Did anyone’s kid have a serious BF/GF when they went off to college?

[Anonymous]

Not quite same situation but I got a serious bf as soon as I started - like the first week of freshman year - and dated him the whole time. The problem will solve itself, OP, and it's a good young adult learning experience. I still had friends and hobbies. The only thing I regret was not studying abroad because clingy bf didn't want me to.

[Anonymous]

Nowadays not many are looking for serious relationships in their early 20's so good or bad all relationships end, partly because of lack of commitment and partly because of changing circumstances due to college, higher education, distance, money and jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nowadays not many are looking for serious relationships in their early 20's so good or bad all relationships end, partly because of lack of commitment and partly because of changing circumstances due to college, higher education, distance, money and jobs.

Very well stated.  Nobody should have a serious relationship prior to heading to college or even in college.  There is a 99.9997% chance that it will fail.

I started my college life at UVA in 2003 broke off with my HS girlfriend, who also attended UVA, because I knew there would be so many temptations in college that it would be impossible for me to be faithful to her, and that it wouldn't be fair to her.  I was so glad I did because as a recruited athlete @UVA, I hooked up with so many ladies there that I lost count.  Almost every fresh meat, freshman and sophomore, wanted a piece of athlete.  

[Anonymous]

My daughter married the guy she had been with since 8th grade. That was 11 years ago. Going strong. I worried about her not eating around but it worked out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nowadays not many are looking for serious relationships in their early 20's so good or bad all relationships end, partly because of lack of commitment and partly because of changing circumstances due to college, higher education, distance, money and jobs.

Very well stated.  Nobody should have a serious relationship prior to heading to college or even in college.  There is a 99.9997% chance that it will fail.

I started my college life at UVA in 2003 broke off with my HS girlfriend, who also attended UVA, because I knew there would be so many temptations in college that it would be impossible for me to be faithful to her, and that it wouldn't be fair to her.  I was so glad I did because as a recruited athlete @UVA, I hooked up with so many ladies there that I lost count.  Almost every fresh meat, freshman and sophomore, wanted a piece of athlete.  

That's not what i meant. I was stating that current societal setup works against it so these relationships have a high rate of failure. There are people eho make it work but both of them make it a priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nowadays not many are looking for serious relationships in their early 20's so good or bad all relationships end, partly because of lack of commitment and partly because of changing circumstances due to college, higher education, distance, money and jobs.

Very well stated.  Nobody should have a serious relationship prior to heading to college or even in college.  There is a 99.9997% chance that it will fail.

I started my college life at UVA in 2003 broke off with my HS girlfriend, who also attended UVA, because I knew there would be so many temptations in college that it would be impossible for me to be faithful to her, and that it wouldn't be fair to her.  I was so glad I did because as a recruited athlete @UVA, I hooked up with so many ladies there that I lost count.  Almost every fresh meat, freshman and sophomore, wanted a piece of athlete.  

Kind of makes me want to puke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Very well stated.  Nobody should have a serious relationship prior to heading to college or even in college.  There is a 99.9997% chance that it will fail.

I started my college life at UVA in 2003 broke off with my HS girlfriend, who also attended UVA, because I knew there would be so many temptations in college that it would be impossible for me to be faithful to her, and that it wouldn't be fair to her.  I was so glad I did because as a recruited athlete @UVA, I hooked up with so many ladies there that I lost count.  Almost every fresh meat, freshman and sophomore, wanted a piece of athlete.  

Sound like my DD's Ex. Ex told her that 99.9997% that the relationship will fail. They broke up just before they attended the same college. He wanted to live in Frat house and meet girls. DD got the last laugh. He can't get into any Frat house where as DD and her friends can walked right in and partied till 2:00am. Without the Ex, she met so many new people and have a great time at college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Very well stated.  Nobody should have a serious relationship prior to heading to college or even in college.  There is a 99.9997% chance that it will fail.

I started my college life at UVA in 2003 broke off with my HS girlfriend, who also attended UVA, because I knew there would be so many temptations in college that it would be impossible for me to be faithful to her, and that it wouldn't be fair to her.  I was so glad I did because as a recruited athlete @UVA, I hooked up with so many ladies there that I lost count.  Almost every fresh meat, freshman and sophomore, wanted a piece of athlete.  

Sound like my DD's Ex. Ex told her that 99.9997% that the relationship will fail. They broke up just before they attended the same college. He wanted to live in Frat house and meet girls. DD got the last laugh. He can't get into any Frat house where as DD and her friends can walked right in and partied till 2:00am. Without the Ex, she met so many new people and have a great time at college.

It is laughable that you compared your DD's Ex to a recruited athlete.  it is not the same because athletes get away with a lot of things that regular students can't. It is almost impossible, 99.9997%, to have a relationship in college as an athlete because there are so many women who want to sleep with you.