At what age will your spouse let you retire?

[Anonymous]

Grass is always greener on the other side. Retirement sounds appealing but if often leads to mental, physical, marital and financial issues. Do your homework to find out how much money you’ll need to retire comfortably, what are the alternatives to spend your time on. For starters, work on your marriage and see why your wife is afraid to be around you. May be you two need personal therapists or marital counseling and work from home situation isn’t causing it but only highlighting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am getting to near retirement age. My spouse has always been SAHM. The last two years I have been WFH and I say in that time if I go on same floor as wife during day it annoys her. Rarely together. Rarely do anything together 7-6pm everyday.

It seems her routine was I leave for work at 7 get home at 7 last 25 years and me being home in day is annoyance.

She wants me back of office. Now she is telling me I should work till 70.

How do people do retirement? My aunt once said marriage is forever but not for lunch. She also put husband on train. To work and have 12 hours free a day.

My brother is older and just retired his wife just assigns him chores for day then goes out. She was SAHM 30 years and same thing.

How does it work. I honestly hate WFH. Today I told wife I had hour free at lunch. She made me bowl of soup, then gave my 45 minute project. I noticed with my father in law my MIL would give him projects or put him in other room in front of TV then pour him alcohol till he passes out in chair.

Is this why men die young? My sister in law literally would ramp up spending if brother mentioned retirement.

I have been working from home for more than 15 years. Husband typically traveled most off the time. I was just thinking yesterday... how I wish he would to work again and be out of the house everyday. My dad worked until he was over 70 (I always figured it was to escape my mom cause the projects she would have assigned would have been worse than sitting at a desk). I don't have any solutions, other than buy a bigger house.

[Anonymous]

You need some activities. A senior center, go visit people, go on a long walks, exercise to keep you fit so you can actually enjoy retirement and keep health expenses down. Maybe find a simple part time or volunteer job. You can even volunteer together.

[Anonymous]

52. Retiring this June. I just got married in October. DH is 59 and will retire at 65.