When to Call Police on DW

[Anonymous]

Last night she assaulted me and broke my glasses. Hesitant to call b/c I’ve heard police don’t believe men but I need documentation of her violent behavior for divorce cause.

[Anonymous]

1. If you are ever afraid your SO will hurt you, or hurt by your SO, you should call the police.
2. I don't think there's any jurisdiction in the US where you have to show a police report proving violence to show cause for divorce. Just file.

[Anonymous]

Be mindful that when you bring police into your home you are bringing in people with guns who do not work for you and who you do not control, and who have a significantly broader latitude in the use of force, including deadly force, than mere “ordinary” people do.

Be mindful also that if the police believer her and not you, you’re the one getting locked up.

Be further mindful that whoever gets locked up, jails are very dangerous places.

If you want to document injuries, go to the ER.

[Anonymous]

Broke yo<r glasses? Little late to call the cops now and not exactly the best evidence of assault.

[Anonymous]

What happened before the glasses were broke?

[Anonymous]

She attacked me.

[Anonymous]

How old are the children?

[Anonymous]

Please leave the house and go someplace safe.

[Anonymous]

You call as soon as it happens. In some states, both get separtaed and/or taken away, so make sure you have someone who can take the kids for the nigth if necessary.

Make sure your injuries are visible.

[Anonymous]

Get a hidden camera somewhere in a main room - get everything on video. If it escalates again, call the police and make sure there's a report - even if they don't believe you. It'll be easier to press criminal charges in the future and/or divorce if it comes down to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She attacked me.

Out of the blue randomly? There was no provocation?

[Anonymous]

Never

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last night she assaulted me and broke my glasses. Hesitant to call b/c I’ve heard police don’t believe men but I need documentation of her violent behavior for divorce cause.

My spouse is always the one to start the fight - always. A few years ago she threw a vacuum cleaner at me and I pushed it aside and she fell down. I heard through MY MOTHER that she told her mother I PUSHED HER DOWN. We were on the verge of divorce. Since then I ALWAY - ALWAYS - ALWAYS turn on the video recording or mic on my iPhone. It's very easy to do and it records VERY WELL even in your pocket. I have done this several times when I know she's trying to start something just so I have recorded proof.

Also, if you have an iPhone there is a nice trick. You can set up a trigger when you tap the back of the iPhone two times real quick it will launch any app. This includes the default recording app. I have this set to that. So if I ever need to start recording anything (voice only, no video) I just double tap the back of my iPhone and I place it in my pocket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She attacked me.

Out of the blue randomly? There was no provocation?

No provocation beyond her polishing the ff her evening bottle of wine and than bring a nasty drunk whose tongue is too loose for polite company. When she started in about how my relatives deserve to die I went downstairs and she demanded I leave for “disrespecting” her and started to throw things. She hit me in the face with a tape dispenser, hence the broken glasses.

Merry Christmas!

No kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last night she assaulted me and broke my glasses. Hesitant to call b/c I’ve heard police don’t believe men but I need documentation of her violent behavior for divorce cause.

My spouse is always the one to start the fight - always. A few years ago she threw a vacuum cleaner at me and I pushed it aside and she fell down. I heard through MY MOTHER that she told her mother I PUSHED HER DOWN. We were on the verge of divorce. Since then I ALWAY - ALWAYS - ALWAYS turn on the video recording or mic on my iPhone. It's very easy to do and it records VERY WELL even in your pocket. I have done this several times when I know she's trying to start something just so I have recorded proof.

Also, if you have an iPhone there is a nice trick. You can set up a trigger when you tap the back of the iPhone two times real quick it will launch any app. This includes the default recording app. I have this set to that. So if I ever need to start recording anything (voice only, no video) I just double tap the back of my iPhone and I place it in my pocket.

I'm sure these are good tips for OP who seems to want to prove his case in a divorce setting, but why would you stay in a relationship with someone like this?