Am I the only one not crazy about the idea of a nanny?

[Anonymous]

So don’t hire a foreign nanny, people! American Nanny PP here and so many former preschool teachers switch to nannying for the money and joy of having a bond with little kids. They mostly have either AA or BA degrees. There are lots of us out there - you just don’t see us as nannies.

Again, we are generally more expensive but you get what you pay for.

And in defense of the many foreign nannies I know - they all love their charges. Truly love them. You aren’t going to find that at daycare no matter what the daycare teachers tell you. A nanny/charge relationship is just so much more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So don’t hire a foreign nanny, people! American Nanny PP here and so many former preschool teachers switch to nannying for the money and joy of having a bond with little kids. They mostly have either AA or BA degrees. There are lots of us out there - you just don’t see us as nannies.

Again, we are generally more expensive but you get what you pay for.

And in defense of the many foreign nannies I know - they all love their charges. Truly love them. You aren’t going to find that at daycare no matter what the daycare teachers tell you. A nanny/charge relationship is just so much more.

You are insufferable, and seem to be making a compelling case for why many people are not crazy about the idea of a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So don’t hire a foreign nanny, people! American Nanny PP here and so many former preschool teachers switch to nannying for the money and joy of having a bond with little kids. They mostly have either AA or BA degrees. There are lots of us out there - you just don’t see us as nannies.

Again, we are generally more expensive but you get what you pay for.

And in defense of the many foreign nannies I know - they all love their charges. Truly love them. You aren’t going to find that at daycare no matter what the daycare teachers tell you. A nanny/charge relationship is just so much more.

You are insufferable, and seem to be making a compelling case for why many people are not crazy about the idea of a nanny.

I disagree. It’s a valid point due to culture and economics.

And I find you insufferable so we’re even.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are these parks or playgrounds with all the nannies neglecting their charges?

In all honesty, I have never seen it but I don’t live in DC full time.

For what it’s worth, we have a fantastic nanny who everyone thinks is my kids grandma or mother because she looks like my kids.

Well in the VA suburbs they can be frequently seen at parks in McLean and Arlington. They’re not necessarily all neglecting the kids but they definitely hang out in groups gossiping.

I question if PP ever went to a park with nannies. They are always together talking and using their phones. Also when hiring a nanny I asked myself who are these people? Do I really want a short term student (au pair) responsible for my DC? Or an uneducated person from South America? Then if you are looking for someone with real qualifications it’s VERY expensive.

[Anonymous]

Then there was the “I need a month off to visit my home”. It’s not like we are getting a month off to visit our moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then there was the “I need a month off to visit my home”. It’s not like we are getting a month off to visit our moms.

Our nanny’s mother lives in Bethesda.

You all see to share the same mistaken notion that all nannies are foreign born. You all need to get out more.

[Anonymous]

A lot of very defensive daycare mothers on this thread. Tiresome at best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So don’t hire a foreign nanny, people! American Nanny PP here and so many former preschool teachers switch to nannying for the money and joy of having a bond with little kids. They mostly have either AA or BA degrees. There are lots of us out there - you just don’t see us as nannies.

Again, we are generally more expensive but you get what you pay for.

And in defense of the many foreign nannies I know - they all love their charges. Truly love them. You aren’t going to find that at daycare no matter what the daycare teachers tell you. A nanny/charge relationship is just so much more.

You are insufferable, and seem to be making a compelling case for why many people are not crazy about the idea of a nanny.

I disagree. It’s a valid point due to culture and economics.

And I find you insufferable so we’re even.

I love that people are pretending parents don't sit around on phones while supervising their children ALL THE TIME!

(saying that as someone whose kids had a foreign-born nanny that we are still friends with years after the kids grew up!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are these parks or playgrounds with all the nannies neglecting their charges?

In all honesty, I have never seen it but I don’t live in DC full time.

For what it’s worth, we have a fantastic nanny who everyone thinks is my kids grandma or mother because she looks like my kids.

Well in the VA suburbs they can be frequently seen at parks in McLean and Arlington. They’re not necessarily all neglecting the kids but they definitely hang out in groups gossiping.

I question if PP ever went to a park with nannies. They are always together talking and using their phones. Also when hiring a nanny I asked myself who are these people? Do I really want a short term student (au pair) responsible for my DC? Or an uneducated person from South America? Then if you are looking for someone with real qualifications it’s VERY expensive.

You’re simply not the kind of parent who should use a nanny.

I work, but still spend plenty of time with my kids and don’t think there is anything wrong with an au pair or uneducated person taking care of them during the day. I don’t really think it matters for young kids and then kids start elementary school.

I also don’t care if a nanny uses a phone at the playground. I don’t want someone hovering over my kid and limiting their ability to play and learn life lessons. Sure the nanny needs to make sure they don’t get majorly injured or leave the playground, but besides that who cares?

[Anonymous]

I felt the same way as OP until about 15 minutes after our nanny arrived and I could, for the first time in months, just forget about everything for a few moments. 10 years later and I still feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny is the best!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of very defensive daycare mothers on this thread. Tiresome at best.

Huh. I read this exactly the opposite. Tons of defensive nanny moms and nannies themselves. I mean, why on earth would all these panicked posters post about how great nannies are in a thread that asks whether people don’t want nannies. And I have had a nanny for ten years, but I sure wouldn’t enter a thread asking people if they were meh about daycare and talk about how great daycare is. That is the hallmark of tiresome defensiveness. If people were actually happy with their nannies instead of just defensive, they wouldn’t bother posting in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of very defensive daycare mothers on this thread. Tiresome at best.

Huh. I read this exactly the opposite. Tons of defensive nanny moms and nannies themselves. I mean, why on earth would all these panicked posters post about how great nannies are in a thread that asks whether people don’t want nannies. And I have had a nanny for ten years, but I sure wouldn’t enter a thread asking people if they were meh about daycare and talk about how great daycare is. That is the hallmark of tiresome defensiveness. If people were actually happy with their nannies instead of just defensive, they wouldn’t bother posting in this thread.

Yes, you’re said this several times already. OP is hesitant about sharing her space with a nanny which is very different than not wanting or needing one. In a forum dedicated to “childcare other than daycare”, I don’t even know why the daycare moms are here.

You can’t malign an entire profession without getting blowback. Especially from those of us who love our nannies and love what they do for our children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of very defensive daycare mothers on this thread. Tiresome at best.

Huh. I read this exactly the opposite. Tons of defensive nanny moms and nannies themselves. I mean, why on earth would all these panicked posters post about how great nannies are in a thread that asks whether people don’t want nannies. And I have had a nanny for ten years, but I sure wouldn’t enter a thread asking people if they were meh about daycare and talk about how great daycare is. That is the hallmark of tiresome defensiveness. If people were actually happy with their nannies instead of just defensive, they wouldn’t bother posting in this thread.

Yes, you’re said this several times already. OP is hesitant about sharing her space with a nanny which is very different than not wanting or needing one. In a forum dedicated to “childcare other than daycare”, I don’t even know why the daycare moms are here.

You can’t malign an entire profession without getting blowback. Especially from those of us who love our nannies and love what they do for our children.

Actually, I’ve never said anything like what I wrote above in this thread. Maybe someone else did, because of course it is a logical and correct point. And I’m not a daycare mom (as I said, I have employed a nanny for ten years). I’m just not so hyper-defensive about nannies that I freak out at the idea that someone might not like having one. I have had a great nanny experience. But my friend who came home unexpectedly one day to find her nanny screaming at her cowering and terrified child, well, I’m not going to invalidate her experience. It is okay that my friend will never hire a nanny again. I support her in that, even as I value my own nanny experience. I guess you would invalidate a friend who went through the same thing, because obviously never hearing a bad word about nannies as a concept is more important to you than a suffering friend, but I won’t.

It is bizarre to me how much you feel compelled to lash out at women who don’t share your exact experience. Guess what, not everyone is going to like nannies. It does not take anything away from your childcare choices to have someone disagree on the best approach. Stop being so incredibly hyper defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of very defensive daycare mothers on this thread. Tiresome at best.

Huh. I read this exactly the opposite. Tons of defensive nanny moms and nannies themselves. I mean, why on earth would all these panicked posters post about how great nannies are in a thread that asks whether people don’t want nannies. And I have had a nanny for ten years, but I sure wouldn’t enter a thread asking people if they were meh about daycare and talk about how great daycare is. That is the hallmark of tiresome defensiveness. If people were actually happy with their nannies instead of just defensive, they wouldn’t bother posting in this thread.

Yes, you’re said this several times already. OP is hesitant about sharing her space with a nanny which is very different than not wanting or needing one. In a forum dedicated to “childcare other than daycare”, I don’t even know why the daycare moms are here.

You can’t malign an entire profession without getting blowback. Especially from those of us who love our nannies and love what they do for our children.

Actually, I’ve never said anything like what I wrote above in this thread. Maybe someone else did, because of course it is a logical and correct point. And I’m not a daycare mom (as I said, I have employed a nanny for ten years). I’m just not so hyper-defensive about nannies that I freak out at the idea that someone might not like having one. I have had a great nanny experience. But my friend who came home unexpectedly one day to find her nanny screaming at her cowering and terrified child, well, I’m not going to invalidate her experience. It is okay that my friend will never hire a nanny again. I support her in that, even as I value my own nanny experience. I guess you would invalidate a friend who went through the same thing, because obviously never hearing a bad word about nannies as a concept is more important to you than a suffering friend, but I won’t.

It is bizarre to me how much you feel compelled to lash out at women who don’t share your exact experience. Guess what, not everyone is going to like nannies. It does not take anything away from your childcare choices to have someone disagree on the best approach. Stop being so incredibly hyper defensive.

What I find bizarre is that you are insistent and hyper defensive on daycare for your children that you lash out at all nannies. We understand that you can’t afford a good nanny. And that’s okay.