Guy I’m dating matched with a friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, maybe don’t have sex until you’re exclusive?

Seems like a great way to end up with a low libido partner

Exclusive does not equal married. Exclusive means exclusively dating. As in if you don’t like dating that person, you can break up. How many STDs do you have?

Christ, lady, simmer down. Asking for exclusivity before you f**k, then dumping them right after because you're not sexually compatible, is not necessarily better.

OP isn't complaining that this man cheated her out of a ring. She doesn't like what his observed behavior tells her about his feelings. Sometimes behavior is a btter gauge than words.

And you know that plenty of people cheat, right?

[Anonymous]

Honestly no one is a bad guy here but its reasonable for this to sour the relationship. She certainly doesn't OWE this guy more dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly no one is a bad guy here but its reasonable for this to sour the relationship. She certainly doesn't OWE this guy more dates.

True. . I wouldn't want to date the same guy as my friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why oh why do women have sex with men right away without discussing exclusivity and then get disappointed when it turns out the guy isn’t committed. Date for longer than a couple weeks before you have sex. And if he doesn’t bring up exclusivity, and you don’t want to have sex with someone who is having sex with other people, then have that conversation BEFORE you have sex with him.

1. Because they want to
2. Because having sex is part of figuring out if you want exclusivity
3. Because if you're seeing someone several times a week you could reasonably think that your heads were both in the same places
4. Sex isn't a prize to give away in exchange for a peppercorn from the other person

+1. This is a great post. Finding out if you are sexually compatible with a guy is a crucial part of deciding whether or not to be exclusive with that guys.

OK Maybe this guy found out he is not sexually compatible with OP and he wants to see what's out there. In the meantime, he is enjoying the sex he can get while looking for the sex ge wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound immature. You like him enough to go on multiple dates and have sex and claim you want something serious but haven’t got the balls to actually talk to him directly about your relationship and then you’re mad? Please grow up.

Thank you!

I don't understand how you can be seeking a long term relationship and wasting your time on silly mind games.

[Anonymous]

She didn’t say she expected exclusivity. Or something serious. It’s that it’s her friend. Knowing the people your new date is also dating isn’t always easy.

[Anonymous]

Both of you will be better off moving on. He is clearly a man who has options from the apps, so let him go meet someone else.