Small details that make a person seem more youthful

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Anonymous wrote:Lol push up bras.

NP. I agree that their shape and pushing up looks dated on everyone.
But having breasts sitting really low is aging. Most women wear wrong bras or don't do anything about lifting. Even smaller bust needs a lift.

I understand that young girls don't wear push up bras anymore, but sorry, if you have ever had/nursed a baby you are not pulling off a bralette. I have a friend who always wears these, along with crop tops and giant pants, and it simply isn't flattering even if it is what the 20 somethings wear.

This is so not a universal truth. Nursed two kids and am barely an A cup, so bralettes are fine. The PP who posted about minimizing bras made me laugh, because if I minimized any more, there'd be nothing left.

I’m the minimize poster. Your tiny tits are better than big saggy melons. I have HUUUUUGE saggy gourdes. You weeny rack is better for your back and isn’t as aging. Congrats!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stay out of the sun, wear SPF 365 and sunglasses. Don't be a runner. Walk a lot. Don't smoke or drink. Limit your stress and be generous with sleep. You will look young for a long time.

Best way is to just shroud yourself in a burqa - then no one knows how old you are and the dangerous, bad sun never touches your flawless skin.

PP, you sound like you have been in the sun too much. The sun is not your friend.

The sun is your frienemy. It makes you feel warm and happy only to turn around and steal your youth and beauty!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol push up bras.

NP. I agree that their shape and pushing up looks dated on everyone.
But having breasts sitting really low is aging. Most women wear wrong bras or don't do anything about lifting. Even smaller bust needs a lift.

I understand that young girls don't wear push up bras anymore, but sorry, if you have ever had/nursed a baby you are not pulling off a bralette. I have a friend who always wears these, along with crop tops and giant pants, and it simply isn't flattering even if it is what the 20 somethings wear.

This is so not a universal truth. Nursed two kids and am barely an A cup, so bralettes are fine. The PP who posted about minimizing bras made me laugh, because if I minimized any more, there'd be nothing left.

I’m the minimize poster. Your tiny tits are better than big saggy melons. I have HUUUUUGE saggy gourdes. You weeny rack is better for your back and isn’t as aging. Congrats!

Yeah, when you can support the girls with your belt vs a bra, you're old.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stay out of the sun, wear SPF 365 and sunglasses. Don't be a runner. Walk a lot. Don't smoke or drink. Limit your stress and be generous with sleep. You will look young for a long time.

Best way is to just shroud yourself in a burqa - then no one knows how old you are and the dangerous, bad sun never touches your flawless skin.

PP, you sound like you have been in the sun too much. The sun is not your friend.

It's my friend. I like to be outside. I also regularly get a shocked look when I tell people my real age. Genetics, my friend. Genetics. (Also I don't drink, and am a lifelong vegetarian who doesn't wear much makeup - I think all these things contribute, with genetics being the strongest determinant.)

And not to say that because I look younger than I am, I'm some stunning hottie. And I def look older than I used to! But better than the alternative, knock wood a million times.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thick hair--I can think of a lot of women with lineless faces but skimpy thin hair that gives away their age. Obviously this goes triple if there are gray hairs.
No glittery eyeshadow that emphasizes crepey eyelids.
Push up bra is a must plus girdle if necessary to create a young-looking figure.
White, well-polished teeth.

People are confusing looking youthful with looking, well, something else.

Pushup bras haven't been popular in 10 years. The only people still wearing push up bras are 40+. They create a shape that's just not considered in style anymore, much like it would be weird to wear a pointy boobed girdle today. Push up bras may make you look boob-sy and not saggy and old. But they sure as shit aren't going to make you look youthful. At best they will make you look like a woman of your age. I don't have big boobs so don't know what the answer for big, saggy boobed women is, but one way I'm keeping a youthful look (with my 32Cs) is bralettes and well fitting unlined underwire bras.

How long have you been angry about your small boobs? Decades it seems. I am sad for you that it pushes you to write such things.

[Anonymous]

People have mentioned skin care and avoiding the sun, but it’s not just about your face, so don’t forget to wear sunscreen on the backs of your hands and your chest. I attended a wedding where I was surprised how many women in their 50s and 60s had lovely skin on their faces, but the necklines on their gowns revealed a lot of Sun damage on their chests that aged them considerably. And hands really give away your age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have mentioned skin care and avoiding the sun, but it’s not just about your face, so don’t forget to wear sunscreen on the backs of your hands and your chest. I attended a wedding where I was surprised how many women in their 50s and 60s had lovely skin on their faces, but the necklines on their gowns revealed a lot of Sun damage on their chests that aged them considerably. And hands really give away your age.

Better chop them off! That way they won't tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol push up bras.

NP. I agree that their shape and pushing up looks dated on everyone.
But having breasts sitting really low is aging. Most women wear wrong bras or don't do anything about lifting. Even smaller bust needs a lift.

I understand that young girls don't wear push up bras anymore, but sorry, if you have ever had/nursed a baby you are not pulling off a bralette. I have a friend who always wears these, along with crop tops and giant pants, and it simply isn't flattering even if it is what the 20 somethings wear.

Totally depends on bust size. I nursed for 2 years but I’m small breasted and don’t sag, with a bralette or without. It’s maybe an advantage of small breasts - they age better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love the comments about people “expressing shock” at the ages of your children or your graduation year to prove that you look young. Yes, people are doing that to make you feel good. What else are they going to say, ‘wow I thought you were older than 45 with all those wrinkles!’ It’s just polite to feign surprise and say the person looks younger than they really are.

This is so weird. I know some people do this. But I don't think most do. Not to the point of "expressing shock" and making a big to-do. How odd for non-salespeople.

It's like complimenting someone's baby, even if they're not that cute. Sure, most of us do this. But there's a difference between:

"Oh, how darling!" and "Your 30th reunion, really?"

Vs

"I never say this, but he's literally one of the most beautiful babies I've ever seen. You should get him into modeling, seriously." And "Oh, I see there's a fellowship for women over 35, maybe you can apply in a couple of years. What do you mean? 48?"

The latter is bizarre if you don't mean it, and no, we don't all do it.

Speaking for myself, I don't even register the sort of mild or ambiguous or possibly just polite "surprise" at my age. I'm talking about when people seem genuinely shocked-- or rather, confused-- but not in an over-the-top way. Almost no one is that good an actor, and I'm literally married to a good actor.

[Anonymous]

This is one of those threads that makes you lose all faith in humanity. How can women still be so stupid and shallow in 2022. When will we ever get past this ridiculous worship of youth?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stay out of the sun, wear SPF 365 and sunglasses. Don't be a runner. Walk a lot. Don't smoke or drink. Limit your stress and be generous with sleep. You will look young for a long time.

Best way is to just shroud yourself in a burqa - then no one knows how old you are and the dangerous, bad sun never touches your flawless skin.

PP, you sound like you have been in the sun too much. The sun is not your friend.

It's my friend. I like to be outside. I also regularly get a shocked look when I tell people my real age. Genetics, my friend. Genetics. (Also I don't drink, and am a lifelong vegetarian who doesn't wear much makeup - I think all these things contribute, with genetics being the strongest determinant.)

And not to say that because I look younger than I am, I'm some stunning hottie. And I def look older than I used to! But better than the alternative, knock wood a million times.

Your frienemy, the sun just hasn't ambushed you yet. Usually, sun lovers start turning to leather in their 50's. You go from stunning hottie to sun baked leather to crepe paper.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stay out of the sun, wear SPF 365 and sunglasses. Don't be a runner. Walk a lot. Don't smoke or drink. Limit your stress and be generous with sleep. You will look young for a long time.

Best way is to just shroud yourself in a burqa - then no one knows how old you are and the dangerous, bad sun never touches your flawless skin.

PP, you sound like you have been in the sun too much. The sun is not your friend.

It's my friend. I like to be outside. I also regularly get a shocked look when I tell people my real age. Genetics, my friend. Genetics. (Also I don't drink, and am a lifelong vegetarian who doesn't wear much makeup - I think all these things contribute, with genetics being the strongest determinant.)

And not to say that because I look younger than I am, I'm some stunning hottie. And I def look older than I used to! But better than the alternative, knock wood a million times.

Your frienemy, the sun just hasn't ambushed you yet. Usually, sun lovers start turning to leather in their 50's. You go from stunning hottie to sun baked leather to crepe paper.

I'm te PP and I am 49 so I guess I should go enjoy my last year.

I was never a stunning hottie, by the way. I'm "cute," not hot. So perhaps that's some of why aging hasn't been quite the sh**show for me as it is for some others. It's not like I am looking at my once model-like face wondering where it all went.

Not to say things can't get worse. I assume they will and it'll be hard, and I'll do some fighting and some accepting. What's the alternative?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My opinion in order of importance to an obviously subjective question:

1. Thin/toned, but not gaunt, like a BMI of 20-21, and no flab.
2. Great posture. A ballet background is really helpful here, but if you missed that in your childhood, I think yoga or pilates now would do the trick.
3. Great skin, which for me at 40 is achieved with medical grade skin care, subtle botox that I've done for 12 years now, and I recently added in RF micro needling treatments and love the results.
4. Nice hair. 40 is too young to show greys, in my opinion. I have subtle highlights around my face to brighten it a bit and blend in any new greys, which I just started getting.
5. Minimal makeup. I like tinted sunscreen, undereye concealer, brow gel, mascara, lip gloss, and a dusting of bronzer.
6. Sense of style. I like prefer neutrals, but I think this is personal and as long as your style is current and you own it, then it probably works for you.
7. Straight, white teeth.
8. Groomed nails (I am too busy for the salon, so I just do a light pink or clear polish every Sunday).

You’ve done Botox since you were 28?!!!?

Yes, and at 40, I objectively look younger than my 32-yo sister who's never done botox. I've always done a minimal/subtle amount of botox, and I've done it consistently other than during pregnancies. For me, it seems to have worked to prevent wrinkles.

First, you are only 40. Everyone looks fine at 40. Second, I pity your poor sister being stuck with a nasty like you.

[Anonymous]

People who say you look younger are BSing you. Period. Sure maybe 3-5 years but no one looks 20 when they’re 40+. The one possible exception is women who are very petite, meaning 5”3 or less and very thin. From a distance they can look younger because they have a more childlike frame but up close you can tell

[Anonymous]

For me it’s totally genetic. I have oilier skin that when I was younger wasn’t great Bc of the acne but now is a blessing Bc it means I have very few if any fine lines as compared with my peers my age. People think I have Botox but I haven’t. I also have fuller cheeks, but a thin body overall. My fuller cheeks gives me a baby faced look that also prevents that sallow look many women get as they age. Finally, although I’m 40, I have very few grays and a very rich dark brown tone naturally so my hair is naturally smooth still and not kinky.