their own issues and experiences onto others' questions. We are not lawyers here.

I'd get off this site and get to an attorney ASAP. I'm sorry your ex is a jerk who doesn't choose to support his kid who was smart enough and worked hard enough to get into college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're going to spend more money in attorney fees than what you will get at this point. He outmaneuvered you, lol.

She probably thought she was being smart to hide the money so when she applied for colleges, activities, or what ever, there is no documented support, she can claim she didn't get any and play low income.

Wow. Concocting a fantasy scenario where OP is the big bad villain. Based on absolutely nothing she has said in her post. Sorry if this is what happened to you, poor victim PP, but you're just projecting your own anger and issues onto the OP. You have zero idea why she and the ex did not have a formal support agreement or why she's seeking one now. But enjoy your fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Child support ends at 18 in Virginia

Child support ends at 21 in DC.

Child support depends on the order and situation as well as the state. OP does not have a court order so its not real child support. And, it ends when Dad decides it ends. OP is misleading as she's said he wasn't helping with college when he was via child support/monthly payment. She wants Dad to pay for college and child support which is not reasonable. It should be one or the other but it also depends on the relationship. Kids are not owed support when they are adults. Dad can pay the college directly and give child money or pay for needs and not go through Mom. Mom is looking for help with her expenses however that's absurd he pay a portion of the rent when child is only there 2 months a year.

Their jurisdiction says otherwise. But if there was no legal CS order, I'd drop it.

Actually, no it doesn't because Mom wanted CS under the table for all these years and there is no order. Dad owes Mom nothing.

Bet you're a deadbeat dad, and bet your kids think you're a real peach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

New poster. OP, as you can see, you need to talk to a good attorney with experience in child support law where you live and if possible, experience getting back child support where there was no formal agreement in place previously.

Here, you are just getting posts telling you it's useless etc. when people here just cannot know that for certain. People here tend to project their own issues and experiences onto others' questions. We are not lawyers here.

I'd get off this site and get to an attorney ASAP. I'm sorry your ex is a jerk who doesn't choose to support his kid who was smart enough and worked hard enough to get into college.

The ex is not a jerk. Child is an adult. How long does mom expect support? Dad can help his adult child directly if he chooses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL you want child support for a 20-year-old?

The 19 or 20 year old is a full time student. FAFSA expects that age group to be supported by parents.
If Dad was doing the right thing. The parents could alternate who claims the young man on their taxes.