When to Call Police on DW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She attacked me.

Out of the blue randomly? There was no provocation?

Would you ask a woman this? No. This proves op’s point about not being believed and taken seriously

Uh. Look at the thread started by a woman about being abused. At least one poster was absolutely asking precisely this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She attacked me.

Out of the blue randomly? There was no provocation?

No provocation beyond her polishing the ff her evening bottle of wine and than bring a nasty drunk whose tongue is too loose for polite company. When she started in about how my relatives deserve to die I went downstairs and she demanded I leave for “disrespecting” her and started to throw things. She hit me in the face with a tape dispenser, hence the broken glasses.

Merry Christmas!

No kids.

No kids? Consult a divorce lawyer and move on with your life, OP. No need for drama or triangulating all of us in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anytime I’ve known someone in a situation like this, they are pretty crazy. By this, I mean sharing about abuse and interested in trying to document their spouse’s behavior.

Anyone normal would run for the hills and wouldn’t be posting on the internet about it. There aren’t even any kids. I’d run and never look back. But I’d also never stay in a marriage where I’m trying to document abuse and video my spouse.

+1. The only legitimate reason to do this would be to gain full custody of the kids to protect them. Even then, it would be worth it to try to just pay the spouse off to get full custody. But OP doesn't have kids so he's just crazy.

The personality disordered like to triangulate; he is doing so with all of us. They are likely both nuts. OP, no need to document anything, move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She attacked me.

Out of the blue randomly? There was no provocation?

No provocation beyond her polishing the ff her evening bottle of wine and than bring a nasty drunk whose tongue is too loose for polite company. When she started in about how my relatives deserve to die I went downstairs and she demanded I leave for “disrespecting” her and started to throw things. She hit me in the face with a tape dispenser, hence the broken glasses.

Merry Christmas!

No kids.

Time to leave

[Anonymous]

Get divorced asap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last night she assaulted me and broke my glasses. Hesitant to call b/c I’ve heard police don’t believe men but I need documentation of her violent behavior for divorce cause.

My spouse is always the one to start the fight - always. A few years ago she threw a vacuum cleaner at me and I pushed it aside and she fell down. I heard through MY MOTHER that she told her mother I PUSHED HER DOWN. We were on the verge of divorce. Since then I ALWAY - ALWAYS - ALWAYS turn on the video recording or mic on my iPhone. It's very easy to do and it records VERY WELL even in your pocket. I have done this several times when I know she's trying to start something just so I have recorded proof.

Also, if you have an iPhone there is a nice trick. You can set up a trigger when you tap the back of the iPhone two times real quick it will launch any app. This includes the default recording app. I have this set to that. So if I ever need to start recording anything (voice only, no video) I just double tap the back of my iPhone and I place it in my pocket.

I'm sure these are good tips for OP who seems to want to prove his case in a divorce setting, but why would you stay in a relationship with someone like this?

None of this is relevant to a divorce in any case. Just separate and divorce. Not sure how this domestic violence is relevant to those proceedings. Maybe for custody but in this instance there are no kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anytime I’ve known someone in a situation like this, they are pretty crazy. By this, I mean sharing about abuse and interested in trying to document their spouse’s behavior.

Anyone normal would run for the hills and wouldn’t be posting on the internet about it. There aren’t even any kids. I’d run and never look back. But I’d also never stay in a marriage where I’m trying to document abuse and video my spouse.

+1. The only legitimate reason to do this would be to gain full custody of the kids to protect them. Even then, it would be worth it to try to just pay the spouse off to get full custody. But OP doesn't have kids so he's just crazy.

The personality disordered like to triangulate; he is doing so with all of us. They are likely both nuts. OP, no need to document anything, move on.

This is really not what triangulation is at all. Smh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She attacked me.

Out of the blue randomly? There was no provocation?

No provocation beyond her polishing the ff her evening bottle of wine and than bring a nasty drunk whose tongue is too loose for polite company. When she started in about how my relatives deserve to die I went downstairs and she demanded I leave for “disrespecting” her and started to throw things. She hit me in the face with a tape dispenser, hence the broken glasses.

Merry Christmas!

No kids.

I have a friend who did something extremely similar to her DH. He called the police that night. They came, took note, told her to calm down. She was mortified but I think her DH did the right thing. It forced her to reckon with her rages and alcohol consumption and it made him feel more covered in case she started lying about the abuse and start fighting for full custody.

[Anonymous]

https://www.montgomerycountymd.gov/fjc/ if you are in MoCo. They are a one-stop shop for all things domestic violence related, from filing protective orders, to housing, to child care, to jobs, to emergency exit plans, and counseling.

[Anonymous]

Cruelty is a fault basis for divorce in Virginia.

[Anonymous]

I was assaulted physically by my wife 3 times over a long marriage. The injuries were emotional, though, not physical. It never occurred to me that I should call the police. How would ANYONE be better off if I had done that.

I think some women reach the same conclusion, even when the injuries are physical. The criminal justice system is not a good place for anyone to deal with most family relationship issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.montgomerycountymd.gov/fjc/ if you are in MoCo. They are a one-stop shop for all things domestic violence related, from filing protective orders, to housing, to child care, to jobs, to emergency exit plans, and counseling.

Protective orders are given like candies, especially if women is the one filing it. I have rarely seen a men getting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She attacked me.

Out of the blue randomly? There was no provocation?

There is no “provocation” that justifies assault. Just stop.

[Anonymous]

OP won't call a lawyer or leave. He is enmeshed with his crazy wife. His only interest seems to be heightening the drama, not attempting to salvage his life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She attacked me.

Out of the blue randomly? There was no provocation?

No provocation beyond her polishing the ff her evening bottle of wine and than bring a nasty drunk whose tongue is too loose for polite company. When she started in about how my relatives deserve to die I went downstairs and she demanded I leave for “disrespecting” her and started to throw things. She hit me in the face with a tape dispenser, hence the broken glasses.

Merry Christmas!

No kids.

Do you do your share of the housework? Give her enough positive attention and praise? Surely you are doing (or not doing) things that contribute to her anger.