Small details that make a person seem more youthful

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As usual this is a parade of the deluded, thinking they all look years younger than they do.

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Anonymous wrote:As usual, this is a parade of the deluded, thinking they all look years younger than they do.

As usual, there is always some bit** who is jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:I regularly get mistaken for someone 10 years younger than I am (I am 42, often get mistaken for early 30s). Here's what I think does it:

- Athletic. I used to be a personal trainer and still work out daily. I also walk almost everywhere I go and have lots of active hobbies (biking, hiking, rock climbing). This should be obvious, but the more active you are, the younger you will appear. It's not just that it makes your body look better (though it does), it also give you more energy, keeps you more flexible, helps maintain balance, etc. These feel like intangibles but spend some time watching how people move through the world. Exercising and feeling fit will make you appear younger without having to do anything to your clothes or hair.

- Minimal makeup. Granted, I think I have some good skin genes and my skin still looks pretty good despite not always being religious about skincare (I am now, but wasn't always when I was younger). But even if I had more wrinkles, I think a good quality CC cream plus some mascara and maaaaaybe a sheer cheek tint is plenty for most women. I went through a lipstick phase but stopped it specifically because I think it makes me look older (emphasizes thinning lips and tiny lines around my mouth that you didn't notice if I just wear a lip balm). I also think eye makeup is especially aging on older skin because it settles into all the fine lines. If you have the time to really make it look right, it works, but for every day? You will look more youthful with just a swipe of mascara and a relatively clean face. I have started to do my brows daily though, but that has to do with having light hair and needing some definition. I don't think it's necessary if your brows are already darker -- just tidy them up a bit.

- Keep clothes simple. Nothing too trendy, but I also keep things fairly streamlined. Agree that updated denim is key. So many women my age are afraid of higher rises and non-skinny jeans. I get it, but once you take the plunge, you can see it looks better. My favorite jeans right now are a highish rise with a straight leg in a mid-blue. Classic and easy. With a tee or tank tucked in, a hip-length blazer, and a pair of flats, it's such an easy look that doesn't make me look like I'm trying to be a teenager, but is in style in a way that won't date me. And it's easy and the pants are comfy! There's really no downside.

- Don't overdo technical fabrics and athleisure. I have and wear leggings. I own a fleece jacket. But I do not do head-to-toe athleisure very often. I think actual young people can pull this off and still look young. But once you're in your 40s, you just look like somebody's mom (full disclosure: I am somebody's mom). But a 40+ woman wearing black leggings/joggers, sports bra with athletic top, and a fleece jacket, plus sneakers, every day? It's not that it makes you look super old, it just pegs you to a certain stage of life -- school drop off, soccer practice, Saturdays at the playground, etc. Yes, it's plenty of women in their 30s doing this too. But the point is that it wears different once you're over 40. Putting in a smidge more effort will help a lot.

You do know that saying "smidge" gives away your age, right?

The issue this person’s post misses is that navigating through perimenopause and menopause is the hardest part for women. Me at 42 is totally different than me at 48. It is horrible.

Right?! I was probably at my hottest at 42 and that PP seems to think she is doing awesome for being so “old.”

Hang in there 48-year old PP, you’re probably in the worst of it right now - it gets better.

And mid 50s is totally different than late 40s/50…just you wait. I was looking damn good at 50 (hadn’t hit menopause or close to it)…56 is a different world.

Yeah, I looked younger than I was until all the hormones left real fast. Game over. Whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:As usual, this is a parade of the deluded, thinking they all look years younger than they do.

As usual, there is always some bit** who is jealous.

You keep dreaming, hon.

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Anonymous wrote:Age is in the knees. Walking fast with good posture and jumping up and down off street curbs (instead of pausing and hefting oneself up and down while grunting or panting/sighing) shaves decades from how one appears. Bonus points if done in heels (sorry flat-shoe loving earth muffins). Knowing current events and technology. Judging less. Knowing when to talk and when to shut up. Wit and laughter- even at low brow humour. Lighten the f*ck up.

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Anonymous wrote:I regularly get mistaken for someone 10 years younger than I am (I am 42, often get mistaken for early 30s). Here's what I think does it:

- Athletic. I used to be a personal trainer and still work out daily. I also walk almost everywhere I go and have lots of active hobbies (biking, hiking, rock climbing). This should be obvious, but the more active you are, the younger you will appear. It's not just that it makes your body look better (though it does), it also give you more energy, keeps you more flexible, helps maintain balance, etc. These feel like intangibles but spend some time watching how people move through the world. Exercising and feeling fit will make you appear younger without having to do anything to your clothes or hair.

- Minimal makeup. Granted, I think I have some good skin genes and my skin still looks pretty good despite not always being religious about skincare (I am now, but wasn't always when I was younger). But even if I had more wrinkles, I think a good quality CC cream plus some mascara and maaaaaybe a sheer cheek tint is plenty for most women. I went through a lipstick phase but stopped it specifically because I think it makes me look older (emphasizes thinning lips and tiny lines around my mouth that you didn't notice if I just wear a lip balm). I also think eye makeup is especially aging on older skin because it settles into all the fine lines. If you have the time to really make it look right, it works, but for every day? You will look more youthful with just a swipe of mascara and a relatively clean face. I have started to do my brows daily though, but that has to do with having light hair and needing some definition. I don't think it's necessary if your brows are already darker -- just tidy them up a bit.

- Keep clothes simple. Nothing too trendy, but I also keep things fairly streamlined. Agree that updated denim is key. So many women my age are afraid of higher rises and non-skinny jeans. I get it, but once you take the plunge, you can see it looks better. My favorite jeans right now are a highish rise with a straight leg in a mid-blue. Classic and easy. With a tee or tank tucked in, a hip-length blazer, and a pair of flats, it's such an easy look that doesn't make me look like I'm trying to be a teenager, but is in style in a way that won't date me. And it's easy and the pants are comfy! There's really no downside.

- Don't overdo technical fabrics and athleisure. I have and wear leggings. I own a fleece jacket. But I do not do head-to-toe athleisure very often. I think actual young people can pull this off and still look young. But once you're in your 40s, you just look like somebody's mom (full disclosure: I am somebody's mom). But a 40+ woman wearing black leggings/joggers, sports bra with athletic top, and a fleece jacket, plus sneakers, every day? It's not that it makes you look super old, it just pegs you to a certain stage of life -- school drop off, soccer practice, Saturdays at the playground, etc. Yes, it's plenty of women in their 30s doing this too. But the point is that it wears different once you're over 40. Putting in a smidge more effort will help a lot.

You do know that saying "smidge" gives away your age, right?

The issue this person’s post misses is that navigating through perimenopause and menopause is the hardest part for women. Me at 42 is totally different than me at 48. It is horrible.

Right?! I was probably at my hottest at 42 and that PP seems to think she is doing awesome for being so “old.”

Hang in there 48-year old PP, you’re probably in the worst of it right now - it gets better.

And mid 50s is totally different than late 40s/50…just you wait. I was looking damn good at 50 (hadn’t hit menopause or close to it)…56 is a different world.

Yeah, I looked younger than I was until all the hormones left real fast. Game over. Whatever.

What happens? I want to know because I’m creeping up to the mid-50’s, hit menopause, and want to know what to expect in my face.

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Anonymous wrote:I regularly get mistaken for someone 10 years younger than I am (I am 42, often get mistaken for early 30s). Here's what I think does it:

- Athletic. I used to be a personal trainer and still work out daily. I also walk almost everywhere I go and have lots of active hobbies (biking, hiking, rock climbing). This should be obvious, but the more active you are, the younger you will appear. It's not just that it makes your body look better (though it does), it also give you more energy, keeps you more flexible, helps maintain balance, etc. These feel like intangibles but spend some time watching how people move through the world. Exercising and feeling fit will make you appear younger without having to do anything to your clothes or hair.

- Minimal makeup. Granted, I think I have some good skin genes and my skin still looks pretty good despite not always being religious about skincare (I am now, but wasn't always when I was younger). But even if I had more wrinkles, I think a good quality CC cream plus some mascara and maaaaaybe a sheer cheek tint is plenty for most women. I went through a lipstick phase but stopped it specifically because I think it makes me look older (emphasizes thinning lips and tiny lines around my mouth that you didn't notice if I just wear a lip balm). I also think eye makeup is especially aging on older skin because it settles into all the fine lines. If you have the time to really make it look right, it works, but for every day? You will look more youthful with just a swipe of mascara and a relatively clean face. I have started to do my brows daily though, but that has to do with having light hair and needing some definition. I don't think it's necessary if your brows are already darker -- just tidy them up a bit.

- Keep clothes simple. Nothing too trendy, but I also keep things fairly streamlined. Agree that updated denim is key. So many women my age are afraid of higher rises and non-skinny jeans. I get it, but once you take the plunge, you can see it looks better. My favorite jeans right now are a highish rise with a straight leg in a mid-blue. Classic and easy. With a tee or tank tucked in, a hip-length blazer, and a pair of flats, it's such an easy look that doesn't make me look like I'm trying to be a teenager, but is in style in a way that won't date me. And it's easy and the pants are comfy! There's really no downside.

- Don't overdo technical fabrics and athleisure. I have and wear leggings. I own a fleece jacket. But I do not do head-to-toe athleisure very often. I think actual young people can pull this off and still look young. But once you're in your 40s, you just look like somebody's mom (full disclosure: I am somebody's mom). But a 40+ woman wearing black leggings/joggers, sports bra with athletic top, and a fleece jacket, plus sneakers, every day? It's not that it makes you look super old, it just pegs you to a certain stage of life -- school drop off, soccer practice, Saturdays at the playground, etc. Yes, it's plenty of women in their 30s doing this too. But the point is that it wears different once you're over 40. Putting in a smidge more effort will help a lot.

You do know that saying "smidge" gives away your age, right?

The issue this person’s post misses is that navigating through perimenopause and menopause is the hardest part for women. Me at 42 is totally different than me at 48. It is horrible.

Right?! I was probably at my hottest at 42 and that PP seems to think she is doing awesome for being so “old.”

Hang in there 48-year old PP, you’re probably in the worst of it right now - it gets better.

And mid 50s is totally different than late 40s/50…just you wait. I was looking damn good at 50 (hadn’t hit menopause or close to it)…56 is a different world.

Yeah, I looked younger than I was until all the hormones left real fast. Game over. Whatever.

What happens? I want to know because I’m creeping up to the mid-50’s, hit menopause, and want to know what to expect in my face.

DP. It feels like it's melting. And I have few wrinkles, that's not my problem. Gravity on the other hand... And it felt like it was overnight just recently (I'm in my early 50s).

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You can get all the botox in the world, the best and most timely plastic surgery, have the creamiest most subtle and expensive color, the hottest body and the most on trend clothing, but once you get that sunken hips and knee area, the jig is up even from fifty paces.

I’m 41. I look 41. There’s no fooling and I think that many - not all of you, some people genuinely look young! But many of you are hugely deluded. We age as a species, if we’re lucky. Keep trying to chase your youth, but know that you look like a textbook case of denial while doing it.

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Anonymous wrote:You can get all the botox in the world, the best and most timely plastic surgery, have the creamiest most subtle and expensive color, the hottest body and the most on trend clothing, but once you get that sunken hips and knee area, the jig is up even from fifty paces.

I’m 41. I look 41. There’s no fooling and I think that many - not all of you, some people genuinely look young! But many of you are hugely deluded. We age as a species, if we’re lucky. Keep trying to chase your youth, but know that you look like a textbook case of denial while doing it.

What’s this sunken hip and knee area about?

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Mid 50s and chubby. Often told I look younger. I don't think I look or feel mid-50s. Where/when do people comment on this? At work we do birthday parties and always have new people who are surprised by my age.

No sunkin face, no wrinkles or botox (or anything really, other than sunscreen when planning on a day outside, like at the beach or hiking on the canal).

Confident - I believe this is actually the key to looking and feeling better!

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Anonymous wrote:You can get all the botox in the world, the best and most timely plastic surgery, have the creamiest most subtle and expensive color, the hottest body and the most on trend clothing, but once you get that sunken hips and knee area, the jig is up even from fifty paces.

I’m 41. I look 41. There’s no fooling and I think that many - not all of you, some people genuinely look young! But many of you are hugely deluded. We age as a species, if we’re lucky. Keep trying to chase your youth, but know that you look like a textbook case of denial while doing it.

What’s this sunken hip and knee area about?

I don't know but age is just a number...

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Anonymous wrote:You can get all the botox in the world, the best and most timely plastic surgery, have the creamiest most subtle and expensive color, the hottest body and the most on trend clothing, but once you get that sunken hips and knee area, the jig is up even from fifty paces.

I’m 41. I look 41. There’s no fooling and I think that many - not all of you, some people genuinely look young! But many of you are hugely deluded. We age as a species, if we’re lucky. Keep trying to chase your youth, but know that you look like a textbook case of denial while doing it.

What’s this sunken hip and knee area about?

The osteoporotic shriveling of bones and loss of muscle.

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Anonymous wrote:I regularly get mistaken for someone 10 years younger than I am (I am 42, often get mistaken for early 30s). Here's what I think does it:

- Athletic. I used to be a personal trainer and still work out daily. I also walk almost everywhere I go and have lots of active hobbies (biking, hiking, rock climbing). This should be obvious, but the more active you are, the younger you will appear. It's not just that it makes your body look better (though it does), it also give you more energy, keeps you more flexible, helps maintain balance, etc. These feel like intangibles but spend some time watching how people move through the world. Exercising and feeling fit will make you appear younger without having to do anything to your clothes or hair.

- Minimal makeup. Granted, I think I have some good skin genes and my skin still looks pretty good despite not always being religious about skincare (I am now, but wasn't always when I was younger). But even if I had more wrinkles, I think a good quality CC cream plus some mascara and maaaaaybe a sheer cheek tint is plenty for most women. I went through a lipstick phase but stopped it specifically because I think it makes me look older (emphasizes thinning lips and tiny lines around my mouth that you didn't notice if I just wear a lip balm). I also think eye makeup is especially aging on older skin because it settles into all the fine lines. If you have the time to really make it look right, it works, but for every day? You will look more youthful with just a swipe of mascara and a relatively clean face. I have started to do my brows daily though, but that has to do with having light hair and needing some definition. I don't think it's necessary if your brows are already darker -- just tidy them up a bit.

- Keep clothes simple. Nothing too trendy, but I also keep things fairly streamlined. Agree that updated denim is key. So many women my age are afraid of higher rises and non-skinny jeans. I get it, but once you take the plunge, you can see it looks better. My favorite jeans right now are a highish rise with a straight leg in a mid-blue. Classic and easy. With a tee or tank tucked in, a hip-length blazer, and a pair of flats, it's such an easy look that doesn't make me look like I'm trying to be a teenager, but is in style in a way that won't date me. And it's easy and the pants are comfy! There's really no downside.

- Don't overdo technical fabrics and athleisure. I have and wear leggings. I own a fleece jacket. But I do not do head-to-toe athleisure very often. I think actual young people can pull this off and still look young. But once you're in your 40s, you just look like somebody's mom (full disclosure: I am somebody's mom). But a 40+ woman wearing black leggings/joggers, sports bra with athletic top, and a fleece jacket, plus sneakers, every day? It's not that it makes you look super old, it just pegs you to a certain stage of life -- school drop off, soccer practice, Saturdays at the playground, etc. Yes, it's plenty of women in their 30s doing this too. But the point is that it wears different once you're over 40. Putting in a smidge more effort will help a lot.

You do know that saying "smidge" gives away your age, right?

The issue this person’s post misses is that navigating through perimenopause and menopause is the hardest part for women. Me at 42 is totally different than me at 48. It is horrible.

Right?! I was probably at my hottest at 42 and that PP seems to think she is doing awesome for being so “old.”

Hang in there 48-year old PP, you’re probably in the worst of it right now - it gets better.

And mid 50s is totally different than late 40s/50…just you wait. I was looking damn good at 50 (hadn’t hit menopause or close to it)…56 is a different world.

Yeah, I looked younger than I was until all the hormones left real fast. Game over. Whatever.

What happens? I want to know because I’m creeping up to the mid-50’s, hit menopause, and want to know what to expect in my face.

Your skin gets dull. Your eyebrows and eyelashes start to disappear. You begin to sink or sag in the face. You don’t sleep well and it shows. Your hair thins and changes texture. Your neck widens and your forehead narrows. Weight gain, especially in the belly. Fun.

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Anonymous wrote:You can get all the botox in the world, the best and most timely plastic surgery, have the creamiest most subtle and expensive color, the hottest body and the most on trend clothing, but once you get that sunken hips and knee area, the jig is up even from fifty paces.

I’m 41. I look 41. There’s no fooling and I think that many - not all of you, some people genuinely look young! But many of you are hugely deluded. We age as a species, if we’re lucky. Keep trying to chase your youth, but know that you look like a textbook case of denial while doing it.

What’s this sunken hip and knee area about?

I don't know but age is just a number...

I admire her and agree that weight lifting is the fountain of youth, but this woman hasn’t eaten more than chicken, eggs, and vegetables for years and that’s the main reason she looks this amazing.

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Anonymous wrote:You can get all the botox in the world, the best and most timely plastic surgery, have the creamiest most subtle and expensive color, the hottest body and the most on trend clothing, but once you get that sunken hips and knee area, the jig is up even from fifty paces.

I’m 41. I look 41. There’s no fooling and I think that many - not all of you, some people genuinely look young! But many of you are hugely deluded. We age as a species, if we’re lucky. Keep trying to chase your youth, but know that you look like a textbook case of denial while doing it.

What’s this sunken hip and knee area about?

I don't know but age is just a number...

I admire her and agree that weight lifting is the fountain of youth, but this woman hasn’t eaten more than chicken, eggs, and vegetables for years and that’s the main reason she looks this amazing.

A lot of people eat and drink junk and treat their bodies terribly. Ernestine is proof that self-care works wonder.