Mother-in-law odd behavior

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Anonymous wrote:I am assuming your MIL is a different race and culture from nanny? Yes, you protect your nanny. MIL is not to interfere.

Honestly, if MIL is home all day, I'd switch the daycare so that she can't micro manage.

Yes, Nanny has been very understanding but we all have our limit and MIL is too much period. I usually leave Nanny check on the kitchen counter and I have a feeling mil saw it and she thinks it's way too much. Same for the water and electric bills. She thinks we spend too much. She also boils water to drink instead water bottle or using a filter.

MIL sounds crazy but you’re an idiot for leaving the check on the counter and drinking from water bottles.

My expectations was for Mil to mind her business and leave our Nanny to manage the kids period. We use water filter except mil prefer to boil her water.

Shouldn’t you be glad she’s boiling water instead of requiring you to constantly buy water bottles? Why is this even a complaint? You sound stupid.

Water treatment plants in America are so fascinating.

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Anonymous wrote:I am assuming your MIL is a different race and culture from nanny? Yes, you protect your nanny. MIL is not to interfere.

Honestly, if MIL is home all day, I'd switch the daycare so that she can't micro manage.

Yes, Nanny has been very understanding but we all have our limit and MIL is too much period. I usually leave Nanny check on the kitchen counter and I have a feeling mil saw it and she thinks it's way too much. Same for the water and electric bills. She thinks we spend too much. She also boils water to drink instead water bottle or using a filter.

This woman is going to ruin your marriage and the family life you were envisioning if you don't nip all these behaviors in the bud. Why is she living with you? Is that a forever thing? If so, time for some serious talks and groundrules.

Dh and I talked to his mother last night and she listened, told us she was only trying to help, she didn't think the nanny was that upset, she agree not to interfere with nanny job, and my husband has agreed to find either a neighbor or hire someone to take his mother on activities while we work. Hopefully, my mother-in-law time will be occupied and away from the house for at least 3 to 4 hours a day. I want our nanny to be comfortable without mother-in-law shadowing her every move. My mother-in-law will be living with us permanently because her husband passed away a few years ago and my husband decided to bring her over. I didn't think to set rules and regulation without knowing how involved, she was going to be around my kids and our nanny. My husband family is originally from Poland. My mother-in-law is very smart and used to having nannies, housekeepers, and etc. I need her to know that our nanny is not there for her. Nanny is a previous Middle School math teacher, she has raised her own kids, and after retirement, became a nanny to occupied her time and make money obviously. I do not want to lose a fantastic nanny because my mother-in-law wants to interfere.

MiL sounds great and I would hire her as a nanny or cook. Pls find her an Eastern European community here and some esol classes. I hope she thrives.

Btw, my English speaking British relatives UNPLUG all appliances with digital clocks or lights to “save energy bills.” Pita when they houseguest and they’ve been told to stop many times. Seem too stubborn and self righteous to stop.

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Don't forget the washing of Ziploc bags and we're using it until it dies.
I can't stand cheap people.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Your husband and yourself, both of you, need to have a word with MIL.

This reminds me of a time when I went to my Indian friend's house for a playdate for our daughters. She was at work, I had the day off, so the playdate was supervised by her nanny and myself. My friend's mother was also there, and she ignored me, talked rudely to her daughter's nanny, and when I was leaving, finally realized that I wasn't another nanny, and suddenly became really nice to me. It was so awkward. Clearly this person was used to servants and treating them like people of no importance.

IME with South Asian families, people who grew up with household workers treat them kindly and fairly, people who didn't grow up with them are the ones that are unkind and don't know how to treat them.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't forget the washing of Ziploc bags and we're using it until it dies.
I can't stand cheap people.

I can't stand ignorant privileged losers who don't understand that there are people out there that grew up with nothing and had to re-use the items they had because they didn't have the money to buy a new disposable item every day.

It was earth day this week, PP, didn't anyone teach out the concepts of re-use, reduce, recycle? You sound like a bad person.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't forget the washing of Ziploc bags and we're using it until it dies.
I can't stand cheap people.

I can’t stand throwing away ziplocks/plastic that can easily be reused. Think of the earth.

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Anonymous wrote:How many children are there? It seems like there are too many adults in the house already. Husband, MIL, and nanny are there all day, every single weekday? The nanny is dealing with a SAHP and a busybody MIL, both looking over her shoulders. I would quit.

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Anonymous wrote:I am assuming your MIL is a different race and culture from nanny? Yes, you protect your nanny. MIL is not to interfere.

Honestly, if MIL is home all day, I'd switch the daycare so that she can't micro manage.

Yes, Nanny has been very understanding but we all have our limit and MIL is too much period. I usually leave Nanny check on the kitchen counter and I have a feeling mil saw it and she thinks it's way too much. Same for the water and electric bills. She thinks we spend too much. She also boils water to drink instead water bottle or using a filter.

MIL sounds crazy but you’re an idiot for leaving the check on the counter and drinking from water bottles.

My expectations was for Mil to mind her business and leave our Nanny to manage the kids period. We use water filter except mil prefer to boil her water.

Shouldn’t you be glad she’s boiling water instead of requiring you to constantly buy water bottles? Why is this even a complaint? You sound stupid.

Hey MIL, stop micromanaging your DIL’s household!

i bet you’re one of those ppl who tells everyone you have a great sense of humor?

I’m not the ones calling people stupid for drinking bottled water. Don’t dish it out if you can’t take it.

People who drink bottled water are stupid. It’s a fact.

People who call others stupid for making different choices are even stupider than they realize. That’s a fact.

Your different choices are killing the earth. People like you shouldn’t breed.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't forget the washing of Ziploc bags and we're using it until it dies.
I can't stand cheap people.

I can’t stand throwing away ziplocks/plastic that can easily be reused. Think of the earth.

+1

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Your poor nanny. MIL sounds like a nut.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't forget the washing of Ziploc bags and we're using it until it dies.
I can't stand cheap people.

This isn't being cheap for me. It's about decreasing my adding of plastic to the Earth.