What to do when kids overhear one spouse pushing the other one?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kids are going to remember this, forever. I’m sorry, but this is going to be a defining moment of their childhood. They are going to cry about this with their future partners or in a therapist’s office. I know because you are describing my parents’ marriage and I was the child in this exact scenario. My parents put us through an entire childhood of fighting and then finally divorced when we were out of the house…….. I don’t see how you and your spouse can move beyond this physically aggressive behavior, especially since he doesn’t sound sorry at all.

In many ways yes; they may have ok coping but will not forget.
5 mins of a father physically and/or verbally berating their mother and then lying about it and blaming her will erase whatever good he did the last 5 years. They will remember this moment, and it is a highly destabilizing one for all three of you. OP’s H prob went to bed and slept like a baby.

Is he on the spectrum by chance? Have zero empathy, no emotions, no connections is definitely a competitive advantage when fighting one’s spouse….