If an adult invite says no gifts

[Anonymous]

No really means no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do what I feel like.

Which makes you a really terrible guest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are invited to join us for… = You are invited to join us for…

RSVP to Larla… = RSVP to Larla…

We hope you can come! = We hope you can come!

No gifts, please! = No gifts, please!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bring a small gift. I can’t not.

So you are physically unable to prevent yourself from doing something you have been specifically asked not to do?

Are you also unable to stop at stop signs?

Where does your inability to follow directions end?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do what I feel like.

Which makes you a really terrible guest.

“Can’t believe the nerve of my good friend bringing a gift after explicitly saying no. I will reconsider inviting my friend next year” said no one ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.

You’re either a troll or a narcissist.

I agree with PP. you still have to give a gift or cash.

[Anonymous]

How is this even a question??!

Were we all not taught to follow instructions as kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is this even a question??!

Were we all not taught to follow instructions as kids?

I was taught not to instruct when it comes to gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.

Nobody wants the crystal or a vase. And can you imagine if multiple people brought them crystal or a vase?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nooooo don’t.

I don’t want more crap. Really. If you bring me a vase or whatever, it’s going straight to goodwill. I don’t want chocolate. I don’t want wine.

I have a good friend who is always giving me gifts that I don’t want. I’m then put in an awkward position because I donate them, and for the next year I constantly get asked where the gift she got me is. Please don’t put your friends in that position.

Oh my gosh, finally a friend in this thread.

It's so disrespectful to ignore your host when they ask you not to bring STUFF to their house. My gosh, people. This isn't hard. They don't want your things. YOU might think your thing is cool, but they don't want it.

Your other guests will eat the chocolate and drink the wine.

[Anonymous]

It means "no gifts." If you must compulsively bring something, cards are a grey area and the recipient doesn't have to feel guilty about throwing it away the second you're out the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.

Nobody wants the crystal or a vase. And can you imagine if multiple people brought them crystal or a vase?

PP bringing a vase must be a Boomer. They love having cluttered houses. And we GenXers are really dreading trying to clean all of that crap up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.

Nobody wants the crystal or a vase. And can you imagine if multiple people brought them crystal or a vase?

I always bring a decorative item for the home and the recipients always love it. I guess it’s something higher class people do, as I was brought up that way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always bring a gift. If it says no gifts, that really means no huge boxed gifts. Something small and expensive is what they want

No. Not this.

Agree times one million. When I say no gifts I mean NOTHING not even cash. Not even wine. It's not a put on or a lie. NOTHING.

Why you may ask? Because then I have to take mental energy to get you a gift when it's time for your party. Let's just stop this for adults.

This. I feel the same way about Christmas for adults. Please no gift exchanges. i just want to spend time with people I enjoy-THAT is the gift. I don't want to write thank you notes and feel awkward and worry about what to get you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I still bring a gift. It’s just common courtesy. I don’t bring stuff that’s ridiculous though. Something tasteful like some crystal or a vase or something elegant.

Nobody wants the crystal or a vase. And can you imagine if multiple people brought them crystal or a vase?

I always bring a decorative item for the home and the recipients always love it. I guess it’s something higher class people do, as I was brought up that way

Honestly, it's RUDE to bring a gift when someone asks you not to. It isn't classy. It is presumptuous and tacky.Some people really do care about people more than stuff.