Dad decided to stop paying child support

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dream of going back to some man for support of a 20 year old. Get another job or something you’ve had two decades to figure out how to support your child.

-single mom

No one cares what you, random person on the internet claiming to be a single mom, “wouldn’t dream of.” The law says the FATHER owes child support until 21

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should not pay you child support. Enough is enough. Child is an adult and not living with you.

The law disagrees with your opinion.

[Anonymous]

I would talk to my son and describe the situation. Then ask what he thinks should be done. File or try to make it on our own, both contributing as much as we can.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dream of going back to some man for support of a 20 year old. Get another job or something you’ve had two decades to figure out how to support your child.

-single mom

NP and I think OP's point is that their child is owed this money by their other parent, not that OP wants the money just for the sake of her getting the money. But hey, bully for you for cheating your own kid by cutting out their father and his responsibilities just to prove you're not like the other girls.

The dad can help the child directly. Dad does not need to pay mom who can choose to dole it out or keep it and claim she is the only one supporting the adult. After 18, you don’t owe your kids anything and if dad has no relationship why should he pay to support and adult.

It sounds to me like OP is trying to get 'child support' to help her pay for college, which is understandable, especially if he can afford it and she can't. Good luck OP.

Dad can pay the school directly if he wishes to contribute.

Once again, it’s not about “if he wishes” and you don’t make the rules.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dream of going back to some man for support of a 20 year old. Get another job or something you’ve had two decades to figure out how to support your child.

-single mom

NP and I think OP's point is that their child is owed this money by their other parent, not that OP wants the money just for the sake of her getting the money. But hey, bully for you for cheating your own kid by cutting out their father and his responsibilities just to prove you're not like the other girls.

The dad can help the child directly. Dad does not need to pay mom who can choose to dole it out or keep it and claim she is the only one supporting the adult. After 18, you don’t owe your kids anything and if dad has no relationship why should he pay to support and adult.

It sounds to me like OP is trying to get 'child support' to help her pay for college, which is understandable, especially if he can afford it and she can't. Good luck OP.

Dad can pay the school directly if he wishes to contribute.

Once again, it’s not about “if he wishes” and you don’t make the rules.

Op choose not to follow the rules all along. Child is an adult. There are no rules. She can go to court but it’s unlikely a judge would order it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dream of going back to some man for support of a 20 year old. Get another job or something you’ve had two decades to figure out how to support your child.

-single mom

No one cares what you, random person on the internet claiming to be a single mom, “wouldn’t dream of.” The law says the FATHER owes child support until 21

The law is per court order. There is no order. Dad owes nothing. Dad has paid all along. Enough is enough. Child no longer lives with mom or is a child. A 20 year old is almost 21.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:LOL you want child support for a 20-year-old?

The 19 or 20 year old is a full time student. FAFSA expects that age group to be supported by parents.
If Dad was doing the right thing. The parents could alternate who claims the young man on their taxes.

Not true at all. Mom probably claimed no support to game the system. He can pay for child’s needs directly. Mom does not need to manage it.

[Anonymous]

Forget the whole thing. Your son is an adult.

[Anonymous]

FASFA lives in a dream word. My parents gave me nothing at that age nor did they claim me on their taxes. I got a lot of grants and some manageable loans.

[Anonymous]

The adult child needs a job.

[Anonymous]

Consult an attorney and absolutely file. If you have fewer expenses now that your son is out of the house you can save it— something tells me a dad who doesn’t want to help pay for college isn’t going to be excited to help with a first home or a grad program either.

Also did he pay according yo the calculator? It may be the case that he owes more than three years. Ask an attorney.

[Anonymous]

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New poster. OP, as you can see, you need to talk to a good attorney with experience in child support law where you live and if possible, experience getting back child support where there was no formal agreement in place previously.

Here, you are just getting posts telling you it's useless etc. when people here just cannot know that for certain. People here tend to project their own issues and experiences onto others' questions. We are not lawyers here.

I'd get off this site and get to an attorney ASAP. I'm sorry your ex is a jerk who doesn't choose to support his kid who was smart enough and worked hard enough to get into college.

The ex is not a jerk. Child is an adult. How long does mom expect support? Dad can help his adult child directly if he chooses.

Stopping child support three years early while assuming no costs for the child? Yeah that’s basically the definition of a jerk. I bet he doesn’t want the kid living with him all summer and I bet he’s not the one the kid calls for help paying for books.

[Anonymous]

I see all the angry incels found this thread. OP, ignore anyone who says anything other than “talk to a lawyer.”

[Anonymous]

OP, I believe you can file yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, was your husband even paying you the legal amount all of these years? You could be owed additional back child support.

You should be able to file yourself but might be worth one consult with a lawyer.